Comments on: Say These Three Powerful Words To Dispel Narcissists – Not My Reality

By: Deb

Deb — Sat, 12 Dec 2020 20:55:00 +0000

In reply to Iris. I really feel this too🙂

By: Neta Topor

Neta Topor — Mon, 04 May 2020 21:35:44 +0000

This video was very helpful!

By: No name, for fear

No name, for fear — Wed, 11 Mar 2020 14:25:04 +0000

I am living in a nightmare of an existence…everyone loves him, family, ftiends…but they don’t know him, they don’t see who he is behind this mask he wears in public…
It is now crushing me, my kids..he has isolated me from everyone, I feel stuck in this dreadfully cycle of abuse, stonewalling, daily criticizing, in front of the kids, then , like nothing ever happened..he acts like prince charming. But all of us walk on egg shells until he explodes again and comes after me. I am starting to see acpattern…he starts becoming evil around holidays, birthdays..when I need him like last year my mom passed away, and a week ago, my friend passed away…he’s crushing me, he’s crushing us…right now he is stonewalling me..laying on the front room floor, completely blocking me out..this goes on for days..not sure how much more I can take

By: Patricia

Patricia — Thu, 26 Sep 2019 03:32:06 +0000

I just found you Melanie and this is so helpful I have an 88 year old dad who just today used his long standing narcissism to interfere in my life by coming over (after we agreed he would not) to tell my plumber, who I was paying, what to do! And went into a long…woe is me as I”m so smart even though not a plumber but an engineer…. that I (his daughter) would think not to ask his advise. Oh ….

By: Marian Hordal

Marian Hordal — Sun, 08 Sep 2019 00:31:41 +0000

could you send me your narc in court letter Thanks Looks like that is where i am headed!

By: V.Carignan

V.Carignan — Tue, 03 Sep 2019 22:55:26 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

I’m here to find ways to get out of a narc and abusive 32 year relationship. He used every tactic. Gaslighting is his favorite but he also likes demeaning accusing threatening economic ruin for me homelessness for me (after I had a cervical stroke and was diagnosed with a progressive condition)and vicious name calling. Last night he told me he wanted to kill me and I will never get away as he pushed me. I pushed him back and then realized what he was doing. LONG story about the progression to here… But I have wanted out for years. There is no affection or sex.. He now claims MAJOR mental trauma he recently shared with me. When I asked questions he turned to gaslight. I now do not believe anything he says. I th I k this is escallating. Last year I identified narcissist behaviour…but because of his desire to control he turned it on me. There us no adult convos with him. He avoids walks out of room and begins his attack. Screams at me open a the front door so the neighbors can hear his accusations. I now know he is a prescription addict and fails at attempts to deal with it alone. He sleeps all weekend and we have limited contact now. The uproar yesterday was because he attempted to destroy a antique table my mother gave me the denied any responsibility. He is NEVER responsible for anything. I do all the maint on the house I owned before I knew him. He says its his house now since I don’t work. He ambushes the bank account ad we live paycheck to paycheck demands a 12ok of coke a day and began a cigarette habit we cannot afford. He lied constantly. All this and more. Why am I still there? I’m 66 have health problems ( he has contributed to) and no cash. I want to sell the house but I need a new roof. He WILL NOT fix anything and it leaks in everyroom now. Over my bed 2 days ago. I have made attempts to fix myself. I am responsible to make ends meet ( without $) after work he comes home and I serve him on a tray while he lays in the guest bedroom and eats- this is a daily thing. I blame myself ( not good enough) reinforced by accusations and name calling, blame his drugs…etc. But I AM NOT TO BLAME FOR HIS CHOICES. HE CHISE THUS….NOT WHAT I SIGNED UP FOR. Now that MY kids are all married it has gotten a lot worse. Now I’m hearing about their abuse and I am beside myself with guilt. I worked 16 hour days for 18 years BEFORE I helped him get his job. Now he says I must leave not him and
MY house us now his. I’m to the pint I just want him to go. .I want nothing from him….and if I can get the house fixed I will sell it and the proceeds will help me start over- at 66. I regret not seeing this narc behavior…being scared….helpless. Etc. When I was younger. People: don’t make excuses if it quacks its a duck. Get out NOW. don’t wait til your life is done as I have. I tried to ” fix it” with prayer and everything else.. Cant change a person who CHOSES to hurt others. I’m now praying that God will give me another chance to live. I need a job and a place to live. I may just walk away from MY stuff. But he has a govt job retirement health….and I gave to fight for a house that MY family bought. I have, by MY choice, no contact with his family as they abused my children….I found this out from my son at age 35. I was didn’t see it and I was very protective….never dreamed his siblings were perverts….my son says his sisters kept watch while his brother sexually abused my 6 year old and 2 tear old sons. They are not his children. I now am basically alone. People – get out….you may not know the half of it. Since his abuse has escalated toward me I believe its because no kids to blame anymore. He defends his brother and sisters calling my boy a liar after my son held in for 32 years! I want my stuff and the abuser gone.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 02 Sep 2019 00:39:19 +0000

In reply to Jutta Numata.

Hi Jutta,

Please know that the new NARP version 3 has 30 minute healings that are even more effective and powerful than NARP version 2.

They are so portable that you can do these on lunch breaks or at any time that you do have a spare half an hour.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Your upgrade Jutta, is free and you will have received emails about it.

But no problem, my wonderful support team can help you get connected if you email support@melanietoniaevans.com and explain that you require your upgrade. You will be given the details for your on-line platform where all of these new healings are.

Also for all of your guidance and coaching with NARP which comes also for FREE within your Gold Membership, is the NARP Members Forum, where you have unlimited, lifetime access to get help and questions answered and powerful healing suggestions from the best N-recovery minds in the world.

To access this Private Forum go here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

I hope this helps and much love to you.

Mel 🙏💕💛

By: Jutta Numata

Jutta Numata — Sun, 01 Sep 2019 07:12:52 +0000

I have the narp program. Some months ago I
Cut contact. I stopped and Started narp program I am a normally busy person so I do struggle with that. I want to get through it. How many sessions a week do you think is good? How few will still feel worthwhile? I did first module about six times. How do I know when to move on to Module 2??I got a bit overwhelmed because I don’t have an hour and a half so easily. But if you would be able to answer me, it would really help. Thank you. I know you know what your program is doing is the right way to heal, I know that in my bones!!! My narc is also an addict, and v traumatised. . It was traumatic to say the least. Everything like trauma and addiction was so obvious, until the narcissistic stuff became clear and then it all just hit me what I was dealing with. I’m not in any contact and have been withdrawing proudly and painfully. That’s as far as I’ve got. Thanks Melanie.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 31 Aug 2019 08:27:18 +0000

In reply to Rita.

Hi Rita,

I’m so pleased you found my community!

Awww sweetheart, a person who does that is a needy empty void getting supply off another person. It’s sad but usual for N’s.

I am so pleased that you are ready to heal, please know myself and this community and NARP are with you all the way Dear Lady.

You’ve got this.

Mel 🙏💕💛