Hi Harriet,

I am so happy for you that you have started working with NARP.

In your specific situation, I don’t see any value in sharing your inner healing work with your husband or even your children. This truly is about making this your healing time, so that you can start emerging claiming your true life, that will include your children, that is not under your husband’s jurisdiction.

Harriet I’d love to encourage you to come into the NARP members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member so that we can help guide and support you in your healing journey.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕💛

I don’t live with my husband or children any more. I see my children 3-4 times a week (usually with my husband present) but I live in my own little flat and that is never discussed or mentioned. My husband (still not divorced – he believes that is wrong) hates that I do not live at the house any more. Sometimes my son (aged 10) asks if he can stay over with me and I ask my husband, and he hates it very much when I ask that. My son has only stayed over about 4 times in 3 years. I take my daughter (aged 13) out, just her and me, a few times a year in the school holidays, but I feel afraid to ask if I can do that any other time. My son loves me very much (and my daughter does too) and I am determined to pursue NARP healing and that this will have benefits for them in future, even though I do not know what benefits or how.

I am afraid of telling my husband about the nature of the NARP programme and the inner work I am doing, because I fear he will undermine it with words and tell me that my true healing is to return to the marriage (which frightens me very much, though I still consider it). I feel that I cannot tell my children because I am afraid they’ll be unsettled by it (on top of their awareness of the chronic, physically-manifesting mental illnesses I have struggled with for my whole life) and that they may feel that I am silently accusing their father and their grandparents of hurting me. I am trusting that by doing the inner work I will either be able to show my children a more whole mother, and possibly even gain (from self or others) insights later on about how and what to tell them.

I am also trusting that there is grace in the world because my children are healthy and have beautiful inspiring loving souls, and (since I left) their father has changed in his parenting and now provides them with complete security, approval and validation (as long as I don’t seek a different life, which I have not done so far out of fear of hurting / losing my children).

Do you have any thoughts or advice for me?

Thank you again.

Harriet

Joan hun,

This is so painful what you have been through.

I really want you to know what is so vital here … any reaching out that you do whilst you still feel traumatised will only bring results that add to your trauma.

This is why I am so committed to helping people understand that the first step is ‘heal’. Commit to you. Make your soul and emotions the number 1 priority. Then you will know what to do or not to do and be at peace with it.

From this inner place then the outer can enter to match you … and if it doesn’t you will be whole anyway.

If you are ready to truly heal.from this then NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp is the most powerful solution.

If you would like to understand more about all of this please come into my freewebinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar and to also gain some fast and real relief from the trauma.

My heart goes out to you and I so hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕♥️

I’m so pleased this helped Sean

Mel 🙏💕♥️

Hi Karina,

Please know darling heart you can come back. So many of us literally almost came back from the dead – evennwhen we were told we would never recover.

Please know there is so much support for you in the NARP members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

Lots of love and know there is more than hope

Mel 🙏💕♥️