Melanie, This articles describes my ex-husband perfectly. He is just as described. Now he wants me to buy back from him the family business he took away from me when we split up because he has to go to jail for 4th DUI. I won’t get alimony if the business tanks while he’s “away” and afterwards. I’m discussing my options with attorney. If I buy it back, after he gets out of jail he will undoubtedly try to steal my customers for his new business. I’m probably better off telling him to f-off and find a different job. I’m 71 years old. We were together 27 years.

Hi Melanie
Thank you for replying. Thanks to the NARP programme I am getting stronger every day and will report him when I feel completely ready.
Kindest wishes
Heather

Hi Heather,

Absolutely if we can report and have evidence we should. The more calm and in our power we can be, doing so, the better.

That’s where the inner work is so vital.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Finding this post has anesrwed my prayers

It seems like you’re trying to accomplish something positive here, but it also sounds like you just answered the question that was put to you with a resounding “yes.” With respect, I’d like to add my two cents, which I’m going to do my best to lay out concisely. As a lifestyle consultant myself, a pagan and a student of psychology, I’ve seen that type of harmful thinking do quite a bit of damage. I too believe in past lives, but I think it’s a tad narcissistic and way over-simplified to believe that whatever struggles (and whatever successes for that matter) that one might go through in life have been called in by the individual. That is a really problematic thought process and as I said, I’ve seen quite a bit of damage done to people’s senses of self, people’s relationships with others and their sense of empathy as well as their [healthy/true] understanding that they are simply not the focal point of the entire universe. One problem with the LoA is that if one believe that the individual creates their own reality with utter accountability for everything in it simply by thinking it into existence, that’s a self-defeating statement in and of itself, since the world is made up of billions of individuals with many different thoughts, wants, needs, ambitions and drives. The fact that the LoA suggests that one can draw people and events into or push them out of their lives-in itself-suggests a sense of overlap and therefore negates the initial assertion being made by the proponents of the LoA that it is in fact the individual who controls their own world. We do not live in a world in which we are solely responsible for whatever happens in our lives. What the LoA suggests is vastly different than the simple suggestion that we take personal responsibility and accountability in our lives rather than allowing ourselves to be passive bystanders and/or slip into the role of “victim”. The LoA is a childish, overly simplistic, harmful and self-defeating worldview reminiscent of an AMWay-esque pyramid scheme that can cripple our sense of self, our health, wellness, relationships, sense of empathy and which can lead those who follow it down the path toward developing narcissistic, delusional and sociopathic tendencies if not toward actually developing full blown personality disorders. The Law Of Attraction (or LoA) is an extremely dangerous worldview, both to those who possess it and to others. Balance is so important in all things. Having a delusion ally positive outlook on life is actually harmful. The Law Of Attraction IS harmful. I hope that you’ll consider doing some further reading on all of this. You seem like a good person trying to do good things and it’s concerning to see this system of belief being supported here. I urge you all to do some further research into the LoA and its proponents before adopting this as your way of life and world view. I’d also like to urge caution when talking with people who have gone through or are going through serious and troubling life situations, as it could permanently damage your relationship with those people if you begin demonstrating a complete lack of empathy and understanding to their plight and worse yet, if you’re willing to cast blame their way or suggest that they are either actively or passively to blame for all of their struggles (especially health issues, rape, incest, the breakup of a marriage and other similar issues).

I’ve totally missed the mark on this one. My ex slept with a man over 20 years her senior while pregnant with our child. I’m not really seeking accountability or vengeance. I know how insanely and grotesquely sick she is. I am just not getting relief and release from it. Any advice would help.

Thank You.