Comments on: Taking Personal Responsibility – Your #1 Tool To Get Your Recovery Started https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 05 Oct 2024 13:07:07 +0000 hourly 1 By: New Age Versus Quantum Beliefs When Recovering From Narcissistic Abuse - Path2Positivity https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1274774 Mon, 10 Oct 2022 00:57:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1274774 […] I virtually died till I turned this round with the DETERMINED focus of β€œWhat’s it about me that I can take possession of, heal and evolve?” […]

]]> By: Andrea https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1264518 Thu, 03 Feb 2022 03:51:10 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1264518 In reply to Andrea Moriah.

Thank you for your words- and the word Tshuvah- my ex called me out on this yet I could not align on demand, though I know it must begin with me taking responsibility in the now- the eternal now. I appreciate the timing as I am having a hard time actualizing the shift. Bless your quest!

]]> By: Holly A. https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1252417 Mon, 17 May 2021 16:12:06 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1252417 Melanie,
Thank you so much for putting into words what I have been feeling for so long. I have struggled with feeling that at the core I was just like the narcissist in my life. I now know the difference between us is my desire to let go and move forward, my desire to accept my role (which I knew was there but couldn’t define until recently) and that this experience was necessary for me to acknowledge my own inner wounds. I found it hard to even acknowledge my inner wounds because I truly feel like I had a great childhood. I had to realize that even a great childhood could involve emotional wounds. They only became more painful because I ignored them, invalidated them. All the more reason for me to push myself to validate the feelings of my daughters. Hopefully I can teach them to validate and accept their feelings. Perhaps they can avoid the painful lessons life brings when we refuse to love and validate ourselves.

]]> By: Lou https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1249848 Wed, 17 Mar 2021 06:33:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1249848 In reply to Ann.

Awww you will have to raise baby as your own and not mention the money you won’t see anyway. Let the child grow up without stress. You’ll manage. If he wants to be dead beat let him. Be happy with baby so he grows up happy.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1248682 Sat, 20 Feb 2021 07:18:23 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1248682 In reply to Free Spirit.

Hi Free Spirit,

I’m so pleased you have clarity.

That’s really beautiful that you have taken your power back!

Love and blessings to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’š

]]> By: Free Spirit https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1248665 Fri, 19 Feb 2021 20:59:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1248665 Melonie you have helped me understand so much. When my ex of 3 years decided to hoover me and promised to change his cheating ways (again) I suddenly realised it wasn’t about him changing it was about ME – me not ever wanting to be involved with someone that had been so incredibly deceitful and shallow. It was no longer about the future he was offering me it was about his behaviour towards me in the past. The realisation was a lightbulb moment and you my lovely lady turned the light on – forever grateful

]]> By: Pamela Craft-Jenewein https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1234404 Wed, 25 Mar 2020 21:04:44 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1234404 WOW!! An empowering and enlightening post. Thank you. This reminder is getting me back on track and living in peace and freedom, again. Once more, thank you!

]]> By: LostinLife https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1221998 Sat, 30 Nov 2019 20:03:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1221998 I understand that I have to accept responsibility for allowing him to take advantage of me and that it was because something was “missing” in me or my life or because I was trying to latch on to something, that I entered into the relationship and that it is up to me to do something and stop obsessing over what happened and the what ifs and that I could have handled things differently. And that only I can change me.

But I am finding it very very hard to let go of the anger that he could disrespect me this way, that he could take all this money from me and ruin (financially and practically) one of my dreams and not seem to give a damn. That he can just cut me out his life (and part of me is glad that there is no contact) as though I meant nothing. The injustice of it all. The guilt and anger at myself for allowing this all to happen, to fall so hard for someone that turned out to not be the person I thought they were. That he just goes on his life and world, while mine collapsed. Why should he be allowed to just get away with it – I am taking legal advice to recover funds. And if I am honest I want revenge. I want him to suffer.

It has all sent my world into a spin, left me feeling I have no direction and an empty. No idea who “me” is anymore.

I am interested in the NARP program and have looked at many different “energy” systems etc and to be honest don’t really get them. I have tried Subconscious Release Technique and just thought it weird and stupid, other “breathing” exercises and mediations where you “let go” of the feelings but nothing has really clicked with me or worked. I am concerned NARP maybe the same.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/taking-personal-responsibility-your-1-tool-to-get-your-recovery-started/#comment-1205562 Wed, 11 Sep 2019 01:13:28 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=471#comment-1205562 In reply to Maia.

Hi Maia,

hun, I want to ask you if you are working with NARP? http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Truly it is your answer to the confusion, pain and not being able to detach and lay down and enforce boundaries.

Also, we are there for you in the NARP members fournm to grant you powerful and fast support http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

These things are your only TRUE solution, and there is no risk for you to connect and try.

It’s time.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’›

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