Hi Michelle,

I am so pleased that my material helps you and your son

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I copied something I read once and I’ll repeat it here because it feels like truth:
To anger a neurotypical person, lie. To anger a narcissist, tell the truth.
I am 3 years out of a costly relationship with a narcissist who stole my money and my trust and my energy. After several years of numbness and lethargy, I told him to get out; one week later, he set 3 fires in my basement and lied about it. I had to sell the house where I lived for 32 years and raised my son at a loss. I lost a lot of things with sentimental value in the move. I found out online several days after I put in an insurance claim for the fire that my homeowner’s insurance had been canceled 2 months earlier because I did not pay one bill in 15 years because I never got it. I did not have $200,000 to restore the house or the energy for several months of a legal battle with the insurance company and then doing the restoration IF I won. I’m still sad and angry about losing my house and the things in it that can’t be replaced. I’m also embarrassed that I fell for the narcissist’s false self and the wonderful sex of the lovebombing phase. Like everything else that seems good with a narcissist, that did not last. His final manipulation was to leave me his dog and that worked out to be a positive; she is very protective and over reacts to every noise in our driveway so I know no one is getting in our new house uninvited. Even strangers to her that I want here get snarled and barked at, like the electrician and plumber and my son. She is very snuggly and warm and keeps me company until she wakes me up by barking in my ear because she heard a car in the neighbors’ driveway. That is unpleasant but she was his dog so she never learned any social skills. Despite the painful loss of the dog he had when I met him who died after he was hit by a car on the road in front of the house, he never taught this one to stay out of the road either. I know he loved the dog that died and grieved him for months but did not train this one at all. He actually encouraged her to run out into the road by throwing a frisbee across the lawn and the road into the brush across the street in front of the woods there. He threw it without regard for the few cards that drove by our house and she was so focused on one of her favorite toys, that she ran blindly after it. When I walked her around the neighborhood with a leash, I had to pull her out of gardens that were right next to the road and away from moving cars and came home with aching shoulders every time. He yelled at anyone who let their dog on our lawn. It was my house and my lawn but he mowed and took care of it and I’m sure she went on other peoples’ lawns all over the neighborhood because he walked her without a leash. She might have stayed at his side because she was devoted to him; the day after the fires, he left without a word and she cried like her heart was broken for an hour. I was glad to see him go but felt bad for her; I decided then that I was keeping her because i was worried she’d never recover from another trauma if I sent her to Pit Bull Rescue to be trained and then rehomed. She was tarumatized byt the fire and all the strangersthat came to the house that day and by him leaving the next day. She was his dog but he brought her to live in my house too young, at 5 weeks old, so we had a partial bond, reenforced every time he disappeared for a week or two and it was just us together. She growls and snarls at strangers because she is afraid of them but it is difficult foe me that it is hard to have a friend come over to see our new house. Or the electrician or plumber…….

Hi Erica,

Dear Lady you are so welcome!

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Hi Kim,

are you working with NARP? http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

If so, we can help you with the healing technique to fill you and your inner child with The Light

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I love that you are healing and going free Gerinina,

please know how welcome you are!

Mel 🙏💞🦋