Comments on: The 3 Phases Of Deservedness

By: Do not Get Tricked or Handled: The Backbone-Tingling Reality About Narcissism - Path2Positivity

Wed, 26 Oct 2022 23:28:24 +0000

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By: Peter@44

Peter@44 — Fri, 26 Feb 2021 05:01:56 +0000

Hi Melanie!
I just read this on the recommendation of Kamots7!
It was very difficult to go through!
Boy, recovery from narcissistic sure ain’t easy!
Thanks so very much, Melanie and everybody….❤️🦋❤️
Maybe tomorrow it will be better!
Peter@44 ❤️🦋❤️

By: Kathy

Kathy — Sun, 04 Aug 2019 15:21:38 +0000

After a month of shifting with QFH, I’m starting to get into the heart of the ‘false’ inner beliefs that have continued to plague me my entire life. Some of it has been shocking and in looking back, I see how often situations and persons presented themselves to attempt to change my inner belief or bring it to consciousness. So yes, life has definitely been happening for me. My awareness is yet in its’ infancy but already, I’m seeing so many who are ‘unconscious’ and remain in pain and struggle. I do believe that in the past, ‘get over it and get on with it’ was nothing more than a pacifier by the Ego to calm enough to function but it did not heal my inner being and the evidence is that these traumas continue to come up. If I’d ‘gotten over it,’ they would have been resolved. Clearly they are not and the more I shift, the more I realize how far back these traumas began. At one point early in my life I started to not trust my inner being, I’m not sure when but it was projected as not trusting others. Clearly, I gave away my trust to others thinking there was something wrong with me, making them responsible but ultimately harming myself over and over. I judge how well I heal by what comes up in inner dialogue now. If it’s an unhealthy thought plaguing me, or is a feeling of discomfort or pain, it’s hiding an inner issue I’m unaware of. Self-partnering is the only way to go, with love and attentiveness. We so often give this energy away at the expense of ignoring ourselves.

By: Jutta Numata

Jutta Numata — Thu, 17 Jan 2019 05:08:16 +0000

I had a good relationship before, god knows I felt aligned….and then something stagnated….and in walks this amazing….well, …..and then a few years later I found myself in the stinky swamp of pleading, appealing, helping, fixing, wringing my hands, being lied to, money getting borrowed and not repaid for ages, and ghosted and many of the classic things…blame shifting, ego centric to the MAX, entitlement, lack of empathy, sensitivity chip missing over n over to unspeakable degrees, I mean, I would never DO that to anyone, so…………of course I find myself in the swamp of wondering why I attracted a situation of undeservedness, and ask myself why I could not release the narcissist SOONER, oh, great, to find out mmmm, yes, ah, it would appear my dad is narcissistic and I sure never knew that, most of us did not even know the meaning of the word, never in my schooling was in in my spelling list ! So here in the swamp I discover myself disoriented, in pain, but I never knew one could heal—–heal was a “passive” verb, as in…the wound on your foot will heal….and here is MEL, introducing the notion of “heal” as an “active” verb, as in………heal, heal, heal……do the visualisations over and over, what was it, grist? Dedication? I do know about grist and dedication, I’ve achieved things I wanted, but healing myself actively is a new idea, I always just thought we get over things in time and choose more wisely next time, but from this place, this swamp, I now am like OMG, yeah, I really wanna know what I can do because I NEVER want to be in this situation again, I don’t suffer from PTSD, it could have been worse, but I yearn for growth, I YEARN for crossing the desert Mel describes to reach a place of deservedness….I know it’s gonna be incremental, I KNOW it needs my usual qualities (integrity) , but now I’m also gonna do this work—-adjust the inner compass, adjust the past and adjust the charge inside myself, adjust the self talk letter by letter, dump dark constricted energy and call in light and angels, i KNOW I’m a good person, but somehow I attracted the most amazing….then the most… harmful and confusing situation, it really begs the question, dear God, what is it, inside of ME. The cognitive dissonance of a MIRAGE, that’s exactly what I experienced! ANd I had no idea that I carried undeservedness, that I carried patterns that attracted abuse, it was so wrong, but NOW –here I am–I put my faith into the visualisations ….a bridge across troubled waters of feeling thwarted by love and baffled that life could tell me I was undeserving…….., no, no, blame and shame won’t get me there, and finally blaming myself just holds me in the same place, these universal emotions need to be infused by the visualisations…. if I do the work, and I am pure of heart, I’m sure Mel will reimburse me if I don’t experience a change, I’ll ask her! And she’ll say yes, I’m sure, if the tools really failed to work on me. But I think, I feel …..it is worth a good go. Noone is so dedicated without reason, Mel is the real deal. I’m ever grateful to be shown a bridge to walk, rather than ‘no tools just TIME’, I’m ever curious of how my life will change, there really is nothing else to do and I don’t care to stay in hurt, incidentally I don’t care to become a narc blogger either, I wish to have energy and positive charge, attracting things and people that are good and true, and I promise and I know, that if I do, I’ll only pay it forward, in my realm, I’ll pay it forward!!! May miracles love company !

By: Thriver

Thriver — Fri, 21 Dec 2018 20:33:41 +0000

In reply to Anna.

Hi Anna,

Not that you should be obsessing over it, but yes they will always behave badly because they are functioning from a false-self that will never be satisfied regardless of who they are dating… but you shouldn’t allow this to give you closure and feel joy. When you go within, all that your N is or is not doing will not be your reality!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 28 Oct 2018 00:11:13 +0000

In reply to Gena.

Hi Gena,

Thank you lovely lady.

Awww I am so thrilled for you that you are going Quantum – so within, so without.

It’s the true way!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Gena

Gena — Fri, 26 Oct 2018 22:59:14 +0000

Hi Lovely Mel;
First of all, Congratulations on your new house. It sounds beautiful. You Certainly deserve it. And More.
I can’t wait to get started to clean my insides Out. I am so looking forward to this wonderful life change. I want My True Self!

By: Cindy Colby

Cindy Colby — Fri, 05 Oct 2018 13:34:21 +0000

I love it that you ask our thoughts! I honestly want to thrive! I think I really get this “deservedness” lens! I was raised in an area with “poverty” mentality. I really feel I found a deep rooted lens that needs replaced! Thank you for shining the light into those dark spots! You are a gift! And now I see so am I! Thank yuh!

By: Helen

Helen — Mon, 01 Oct 2018 06:57:45 +0000

In reply to Alison. Keep going Alison, you'll get to a tipping point eventually ✨❤️✨