Comments on: The 5 Traits That Make You Susceptible To Narcissists

By: Gloria

Gloria — Tue, 16 Jun 2020 03:05:54 +0000

It feels like a relieve but at the same time I can sense the profoundness of my trauma. I feel dizzy headed and heavy at the same time. At the same time I feel sad and angry I was forced to survive that way. It makes me want to cry. But it all makes so much sense and it’s a new way to think so it will take me time.

By: Luisa

Luisa — Mon, 03 Feb 2020 23:31:16 +0000

In reply to P. N.. This was very powerful for me Melanie, you are teaching me incredible tools too heal from all my trauma

By: Paulette

Paulette — Wed, 09 Jan 2019 22:04:14 +0000

I just saw this today, but I noticed the comments were from last November so I’m a little late for the comment section. No matter because your points are still valid no matter when someone reads them.

For myself, I’m really tired of people who say they care about you and then treat you like a doormat. Actions speak louder than words. Putting up with it for whatever reason is definitely our own fault. I think that a lot of the time our anger is more at ourselves for letting ourselves be used and abused than it is at the people who did us harm. That was #2 on your list about not setting boundaries.

I find that narcissists have a way of twisting everything you say to try to make you feel inferior. I know it makes me angry. I had one narsissist tell me that I was too old fashioned and that I HAD to change. Basically I told him it would be a cold day in hell. I like the way I am. After living in hell for the last few years I feel like I’m getting back to my old self. A lot older and poorer, but finding my stronger self.

You’re absolutely right that it’s your opinion of yourself that matters and you should never take the opinion of people who are out to use and abuse you. They’re not happy unless they are destroying other people’s lives. It must be because of how really worthless they feel and they want to take everybody down with them. Personally I don’t care what their reasons are as long as they stay out of my life.

Thanks for another great article.

By: Marcie Behrens

Marcie Behrens — Tue, 08 Jan 2019 02:51:29 +0000

In reply to P. N.. I love seeing Tiggy in the video. I realized through this video, I can get rid of the fear of attracting another narcissist by doing the modules. Module 8 is my favorite. Thank you for helping me see that if I just live from within myself I will have the tools to recognize unhealthy people and move along.

By: Marcie Behrens

Marcie Behrens — Tue, 08 Jan 2019 02:49:52 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. I love seeing Tiggy in the video. I realized through this video, I can get rid of the fear of attracting another narcissist by doing the modules. Module 8 is my favorite. Thank you for helping me see that if I just live from within myself I will have the tools to recognize unhealthy people and move along.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 23:42:45 +0000

In reply to Kelly Nostin.

Awww Kelly,

Thank you for your comment and lovely words!

Tiggy is very wise as well as hilarious – that is so true.

Thrive On Lovely Lady!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Kelly Nostin

Kelly Nostin — Wed, 14 Nov 2018 14:01:06 +0000

Hi Melanie! I truly enjoy your videos and have learned so much from your work! You have wonderful energy and feel your are genuine about your work. I had to laugh about your cat, Tiggy! Especially when you told him not to show his bum hole. Cracked me up. And you can tell he resonated with your statements in the video. If you watch him he stops and takes it in! Love it! Thank you for everything!!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 07 Nov 2018 01:21:47 +0000

In reply to Mr. P.

Hi Mr.P,

You’re so welcome, and I am so pleased you are unravelling this and on your way to clarity, freedom and healing.

Please know that you don’t have to do this alone, and there are many men in our incredible community working on their Thriver Recovery here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Sending power and healing to you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Mr. P

Mr. P — Tue, 06 Nov 2018 00:45:54 +0000

I really want to thank you for putting this resource together.

It only took me 12 years to figure out what was really going on with my wife. The narc traits started to reveal themselves near the end of her pregnancy. Basically the esteem bucket was empty once she realized that pregnancy was no longer fun. So, I wrote them off as a hormone issues. Well, the ups and downs would continue. I would ask is this PTSD? as the years past with the emotional ups and downs, love bombing, devaluation, ect. … I narrowed it down to possibility of a mild bipolar issue, commanly known and Cyclithmia. This diagnosis did not quite fit the bill. I knew something was up but I could not put a finger on it. The cyclic nature of narcissism is actually how I honed in the word Narcissism.

Once I learned what it truly means to be a narc everything made since. The last week has been really tough as I realized my entire marriage was nothing more than a one sided co-existence.

We were fresh out of college when we got together. As I grew emotionally I noticed she was not growing with me. I noticed that was I not able to connect to her. She was unable accept who she she was at the core. Everything was nothing more than facade of what she wanted us to believe.

Now that I have learned the true nature of what I am dealing with, I am having trouble keeping that secret. I so badly want to throw it on her face. It’s like having a royal flush knowing that you will get shot if you play it. So.. I am now a cammilian trying survive long enough to get my s%#t together before I leave. It’s really hard to be nice to someone that has been lying and manipulative for over a decade.

I will be strong.
I am the better person
I must get out to save my sanity
I will meet people who appreciate who I am rather than what they can get from me.

One day at a time and I will survive.