Hi Jennifer,

Please know, Dear Lady there are many Christians working with NARP who don’t believe in past lives who are having wonderful results.

NARP is non-denominational, unconditionally loving and does not segregate in any way. You can simply decide ‘the past’ in your shifts is whatever understanding of the past you wish it to be.

I don’t believe God would ever withhold love and healing from anyone due to differing theologies. The results have proven this to be true to anyone putting aside that believed limit.

Of course you can honour you. NARP supports free will and your choices as much as God does!

Much love to you and thank you for your beautiful words and kind spirit.

Mel 🙏💞💛

Hello. I am moved by You, your videos and all your work devoted to helping other Survivors of Narcissistic Abuses. I truly want to begin the NARP program, but I am a Christ Follower and thus, I don’t believe in past lives. Will my personal beliefs be honored and will I still be able to do all the healings and go through all the modules? I am ready, but this one crucial core belief, is what is holding me back from becoming a Gold Member. I am sure other Christians may be denying themselves this program over the very same spiritual concerns. Will you please address this concern so that I and hopefully many others who identify a Christ Followers too do not “fear”betraying our Source and taking a healing journey we so desperately need?

Again, I Thank You for who You are, all you’ve done, and the Gift You have Already been in My Life.

Graciously,

Jennifer

I want to add – looking back at my relationship, my ex got under my skin exactly as described in the video. No question. So while things are still new in my current relationship, how can I tell that he’s genuinely nice, and that I’m not being sucked in as described by way #1? And as the relationship progresses, how can I trust that the progression is “normal” and not a manipulation described by ways #2 & #3?

Thanks!

Hi Melanie,

My ex-husband was a narc. We were together 14 years (married for 6) and he left me when our son was 8 months old. It’s been 2 years since we divorced, and unfortunately still have contact due to our son (I have custody but he has visitation). I’m still having a lot of difficulty standing up to him / not reacting to him when he throws things at me about our son, our agreement, me, etc…. Family has been extremely supportive because they see right through him, but they are starting to get discouraged by my slow healing.

In the meantime, I finally started dating again. Just the idea of it was scary, but I gathered enough self-confidence to put myself out there a year ago. Met someone in January (through eHarmony) and everything has just been so night and day in contrast with my past relationship. Everything just works nicely, easily, no drama…. He’s been cheated on himself and his second girlfriend was very self-involved, so he’s lived a bit of what I’ve been through and gets it. But the more I fall for him, the more paranoid I become that he’s just reading into my situation and my needs and knowing exactly what to give me (he’s aware of what I’ve been through with my ex) — I’m paranoid that I’m falling for another narc. How can I look at this objectively (and not just through my paranoia and my emotions) to be able to figure it out before I make another mistake?

Any advice is appreciated! I just started watching your videos and will certainly continue. Thanks.

I initially wanted to comment on the style of your blogs. Now, I hate blogs, and especially video blogs which I consider a form of ‘selfie’ , anyway I won’t write an essay on it but I felt the style is very sincere, which is one thing most of us appreciate after being duped – a sincere person. Sometimes you see these guides and the person is saying this is the solution this is what I did, and I don’t believe them. I actually don’t think they went through what they say they did. Anyway this is a long winded way of saying great video blogs I don’t use any of these methods although I spent 6 months reading nearly every article on the web on narcissism.

My way out, and it wasn’t that I missed her, I actually didn’t like her in the sense that the lovebombing was so strange it made me suspicious (there were more red flags than at a matador convention), My low point came from the ‘ what might have been’ ; now I know it would never work, it was some sort of sham game only I hadn’t been told it was a game, but the damage to me was the worsening of anxiety depression. I did not think a human could function with esteem which was as low as mine was. I thought an organism would just wither away if it had reached such a low point. My way out was exercise , which I suppose is a way of looking inwards rather than outwards for validation. So whilst I can’t say I followed any mantra or anything, what I saw today makes absolute sense. I have noticed that some people dont get sucked in by narcissists and some do. That realisation helped me move on more than anything.

Thanks, Mel.
I’ve already done my work. So I know who I am and what Truth is, and what is acceptable and what is not.
There are some people I have to get away from and others I need to speak up about. Not to; about.
In a few weeks I will be out from under the parents. I went through a lot to be free. I will not take them with me and I will determine at that time if I need to say something or not. Just leaving may be mostly consequence enough, as they will have to face each other. Finally.
I’ll have no contact with anyone in my family and I’m sure people will be looking for me. As long as I put myself in the center of my fellowship and give everything I can I will be protected.
My fellowship is a place I have a purpose and that dissolves a lot of resentment. It is also a place I can get heard about some things that have gone on, and I take responsibility for my own fears that drove my part, which was not confronting some other people in all that happened.
I went back to my town and tried this a few weeks ago and I got heard, and said it in the right way. It was good.
I am also using back channels to say some other things about other people and situations I’ve dealt with. That is dissolving my resentment there as well.
At the same time I am keeping peaceful by doing some other work where I can create my life in a way that honors who I’ve always been. It makes me sane and helps me detach from judging.

Hi John,

I am so pleased my material helps and that you came into the workshop. How wonderful that you have now turned inwards to self-partner!

Ok regarding leaving – generally in a narcissistic relationship – we need to keep it s simple as possible – “I’m done” and then follow through with actions. Conversations are just another way we can get hooked back in, relinquish our position and hand over power.

Please know, as hard as it is, to see what this child will live through – your greatest responsibility to all of the life is to put yourself first.

This child will go through the evolutionary journey that he or she signed up for at soul level, which is not your responsibility.

Your evolution journey is.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

Hi M,

it’s my pleasure.

I’d love you to join us M in the deeper healing part of our Community.

Sending blessings and healing.

Mel xo