Hi Jason,

You are very welcome and I am so pleased I have been able to help.

I love that you are turning inwards and doing the work – it’s key, it’s everything.

That’s so sweet you love Tiggy!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

P.S. I love Tiggy!!

Dita x

thank you and I am so pleased this video helped!

That is wonderful that you healed so much, for this next stage it truly is about targeting exactly “that” “I break free and then I get contaminated all over again.” Can you take that to a Goal Setting Module and set up the goal To “resolve that completely (heal it)?” Then I believe you will see a big shift occur.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

I look forward to your videos and blogs and I have been working hard on releasing the trauma of a narc experience I had with someone I met in the workplace. Long story short, there was a mutual “attraction” (I thought) that was actually him playing with me, writing to me, even kissing me one day and then abruptly smearing me and reverting to total silence. I was so in the clouds, I couldn’t see the forest for the trees. I believed in the story he told me that he was leaving his relationship. I’m ashamed of how strong the dissonance was. I’m ashamed to say I could no longer concentrate at the job (even though we did not work in the same department). My absenteeism increased. I started getting physically ill.

Things were so bad for me mentally at this workplace that I left for a new job. On the surface it looks like I left on my own terms, and left for better pay and a great opportunity, but I feel devastated. As soon as I left, even with concrete evidence of what and whom I’d been dealing with (he hoovered me with letters and all kinds of written perversion, he started parking near my spot, he walked around and around the building to get my attention), I didn’t feel relieved. I felt a hole. I wanted to be in touch with him so badly.

Of course I heard nothing from him.

He played things so well, and has an altruistic goody goody boy image both at work and at home, and meanwhile I feel like I looked like the classic, cliche midlife crisis who made a big fool of herself. I had years of good reputation. I feel like these were destroyed in one fell swoop.

He is still in his “relationship” and I have no reason to believe anyone has seen through him.

I am no contact and I struggle daily with the urge to “make things right”.

I take responsibility for my behaviour, for entertaining this attraction, and am in therapy, but my perspective on the bad days is that I’m paying for this more than he has or will ever pay. I don’t understand why everyone is oblivious.

When you talk about soul contract, I realize that the reason I met this person is perhaps because my mother is a narcissist. Not full blown, but so many traits that just became clear to me in the past two years and starkly evident as she became disabled and more needy.

I just don’t know 100% what this is supposed to mean. Why is the result that I am so empty, and find myself unable to feel grateful for the great job and still intact family that I have? Why do I need so badly to expose him, and when will that feeling go away?

I am becoming better able to handle my mother, and to set boundaries with her without neglecting her.

But as for forgiving the narc, I am not there yet.

I appreciate all of the help you offer the community. Some days it’s only your videos or blogs that have prevented me from the temptation of reaching out to the narc.

Hi Tanya,

it is my pleasure 🙂

I am so pleased that video helped you.

That is so wonderful that you are going forward and up.

So much love to you too and I would love that one day! TOTALLY!

Mel xo

Hi Hannah

I also can feel quite tired after big shifts. From my reading on the NARP forum and own experiences I think it is very normal and a good sign that your body is integrating and re-calibrating to the shifts you are experiencing. It seems to be very common to feel tired and a bit wiped out at times. It’s important to honour your body and its processes as you go through the modules. That’s all part of the Self-care aspect I think.

There’s lots on the forum around body/energy shifts if you search for it. Check under the FAQs by Mel.

Take care!

xx

Hi Hannah

Thank you so much for your thoughts, yes that is so true. I’ve been trying to stay focused on that idea of the graduation points, meaning that things are improving! Thank you for sharing that and reminding me 🙂

Wishing you great Thriving xx

Thank you so so much Mel, it all rings so deeply true. I actually watched your recent depression video after posting my question, and that helped so much too, I walk around saying ‘I unconditionally love and accept (everything)’ all the time. I think the ‘being my own loving/positive Source’ clicked on the deeper level it needed to after this experience. It’s challenging, owing to the lifetime of negative peptides etc, but I try to keep coming back to that.

I’m focusing on removing all the blocks/negative beliefs on being my own Source for now. It helps so much to stay focused on Self despite what triggers me. I know you say it all the time, but its amazing the time it takes for things to ‘sink in’ to the deeper layers of being.

I just know that I REFUSE to go back into despair and suicide like I used to when this has come up (many times) before.

Deep gratitude and blessings to you always <3

PS: can't we have a world reunion of Narpers sometime lol xx