Comments on: The Effects Of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder After Narcissistic Abuse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Wed, 26 Jul 2023 08:58:39 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1242055 Wed, 09 Sep 2020 00:58:13 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1242055 In reply to Jean-Paul.

Jean-Paul,

all of us are born with a soul journey of evolution to do.

That’s why we are born into the families we have landed in.

There are many things at a deeper level that we don’t logically understand. Not accepting the healing journey – no matter how or where it started – and for all of us it really was ‘pre-birth” means remaining a victim.

Emancipation comes from a deeper acceptance and understanding.

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•šŸ’š

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1242054 Wed, 09 Sep 2020 00:55:28 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1242054 In reply to Jean-Paul.

Hi Jean-Paul,

truly for our children, it is not about granting an explanation. It is about our healing and empowerment and leading the way for our children.

Then I promise you that where we go they follow.

Logical understanding is not where it is at, it is about emotional unfolding and development, then the understanding becomes organic.

Much love to you

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•šŸ’š

]]> By: Jean-Paul https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1241923 Mon, 07 Sep 2020 05:25:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1241923 Hi Melanie. Another question: what explanation would one give to an infant as to the REASONS he/she was parentally abused? or maybe a 5-y.o.? Or an 8-y.o.? 10? 15? etc
Thanks.

]]> By: Jean-Paul https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1241919 Mon, 07 Sep 2020 05:05:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1241919 Hi Mel. HOW is the narc reflecting back unhealed wounds/parts when the narc is your mother and you’re 4 years old?

]]> By: LT https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1202202 Fri, 23 Aug 2019 18:18:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1202202 Thank you. I feel like I’ve been stuck on repeat and playing my trauma over and over again in my head. I’ve been driving myself crazy with my own thoughts. Lately I’ll lay in bed for 9 hours and sleep maybe 2 total because I can’t shut off my brain. Reading these words have been a wake up call for me and a reminder to be good to myself. Time to ditch my victim outlook and take accountability for my own healing.

Thank you so much for your words. They’ve changed my perspective on my situation. xoxo

]]> By: Sarah Fox https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1174681 Wed, 15 May 2019 12:59:50 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1174681 In reply to Natasha M.

Natasha, I know this post is old. May I say to you GOD BLESS YOU. Even if you never read it, I swear I am sending it out to you girl. Coz you are intelligent. Only an intelligent person could ever break it down like that. You gotta be at the top of your game, whatever you do.
I was soooo….lucky. Narc was dramatically removed from my life (while I was desperately in love with the wolf while he showed me zero respect or love). So I was lucky. I missed the crazy last steps you describe so well. Anyway narc is gone. I exclude anyone who makes me feel bad. I cannot analyse well like others. I just stay the F away from them. Bless you Melanie. Bless you Natasha.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1037588 Thu, 10 May 2018 02:09:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1037588 In reply to RC.

Hi RC,

You are so welcome and Iā€™m thrilled to help.

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•ā¤ļø

]]> By: RC https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1037011 Wed, 09 May 2018 03:07:37 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1037011 Thank you for giving a name to the trauma. It will definitely help my focus to heal the past wounds in the present, and live a thriving future.

]]> By: Jeena https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-effects-of-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1016866 Wed, 28 Mar 2018 11:07:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=2658#comment-1016866 Hey Melanie,
What a terrific article. I love the fact that you have emphasised the only way any of us can get well is to accept I am my own saviour.
I have lived with a pain syndrome for 25 years. I had to accept I did this to myself, causing the pain syndrome, and the only way I can get better is to accept I am the only one who can change my neural pathways and think and feel differently.
My husband, soon to be my ex, was in a previous relationship with someone with NPD. He had a major operation recently and basically woke up a different person. He’s gone into victim mode, left us, and basically unraveled. The worst thing is he is now is saying I am the abuser and has mixed me up with his ex. We have had lots of counselling which mostly results in him regressing into wounded child mode. It’s been so bewildering and I can’t reach him anymore.
All I can do now is let him go. I am so sad about that but I know I am an arch rescuer and this isn’t my fight anymore, it’s his.
I don’t need anyone’s permission to let go but it is so heartbreaking.

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