By: Z

Thu, 12 Feb 2026 22:27:54 +0000

I am a narcissist

By: Melanie

Melanie — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 18:09:17 +0000

Melanie- hi thank you for all that you have shared with anyone that is in this situation of living with narcissism. I can identify with so much of the facts I have learned about narcissism. Here is my dilemma, how to determine if I am the narcissist, my partner is, both of us, or maybe neither? I have felt like my spouse is but as I learn more and more I am beginning to think it may be myself.

By: David Busby

David Busby — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 17:35:35 +0000

The fact that the average man is ‘very visual’ has for time immemorial created a panacea of relational difficulties. I think part of it is hormonal, part of it is socio-cultural and then there is the uncouth. If you will, biological and learned. I have often wondered what it must be like for women who are not only admired but also objectified for their looks. It can set up the possibility of superficially relating where inner growth isn’t being fostered or able to evolve. It can indeed be the source of so much manipulation. Most of us have sowed wild oats in our youth. There comes a time for all of us when beauty begins to fade and hopefully along the way we are developing our hearts and minds because the beginning of wisdom is to look at the long view. Mel as always thank you for your insight.

By: Healthy

Healthy — Wed, 23 Mar 2022 17:07:50 +0000

Oh yeah they ran up a lot of debt on expensive clothing, everything had to be designer, had other people believe their sob story do they’d buy them elaborate gifts and even after they got huge settlements from their high drama lawsuits or insurance payouts, they never once paid off any credit debts nor the huge amounts of money they borrowed from friends and relatives and went on another shopping and travel spree! Oh well they would feign altruistic care for the poor lol like give money to charity and their guru/ashram for a tax write off and never missed an opportunity to humble-brag about all their donations/goodwill. I’m taking Melanie’s advice and playing offense with those sacks of shit.

By: Christopher Shannon

Christopher Shannon — Sat, 15 May 2021 06:10:35 +0000

In reply to JC. Expectations can have a major impact on our perspective

By: Christopher Shannon

Christopher Shannon — Sat, 15 May 2021 05:44:05 +0000

In reply to Shrutee. Don’t give up trying to heal ,you owe it to yourself,I understand,you must push through the hurt to heal,take care

By: Christopher Shannon

Christopher Shannon — Sat, 15 May 2021 05:36:44 +0000

What struck an interesting chord with me was the well dressed and possibly brand name clothing.
I think
“Clean and neat people hide dirty and untidy habits “

By: Neil

Neil — Thu, 08 Oct 2020 23:50:26 +0000

I met my now second wife in the late 70’s & early 80’s as friends & work colleague, She married a friend of ours who her parents disliked and refused to attend their wedding with persuading others not too either, A fellow work colleague gave her away on such an important event in a woman’s life, had 2 children with him in a short time of being together until he left her for another & another so leaving her abandoned with 2 young Ones under 2yrs, Divorced then alone, as friends kept in touch as we both had a child & children, She became a very good friend of my first wife to which then became difficult as She & I had 1 to 2 sexual encounters over a short period of a couple of years, She met another who’s mother lived across her, became pregnant with him but had to abort the child but had no monies so her kind Nan supported her decision to do so, he took it upon himself to strive to defraud her via catalogues & Car finances prompting police activity and collection companies, shortly after she met another with less to his name but a suitcase of clothes welcomed him to her life and children unconditionally, married him as she loved him, again Parents not present due to what purpose I’m not sure, while married to this individual from the age of 4-11 he had unknown to the mother been sexually abusing One of her daughters while she was working night shifts to make ends meet and to provide additional financial support, prior to this they had separated for a few years without divorcing but he still gained a financial reward with possessions, the two of them got back together until 2000 when the situation came to light to what he’d be doing to the minor, Her parents were now present, how I’m not sure, the 2nd husband ran off and hid at his mothers house, the authorities were never called to this incident, Why? God knows, the child was questioned by the Grandparents & mother but kept her secret until she was in her 20’s, the Grandparents were informed by the mother that he the abuser confessed to the child’s mother but she still had him return to the family home with the abused child, Why? 4 yrs later the Mother chose to start a secret affair with her boss at work, during their working day to visits to his home, the husband became suspicious of her and insecurities & jealousy set in but she denied the situation but it was true, She told me, She asked him to leave in January 2004 to which he did thinking she would beg for his return, but not this time as she had me the “Old” trusted friend and previous lover, ME We courted for a year or so until I decide to end the relationship as it just didn’t feel right as we were very good friends, this change of heart lasted a day or so as I sensed something not quite right, I Truly Loved her and asked to resume our relationship, weeks later my suspicions were confirmed as she was pregnant with our now son, at 42 this was a shock to me but I was determined to do the correct thing, Marry my True Love to which I did in 17th June 2006 the second best day in my life firstly the birth of my “Boy” family complete you’d thought but “No” as the devastation of the poor abused came to light to which has & had a devastating effect on our New Marriage to which we longed for since the day dot started to crumble as my wife had struggled with regret & remorse due to not believing her daughter be it the child withheld such pain & suffering start to change towards me, physically, mentally, Emotionally & Financially over the next 7yrs with other traumas being dealt to us, Her being made redundant from a job she held for over 25yrs, moving house and living in a caravan in the middle of a field until our house was built in 2015, this was supposedly our New fresh start, December passed with having our first Christmas at our New home, January arrived and by the end of it I landed in hospital with cellulitis & sepsis and stayed there until early March, in that time unknown to me my True love was entertaining another man at her work while using my car and money to feed and do other things with him, this didn’t come apparent until I arrived to my New home and being rejected by her not supporting me with my recovery as nurses had to attend to me, I caught her FaceBooking this man at 21:10 of a Sunday evening with them discussing what “Doughnuts” she should buy him when they would meet up the next day, you can imagine my response right? This unfortunate behaviour never diminished as I caught her while at a wedding stroking another mans body to whom her daughter had met at the event & slept with, the wife’s face had jealousy written all over it, the final part of this unfortunate circumstances was she changed jobs to become a Development manager within a company that provides independent Living for people from 55 & up wards, she befriended a man who used to have a given relationship for his past employee, Money, Gifts, Flowers, Lunches etc to which seemed to make my wife jealous so persuaded the man to stop giving to the old employee and start to give to her to which he did, under the understanding that she wouldn’t tell me her husband or share to what he’d give her unconditionally as I was Money, Gifts, Flowers, my unconditional love as her husband & her my wife, She chose to uphold his wishes, he’d give her spending money for holidays, Clothes to wear, even to both of them going out for dinner regardless of my emotions & feelings, I became a second and not even a Third thought as she could not see the damage she caused to us by choosing that path, she’d start unnecessary arguments and make judgments of me so making me angry & verbally hurtful as I couldn’t understand to why I’d not only support her for 40+ years but her children to, my question to all this who is the Narcissist me or her, I’ve had more therapy than most, CBT, Anger Management, Hypnosis, I’m on Antidepressants and have been for a while now, I suffer from PTSD due to a severe Motorcycle injury in 2013 and I’ve been diagnosed as clinical depressive due to so much trauma to which I’ve strived to control & eradicate as time lapses, No support from her, lacks Empathy just want as much money from me, uses my “Boy” too her best capability

By: Chalie

Chalie — Wed, 29 Jan 2020 02:04:13 +0000

In reply to KC.

LOL, good one KC. Way to knock someone for poor spelling and grammar when you type, “…by way of an private email….” Hello pot, meet kettle.

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