Comments on: The Narcissist Is Your Mirror

By: Lianne Cranfield

Lianne Cranfield — Sat, 03 Feb 2024 17:10:10 +0000

I tried to join the course but it said ‘something went wrong’ fyi

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 23:52:50 +0000

My mom was codependent and father is still a narcissist. I went through a lot of abuse before my spirit stepped into the forefront and said enough is enough. It I told him about my past traumas, big mistake. I told him how when I was 10, my father made fun of me when the old man down the road tried to rape me and force me into his van. One day while I was telling a story to the narcissist, he said the name of that man as if it were a joke. It triggered in me and I felt the way I did when I a child when my family made fun of me being nearly raped several times.
I’m at a place in my life where I don’t really anyone. I love and prefer my own company. Things could go well and he’ll out the blue say something hurtful to get a rise out me. I used to reacted and I know thats what he wanted. Now I just think to myself you know why he’s doing this. And he’ll keep going and I still Grey rock. I’m stuck because he moved me to Australia from the US. And I don’t have financial security. But I’m working on a few things, planning my escape. I gave myself a little over a year to go.

By: Renee

Renee — Sat, 26 Dec 2020 23:45:37 +0000

In reply to Laura. This isn’t true I was born out of this duo. And ended up with many abusive people(partners and friends) it was my current partner that held up that mirror and I saw what all my wounds bloody and bruised. I even said to him I hate that you have brought me face to face with my trauma to the point that I can’t do anything but heal myself. And at 28 I’m doing that, you can too. I also went no contact with my family. So I have no one so I have a self to build and plenty of time to heal.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 22 Sep 2018 02:09:44 +0000

In reply to Leti.

Hi Leti,

That is so beautiful that you have embraced the truth and are reaping the rewards.

Wishing you many continued blessings.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Leti

Leti — Fri, 21 Sep 2018 15:16:09 +0000

This spoke volumes to me. I HAVE grown from this person in my life and i am in a much better place. I believe he came into my life to help me heal. It’s been quite painful but well worth it. Now for completely letting go. Thank you for your videos. They have been instrumental in understanding this situation in my life.

By: Linda Browne

Linda Browne — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 14:09:00 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Thank you Melanie and Kelly. Yes, I relate as I've healed too several years ago from two former narcs (my ex husband and ex fiance), after doing the necessary healing work and understanding both NPD and codependency. It's like being re-born. Happiness and health to you both, and to all on their healing journeys xxxx

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 12:14:25 +0000

In reply to Hilary.

Hi Hilary,

Your honesty and owning this is such a healing in itself Dear Lady.

It’s so powerful, and I know 100 percent that when you go inwards to shift this trauma, your transformation into even greater light, love and truth will be spectacular.

You’ve got this and we have all got you.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Hilary

Hilary — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 10:43:18 +0000

Hi Melanie.
Ow! Despite the fact I’ve been actively doing NARP since February, this episode cut like a knife. I was okay with looking at the level of what I idolised in my latest narcissist. It wasn’t a problem to admit things on the level that I want the affirmation of being found attractive because I don’t feel attractive or that I want entertaining because I don’t take responsibility for my experience in life. I know those things are operating already. When it got really hard was when I started asking myself why I have chosen to connect with a series of sexual narcissists over the last 18 months and how their behaviours might be mirroring me. I can hardly bear to share because I feel such shame. What I have increasingly been seeing, is that I have turned exchanges with men into sexual ones. I didn’t even realise I was doing it. I always blamed the men for it. I have had sex with more men than I even want to remember with absolutely no regard to my feelings about it or whether I actually wanted to. On top of that, I have encouraged men to think of me in terms that debase or abuse me. Partly it manifests a deep desire to punish myself for being sexual. What I have ignored is the little girl that lives on inside who is crying in pain at the prospect. The thing that really strikes me is my belief that I am worthless. I have put myself through repeated experiences that have reinforced this false belief. No wonder I am still interacting with a man who asks about the number of men I have slept with repeatedly causing me great discomfort…..I do the same thing myself. I am obsessed with judging my sexual behaviour, punishing myself for it and generating self-hatred. I could cry.

By: Jw

Jw — Mon, 03 Sep 2018 09:28:38 +0000

In reply to Star Humbles. ♥️ This brought tears to my eyes I'm 27 and I could've wrote this. Been with this monster for 11 years and I won't out!!