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		By: Katherine		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Katherine]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 11:51:08 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1271367&quot;&gt;KIM&lt;/a&gt;.

This is like my life]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1271367">KIM</a>.</p>
<p>This is like my life</p>
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		By: KIM		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[KIM]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 30 Jul 2022 11:49:46 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265647&quot;&gt;Ashley&lt;/a&gt;.

Omg hi… this is how it feels whenever I think about her. She went through all the motions like I abused her, it was like a nightmare, still feels like a bad dream some days. My life stopped, the confusion and pain took over and I couldn’t function anymore. She promised everything I ever wanted only to use it all against me. She said all the ways I used to give her strength was me being weak, following her like a puppy.. she couldn’t feed herself or pretended like she couldn’t… I doubt any of it www real now… she lied and lived so much behind my back.. she swore up and down in writing even never to ghost and act this way… the. She was worse, she went so far out of he way to to keep me dangling and make me look crazy. She neve left the house we spent every day together then she was just gone and dying crazy things I couldn’t take it… she is evil and has no soul or conscious it’s all self severing, even their most seemingly sincere things, they don’t care about anyone not even their best friends, family, and boyfriends they aren’t even human to people like her..: it’s sick to think I loved her so much, believed her stupid lies for so long why..]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265647">Ashley</a>.</p>
<p>Omg hi… this is how it feels whenever I think about her. She went through all the motions like I abused her, it was like a nightmare, still feels like a bad dream some days. My life stopped, the confusion and pain took over and I couldn’t function anymore. She promised everything I ever wanted only to use it all against me. She said all the ways I used to give her strength was me being weak, following her like a puppy.. she couldn’t feed herself or pretended like she couldn’t… I doubt any of it www real now… she lied and lived so much behind my back.. she swore up and down in writing even never to ghost and act this way… the. She was worse, she went so far out of he way to to keep me dangling and make me look crazy. She neve left the house we spent every day together then she was just gone and dying crazy things I couldn’t take it… she is evil and has no soul or conscious it’s all self severing, even their most seemingly sincere things, they don’t care about anyone not even their best friends, family, and boyfriends they aren’t even human to people like her..: it’s sick to think I loved her so much, believed her stupid lies for so long why..</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Tue, 01 Mar 2022 01:44:54 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265709&quot;&gt;Brian S&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Brain,

I am so pleased that this spoke to you!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265709">Brian S</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Brain,</p>
<p>I am so pleased that this spoke to you!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Brian S		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Brian S]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Feb 2022 20:51:09 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Truly inspiring! Whilst I was putting my lies together in the unbearable web, this article grants me a bit of validation. I am finding me finally. More than half of my life spent in suspense from me is hurtful enough, now I must follow through and forgive myself, move on, live my life. Thank you for all your time spent helping others. You have wonderful energy.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Truly inspiring! Whilst I was putting my lies together in the unbearable web, this article grants me a bit of validation. I am finding me finally. More than half of my life spent in suspense from me is hurtful enough, now I must follow through and forgive myself, move on, live my life. Thank you for all your time spent helping others. You have wonderful energy.</p>
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		By: Man from California		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Man from California]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Feb 2022 20:39:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Sadie, I haven&#039;t healed fully, either.  We must all walk our paths, at our own pace, in our own ways.

Melanie&#039;s light is so brilliant I can see it and feel it an ocean away.  With her wisdom and guidance (and yes, my own hard work), I continue to grow.  It is so nourishing to my soul that I never want to stop, I never want to feel (as I did earlier in my life, this got me into &quot;narc-trouble,&quot; I&#039;m sure) as though I can simply &quot;coast&quot; and live life without growing.  That isn&#039;t life, it is stagnation.

I wish the best thriving to all who read and post here.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Sadie, I haven&#8217;t healed fully, either.  We must all walk our paths, at our own pace, in our own ways.</p>
<p>Melanie&#8217;s light is so brilliant I can see it and feel it an ocean away.  With her wisdom and guidance (and yes, my own hard work), I continue to grow.  It is so nourishing to my soul that I never want to stop, I never want to feel (as I did earlier in my life, this got me into &#8220;narc-trouble,&#8221; I&#8217;m sure) as though I can simply &#8220;coast&#8221; and live life without growing.  That isn&#8217;t life, it is stagnation.</p>
<p>I wish the best thriving to all who read and post here.</p>
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		By: Sadie		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Sadie]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 27 Feb 2022 08:34:48 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[“What that is about is them bragging about your accomplishments to other people because it’s lending them superiority or notoriety or acclaim or prestige, or the narcissistic supply of people thinking what a wonderful partner or family member they are because they’re speaking so highly of you“

Wow THIS. 
Worded so perfectly. 
I deduced my ex was getting something from doing this AND telling me so. Also calling somewhere I visit regularly to buy me a voucher. “You won’t believe this but I’d like to buy my ex a gift for xxx” 
The staf think he’s this amazing guy because if you’d do that for an Ex just think how he’d treat someone he was with? 
I deduced him singing my praises to work colleagues  were firing shots to me to keep my mouth shut as he was on a charm offensive for promotion and adornment by the ladies. Every opening or inch of my life he can enter he does, despite being separated for years now. 

I haven’t healed fully. Sharing a child the games go on yrs later but I walked free, am the master of my own destiny and can brush these tricks off now rather than them crippling me as they once did. 

Keep up the good work Melanie. 

This is another blinder that will resonate with so many.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>“What that is about is them bragging about your accomplishments to other people because it’s lending them superiority or notoriety or acclaim or prestige, or the narcissistic supply of people thinking what a wonderful partner or family member they are because they’re speaking so highly of you“</p>
<p>Wow THIS.<br />
Worded so perfectly.<br />
I deduced my ex was getting something from doing this AND telling me so. Also calling somewhere I visit regularly to buy me a voucher. “You won’t believe this but I’d like to buy my ex a gift for xxx”<br />
The staf think he’s this amazing guy because if you’d do that for an Ex just think how he’d treat someone he was with?<br />
I deduced him singing my praises to work colleagues  were firing shots to me to keep my mouth shut as he was on a charm offensive for promotion and adornment by the ladies. Every opening or inch of my life he can enter he does, despite being separated for years now. </p>
<p>I haven’t healed fully. Sharing a child the games go on yrs later but I walked free, am the master of my own destiny and can brush these tricks off now rather than them crippling me as they once did. </p>
<p>Keep up the good work Melanie. </p>
<p>This is another blinder that will resonate with so many.</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
		<link>https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265694</link>

		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Feb 2022 23:41:40 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265682&quot;&gt;Doug&lt;/a&gt;.

Hi Doug,

it is great that you are working with NARP.

Please Doug go into the NARP member&#039;s forum, where skilled and kind moderators can help you profusely with this - every step of the way www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

The key is to Release everything inside that hurts with the Modules .... of course when heavily triggered that can seem impossible - yet it is essential. You will get support in the member&#039;s forum with how to achieve this, and then you will know how to show up - and this shift can happen very quickly!

If you have any trouble connecting in for any reason, email support@melanietoniaevans.com

Please know how welcome you are!

Wishing you power and breakthrough ...

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265682">Doug</a>.</p>
<p>Hi Doug,</p>
<p>it is great that you are working with NARP.</p>
<p>Please Doug go into the NARP member&#8217;s forum, where skilled and kind moderators can help you profusely with this &#8211; every step of the way <a href="http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member" rel="nofollow ugc">http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member</a></p>
<p>The key is to Release everything inside that hurts with the Modules &#8230;. of course when heavily triggered that can seem impossible &#8211; yet it is essential. You will get support in the member&#8217;s forum with how to achieve this, and then you will know how to show up &#8211; and this shift can happen very quickly!</p>
<p>If you have any trouble connecting in for any reason, email <a href="mailto:support@melanietoniaevans.com">support@melanietoniaevans.com</a></p>
<p>Please know how welcome you are!</p>
<p>Wishing you power and breakthrough &#8230;</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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		By: Doug		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Doug]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sat, 26 Feb 2022 11:13:47 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[How do you know when you are standing in your truth and ready to confront the smearing lies of the narcissist in a situation where you must, like when protecting very young children from more abuse related to a custody battle?   How do I best prepare myself? I am in the thick of a battle now and must craft my response to serious lies by Monday in writing and want to find my best grounding for this but am confused weather or not if I should use my anger organically, or, try accept the emotions as valid but release them in module 3 before I do anything, or just retreat, hide under a rock and not do anything because I feel, naturally, triggered and angry that the narc seems to have so much power over others in position to decide custody.      I have gotten good at confronting and releasing those emotions and forgiving and much beauty has come into my life.   I  feel afraid that I have distanced myself from the conflict too far in order to protect myself and heal and so maybe have not taken enough proactive steps to make sure the facts were presented better so they could not be so easily ignored in favor of the narcs narrative.  I should know what to do, and I have taken careful steps but am feeling doubt because my actions, careful words explaining the predicament, have been twisted around and used against me to a level that is astonishing.  It seems impossible that the clear facts could be ignored so this must be an energetic conflict in that unseen level.  That makes me feel afraid that my own fear for my daughter being harmed is actually causing the narc to be believed, through karma, the so-within-so without thing, and my attempts to get help just not working.  I be fearing fear itself.  Which one?: 1. Run hide and heal because my being triggered makes my actions more destructive, 2 embrace anger and fear and fight as best as I can to bring the truth in.  3. Embrace the anger and fear then release it completely before I write a word of my response.   I know 3 sounds like a no-brainer but I get a lot of push towards 1. and 2 seems attractive because I have made so much progress and maybe I am ready to just respond organically.  We are so lucky to have you, Mel!]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>How do you know when you are standing in your truth and ready to confront the smearing lies of the narcissist in a situation where you must, like when protecting very young children from more abuse related to a custody battle?   How do I best prepare myself? I am in the thick of a battle now and must craft my response to serious lies by Monday in writing and want to find my best grounding for this but am confused weather or not if I should use my anger organically, or, try accept the emotions as valid but release them in module 3 before I do anything, or just retreat, hide under a rock and not do anything because I feel, naturally, triggered and angry that the narc seems to have so much power over others in position to decide custody.      I have gotten good at confronting and releasing those emotions and forgiving and much beauty has come into my life.   I  feel afraid that I have distanced myself from the conflict too far in order to protect myself and heal and so maybe have not taken enough proactive steps to make sure the facts were presented better so they could not be so easily ignored in favor of the narcs narrative.  I should know what to do, and I have taken careful steps but am feeling doubt because my actions, careful words explaining the predicament, have been twisted around and used against me to a level that is astonishing.  It seems impossible that the clear facts could be ignored so this must be an energetic conflict in that unseen level.  That makes me feel afraid that my own fear for my daughter being harmed is actually causing the narc to be believed, through karma, the so-within-so without thing, and my attempts to get help just not working.  I be fearing fear itself.  Which one?: 1. Run hide and heal because my being triggered makes my actions more destructive, 2 embrace anger and fear and fight as best as I can to bring the truth in.  3. Embrace the anger and fear then release it completely before I write a word of my response.   I know 3 sounds like a no-brainer but I get a lot of push towards 1. and 2 seems attractive because I have made so much progress and maybe I am ready to just respond organically.  We are so lucky to have you, Mel!</p>
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		By: Melanie Tonia Evans		</title>
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		<dc:creator><![CDATA[Melanie Tonia Evans]]></dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 25 Feb 2022 22:58:03 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[In reply to &lt;a href=&quot;https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265659&quot;&gt;ShellyD&lt;/a&gt;.

It&#039;s my pleasure Shelly,

absolutely!

Mel 🙏💞🦋]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>In reply to <a href="https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-lies-about-you-and-you-lie-for-them/#comment-1265659">ShellyD</a>.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s my pleasure Shelly,</p>
<p>absolutely!</p>
<p>Mel 🙏💞🦋</p>
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