Comments on: The Narcissistic Mirage – Coming To Grips With Who They Really Are https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 27 Sep 2020 08:04:50 +0000 hourly 1 By: Lady https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1242740 Sat, 19 Sep 2020 21:51:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1242740 Yeah just like going along and doing what politicians or jealous immature older women expect you to do according to the disasters of the decisions and behaviors they made, just to end up with the same shit sandwich they got.

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]]> By: Sheleen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1238564 Wed, 17 Jun 2020 08:21:39 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1238564 In reply to Lina.

6 months since he walked out on me and our 2 children with bank accounts drained, no bills paid for months, house in preforclosure and 2 days after my oldest sister died in her sleep. My oldest son is special needs and I quit working to care for him and be a stay at home mother. I NEVER saw it coming. I had him stay with family because I had to commit him twice in a month and then he attempted suicide and wouldn’t allow me to get help. But I did and I had to make him stay somewhere until he was stable and on medication for safety reasons. It was a month later when my sister died and he came back home for support but I didn’t know he would pack and start a fight where he was the cruelest he has EVER been in 15 years and held back nothing with the kids standing there. My entire would crashed so fast and then Covid happened. I’m tired. I’m worn out, and I don’t have help. I know how sick I am for wanting him to come back and now I think that the chronic fatigue and chronic pain was due to him and I needed him because of it. I know that I need to get my shit together asap and I am trying. But everything is about the asshole narcissist. I know what a p.o.s. he is! I don’t need to decode how f*cked up he is because I lived through it and I sure don’t want to open up about the real NPD abuse. I have to surrender. I need to stop fighting life, I just don’t know how.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1238026 Sat, 30 May 2020 00:38:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1238026 In reply to Jennifer.

Hi Jennifer,

it’s my pleasure.

I love that you decided to put his voice permanently on mute.

Power to you Dear Lady and much love

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Jennifer https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1238019 Fri, 29 May 2020 15:42:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1238019 Thanks again, for another insightful email.
I believe your message has finally clicked for me. I’ve learned recently, to focus on this one simple fact – the one thing that breaks the cycle of cognitive dissonance and confusion from all of the manipulation and gaslighting – don’t pay one ounce of attention to his words. The words that say he loves me one minute, but then will ignore me or do some under the radar jab at my heart – Only pay attention to his actions. I’ve permanently put his voice on mute. When I do this, I see that his actions say that he doesn’t love me, he doesn’t respect me and he doesn’t value me. Narcissists love to try to shake your firm grip on reality, and this is how I broke the spell. Mute his words and pay attention to his actions. Total game changer.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1237911 Mon, 25 May 2020 23:36:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1237911 In reply to Samantha.

Hi Samantha,

I promise you that it is totally normal.

The effects of N-abuse sare terribly difficult to let go of, unless working with deeper more effective tools.

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I hope that this helps

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Samantha https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1237898 Mon, 25 May 2020 16:14:55 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1237898 “decisions happen without your involvement or any consideration for your values and desires. It is “sold” to you as this: this person knows what’s best for you because YOU don’t have the ability to know or decide what is best for you.” This also resonates, as if I’m not a self determined adult and my opinion doesn’t matter. Is it normal to feel utterly and completely infuriated and not be able to let go of that?

]]> By: Samantha https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissistic-mirage-coming-to-grips-with-who-they-really-are/#comment-1237897 Mon, 25 May 2020 16:13:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=8199#comment-1237897 “decisions happen without your involvement or any consideration for your values and desires. It is “sold” to you as this: this person knows what’s best for you because YOU don’t have the ability to know or decide what is best for you.” This also resonates,, as if I’m not a self determined adult. Is it normal to feel utterly and completely infuriated and not be able to let go of that?

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