Comments on: The Pain of Narcissistic Abuse Won’t End Until You Do This

By: Always Grateful

Always Grateful — Mon, 18 May 2020 08:28:17 +0000

Thanks for the reminder that life is happening FOR me, not to me.
I heard this somewhere years ago and it immediately resonated, it just smashes us out of victim mentality. More now than ever, as I strive to grow and evolve and accept my own parts in everything that has happened and will happen in my life.
So much to be grateful for, especially living real, taking and accepting responsibility for my own life, actions and words… It can be a painful process to have to see ourselves for who we’ve been and our inauthentic actions towards ourselves and others, but wow is it a powerful lesson to become our true self.
That’s not to say I get it right all the time, I can fall back into the trap of ego, child, blame, victim, but I see it now, and I’ll own it and make active changes to get me to the next level.
Your videos are truly helpful. Appreciate all the effort you put into this topic. Mostly I appreciate your truthful views on taking personal responsibility for my part.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 28 May 2019 00:24:27 +0000

In reply to Vlad.

Hi Vlad,

I am so pleased you made your way to my book and NARP and this community and it has helped.

Vlad most healers are drawn to healing work because they seek relief for their wounds. But I’ll put this to you, and you will know because you are doing the deep cellular work with NARP directly in your subconscious programs…

Have they met their deepest wounds genuinely? Have they loaded them up and released them and shifted beyond them to become a new unwounded self on the topics of self that they needed to heal.

Anyone can have knowledge, and even powerful knowledge to grant others, but have they slain their own inner demons by sending them back to the light?

After my own intense journey where I had to die to my old self and fully face her to do so, I really believe that is the spiritual test of Being what we teach.

Also know there are many spiritual narcissists, caregivers, health workers, teachers and child workers.

These are fields ripe with narcissistic supply, as any close up and personal vulnerable health industries are.

Don’t confuse ‘spiritual’ as meaning ‘wholesome’. That is not necessarily the case.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Vlad

Vlad — Mon, 27 May 2019 18:20:30 +0000

Dear Melanie – thank sooo much !

I was in relationship for ten years and it started as a companionsnhip on a spiritual journey, that was one reasons which keot me so attached. When it became unbearably painful and crazy I have prayed and was guided to the bookshop where your book was just waiting for me. It was like you brought the light into the dark room. The riddle of 10 year relationship was explained as if you knew my ex personally. I subscribed for your course and soooo grateful for your work ! It feels like you saved my life! I immediately disconnected from the relationship and went no-contact ( it was not so easy – I was so attached !)
I still have a question unresolved – my ex-girlfriend is becoming a guru herself with a teaching similar to yours in some details , she spent most of her life healing , going to workshops, satsangs etc. Now she is thriving – she wrote a spiritual book , preparing a website and at the same time she has been showing most of the traits of narcissism exactly as you described and recently as she became more in her power it became much worse.
10 years ago I have accepted her as one my gurus, and I am grateful to her – she pushed all my unhealed buttons.
Still it is a question for me – how her narcissistic side and her role of a spiritual teacher can go together ?

Much love to you and deep deep gratitude for your mission 🙏❤️🌸

By: Marcy

Marcy — Tue, 02 Apr 2019 00:43:19 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Boundary beast!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 21:14:23 +0000

In reply to nath.

Hi Nath,

It’s always tricky with narcissists because generally they don’t do ‘the thing’ that respects us even if they say they will.

Agreements generally mean nothing. Words are cheap, action is the truth.

For our boundaries only we can be responsible for them. Which means when you may not be able to change other people’s actions including the people responsible for the application.

Often with retaining your boundaries and generating your real life can only work when you let go of contact, connections and move up and out of all of it.

Energetically shifting it is one thing, but it may require the real life action too.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: nath

nath — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 13:34:57 +0000

Hi Mel, sometimes I’m searching on the line between shifting in the inward and the outer will change and also setting boundaries to the narc. Example: the narc is going to applicatie for a job since he knows where I work with would mean dat we need to refer to each other. We made the agreement not to do that. I don’t want to see people together, he tried to hurt me via clients so then I’n wondering do I need to go completely inward and leave his attempts for what they are or do I need to talk with the people who are responsible for the application and explain that we made an agreement and that I strongly have the feeling that he wants to do this to come into my sphere so that they know and know that it is going to have a negative effect on the clients?
The narc only wanted his own business until he found out then suddenly we get this.

Much love

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 04:53:49 +0000

In reply to Autuum. I’m so pleased it is Autuum. Bless 🙏💕❤️

By: Autuum

Autuum — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 00:47:32 +0000

This is so encouraging to me. Thank you

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 31 Mar 2019 00:42:20 +0000

In reply to TT..

Hi TT,

That’s a great question. TT the total honest answer is it’s never done and I don’t want it to done … otherwise how could I release density to bring in more light to keep expanding and evolving.

The thing is there is no finish line and we need to get past the ‘I have to get this done’ and just know that this is our lives work to let go of fear and pain to let Source flow through us more.

I understand where you are at, I used to be the same … until I targeted the trauma causing me to ‘have to heal everything to be acceptable now’ and all else driving the ‘obsession to heal.’

By doing so you will notice such a shift.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️