Comments on: The Proven Way To Heal Toxic Relationship Trauma – Part One https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 18 Jul 2021 08:46:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sabine https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1254363 Sun, 18 Jul 2021 08:46:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1254363 I have suffered so much and keep on suffering; I want to stop this and feel I am finally ready to heel although I am scared to fail again. Thank you for this video Melanie, my ‘gut’ says that it is a good path to follow to heel.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1220057 Thu, 21 Nov 2019 22:06:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1220057 In reply to Lu.

Hi Lu,

Please know sweetheart that you are feeling like this because there are unmet unhealed belief systems and traumas inside you that require you to turn inwards to heal them back to wholeness.

I really want you to know I completely understand how you feel, and the helplessness of it all. I was exactly in the same situation, feeling broken and powerless to get love right until discovering and actualizing the real inner work to come home to myself, which nobody else could ever provide.

Please check out NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp which is the way myself and others found and healed our deep inner fractures, and connected to true love with ourselves which then allowed true healthy love with others.

I hope this helps.

Mel πŸ™πŸ’›πŸ’•

]]> By: Lu https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1220017 Thu, 21 Nov 2019 18:50:21 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1220017 Hello, I’ve come across this site in the midst of reeling and struggling with the trauma of an emotionally abusive/controlling relationship – which culminated in finding out he was cheating in the end. My relationship was only less than a year, but a lot happened. I ended the relationship numerous times… but always found my way back to him. Once the cheating was discovered, I ran… I ran and found myself launching into the dating scene again literally weeks later (having not dealt with any of it) and started dating someone (it’s been just under two months) and am currently already on the outs with a pretty decent guy, but that I’m not ready for at all emotionally.. I’m honestly not wholeheratedly invested in bc I can’t be (i’m afraid and paranoid) – nor have been my best self with. I contacted and almost ran BACK to the toxic ex for some sort of warped level of comfort of reassurance and to feel valued – only to then feel worse because as often as I told him during the relationship its not my job to fix his issues, it’s his – it seems I’m not applying that same logic to myself. While he was the one who hurt me, it is my job to fix myself and to love myself again. Not to seek validation from him or any other man for that matter. I have planned and cancelled meeting him for dinner twice now. I know in my gut I need to stop contacting him and cut him from my life completely in order to move forward. I know this logically but it’s so hard to keep focused on. My brain feels foggy, i can’t concentrate at work, I hate being alone, I am clingy and needy and it makes me feel worse about myself. I feel rejected by the new guy which is something I’ve never felt before (he’s ghosting/fizzling) and it could not be at the worst time. I’ve always prided myself in being a strong woman who knows who she is, and knows what she deserves …. but I admittedly have always had deep seeded insecurities when it comes to men and relationships. I don’t choose quality men. I feel less than. Like a fool. Like a loser. Unlovable. Unwanted. A failure. I’m 37, single mom to a beautiful 9 year old girl – and have never been married I feel like something is truly truly wrong with me. I want to have a healthy strong relationship and partner and I feel like I am destined to walk this earth alone. I feel like hiding under a rock and never coming out again. Why am I like this?

]]> By: tami https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1210626 Mon, 07 Oct 2019 06:13:17 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1210626 Melanie, I can’t get past the fact that he has stolen my life from me. I am approaching 50 and am broken emotionality, mentally and physically. I will never find a love to grow old with. He has robbed me of the that. I might of had a chance 10 yrs ago but no one will ever love me now, not now. We have been married for nearly 30 yrs. I just can’t believe that I have nothing! Worse than nothing, I am a bitter ugly person that no one wants be around , I can’t even stand who and how I am. It’s not fair!!!. I don’t know how I’m going to get through 1 more day let alone a divorce. I have been a stY home mom our entire marriage I still live with him as I don’t have anywhere to go, nor any way to support myself nor my daughter. I have a 15yr old girl at home. just this last paycheck he has opened a new account and hS cut me off 100% financially. He buys food but keeps it locked away from me. I’m diabetic and he will not provide my medication, I almost died a couple of years ago from keytonacidosis and that will most certainly be my fate soon without my insulins. I don’t know what to do…I don’t know what to do.im sorry for going on I know I’m pathetic but noone knows or believe s what I say about him.

]]> By: Rima https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1207362 Fri, 20 Sep 2019 13:48:15 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1207362 this happened to me sister

]]> By: Viktoria https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1202215 Fri, 23 Aug 2019 22:11:12 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1202215 Can you answer my question? I think my mother is a narc. and histrionic. She shouts regularly. But she is the one having fibromyalgia. As well as her sister. Which is also for sure not quize healthy character.
Why they have this? They are obsessed with busy acting (cleaning, caring despite all boundaries of others) but have not a lot of achievements to show.

]]> By: Mary https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1184440 Sun, 23 Jun 2019 01:35:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1184440 How can I heal when I am still living with the narc I have 4 small kids and he is the breadwinner as of today we have not spoke for days and I have tried to ignore him and go silent but, I do have to text him for money for the kids it is so hard and it’s becoming like he is making me beg for it almost . We got into a huge fight before the silent treatment and I told him many things like how I have all the documentation of his online cheating and I would use it against him if forced and he lunged at me and I did call his mother which has enraged him . I know some of this is foolish on my part but, after 8 years of this abuse I’m honestly at my wits end . I pray so hard for a change he does not go to church and it feels almost like I’m living with a demon at times and it is only getting worse .

]]> By: Jacqueline Arwood https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1180573 Fri, 14 Jun 2019 01:32:08 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1180573 I have been isolating. I don’t want to leave my home or talk to anyone. I can’t find a therapist that takes my insurance. I am not sure what to do. I want to be happy again.

]]> By: Ginger Hancock https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-proven-way-to-heal-toxic-relationship-trauma-part-one/#comment-1180185 Thu, 13 Jun 2019 11:54:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6849#comment-1180185 CBD has helped me SO much!! Get a good product. Organic and CO2 extracted.

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