Comments on: The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Punishes You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Mon, 19 Feb 2024 17:10:47 +0000 hourly 1 By: Gina https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1284498 Mon, 19 Feb 2024 17:10:47 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1284498 Hi, I was abused by a narc boss for ten years and stalked for 17 because I worked for his rival who got promoted. I wrote the fiction version in The Dark Mask (kindle).

]]> By: Laura Haydon https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1284494 Fri, 16 Feb 2024 10:42:35 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1284494 I hear you about the messages narcs bring and I already had the feeling that I was attracting these people and situations due to my unconscious desperately trying to wake me up. However, I don’t agree that joining narc abuse forums is a useless exercise that only ends in entrenching a victim stance. In my case, the major narcs in my life have been my parents, the people also responsible for wounding me in childhood. For me, the purpose of those forums and the validation they provide has been to see and free myself from my narc parents’ projections and the way they have distorted and / or erased my identity. Sorting out those introjections is crucial for me in reclaiming my identity and recovering from the smearing of my character. I do also see that this stage is intermediate and that looking inward to heal childhood wounds is the final and essential stage in the process.

]]> By: Etta https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1271481 Tue, 02 Aug 2022 12:21:17 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1271481 In reply to Valerie Palmer.

im sorry you feel that way

]]> By: Saiydah J Hipps https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1268593 Sun, 08 May 2022 21:44:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1268593 Wow!!! SIMPLY Amazing 👏 😍 ❤ This Helped so much!!! ThankYou!!! This Was One Painful Relationship Ever!!! U Saved Me!!! FORREAL!!!

]]> By: Tracy https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1259919 Sat, 04 Dec 2021 00:47:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1259919 I’m not even sure where to begin.
I keep coming back to these articles and something always hits home .
Here’s the situation.
My husband hates me …he has this deep seeded resentment towards me and has even spread it towards my children …and pays zero attention to my grandchildren.
This started almost immediately after we were married. To be honest I have never been a person with a desire to be married (runaway bride).
I was married before .
Seems I have a pattern of picking partners that seem to change over night.
Maybe it is me. I did grow up in dysfunction in its finest.
My current husband was married before also..oddly enough we have same name.
Anyways maybe he was always this rotten…but for whatever reason I can’t seem to ever get ahead enough to get out. Hecthreatens to sell house ..so when I ask for a divorce and call realtor he completely ignores . We don’t share children together but jointly our kids used to be friends one of reasons I thought this was going to be a good idea. The kids all hate each other.. and the only kids are value are his because they can do no wrong …according to him. .
My daughter just left because he was sooo rotten to her. I have gone to counseling most of this relationship but I’m still in it. I am not a stupid person…help! I am 50 and feel stuck!!

]]> By: Kat M https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1249105 Sat, 27 Feb 2021 00:16:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1249105 In reply to Amanda Fairchild.

It has really been a healing method for me but I had extreme abuse and I tried everything else. I think it gets to that point before you even have a chance to understand the truth of this article. Anyway, I hope you find what works for you.

]]> By: Michael https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1233274 Wed, 04 Mar 2020 07:06:03 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1233274 I’m glad you think so highly of me. It’s amazing what you can find on the internet knowing what you’re looking for. I have to speak with you, not that I want to, but I have to. For your sake and mine, i need you to come by sometime or to call my mother’s phone or house and ask for me. I will reiterate this, it is very important that I speak to you. I wouldn’t reach out like this on here if it wasnt absolutely neccessary.

You know who this is. M.

]]> By: Katie https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1218027 Tue, 12 Nov 2019 16:20:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1218027 I needed to hear this. Down to every last word. No more am I going to waste my precious time on this earth “searching” for the closure I did not get on countless youtube videos on narcissism. From now on, this article and your teachings is all I need.

I asked my spirit guides to enter my life and to help guide me. From then on, I have not felt pain, mostly just numb, but I have let the narcissist go. It is as if my higher self and my spirits guides (whatever you may call them) are directing me in the right direction. I no longer feel the need to have the narc in my life and never before have I felt this way.

I do believe we are here for a higher purpose and for our souls to evolve. I was born into a narcissistic family so I know it’s in my DNA as well. Just being away from the narc for a couple of days, I have felt a tremendous amount of peace and healing starting already. It is true that much joy and gratitude comes after such a horrific and terrifying experience with a narcissist.

Thank you for you article and message and I look forward to reading much more from you. However, this article in particular has a special place in my heart. It gave me what my heart already knew and was crying out to say but couldnt express it, if that makes any sense.

Peace and blessings,

Katie

]]> By: Marylyn Walkers https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-real-reason-why-the-narcissist-punishes-you/#comment-1201017 Fri, 16 Aug 2019 16:25:45 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=3440#comment-1201017 I am a mother and this helped me!

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