Reading around this topic a bit more online, there are a couple of alternative ideas. I think a soul contract, perhaps as a Karmic Debt of some sort is still valid. But as for the soul of the narcissist, perhaps the individual is disconnected from their soul? Or overpowered / unable to take full control of their body. People with NPD appear to operate on almost a purely from the egoic mind (and they all operate with similar modus operandi / traits) which leads me to think the body not the soul is taking the lead.

Reason that this sits better with me is that I can’t imagine a soul which is damaged being permitted to re-incarnate (under the guidance of the guides / elders).

You discussed souls creating mental realities within a soul group (Larrakin Group) and I’m sure this does happen, ie the a group that didn’t want to grow or learn. Free will exists in the spirit world – even if that means growth is slowed or even halted. I would imagine such groups being under the care and guidance of more advanced souls / teachers (this is what they would be allowed to do, with the view that eventually they would get bored or learn the futility of such things, pushing them to move forward at some point in the future).

Another thing I could imagine for the existence of people with NPD is a soul re-incarnating with less energy (being over ambitious in their life plan, or wishing to incarnate in several lives simultaneously thus diminishing their energy in each incarnation – again perhaps being overly ambitious). This way, they could become disconnected from their soul during the incarnation (their bodies over powering them somewhat and the body taking more of a lead). I would imagine taking a body that’s prone to a personality disorder / mental disorder is a big challenge, perhaps one that not every soul succeeds in.

Thanks
Mark

Thanks very much for writing this article. Your writing has confirmed some things to me; as well as filled in some of ‘gaps’ in my understanding with regards to why I experienced narcissist abuse.

My older brother is a covert narcissist; in this lifetime; and I think this normalised some of the behaviours leading me into a series of relationships with other narcissists – a boss, and 2 partners. I thought the latter were the only narcissists I had encountered until the truth finally dawned on me (at the age of 50) that was brother was also a narcissist. Given he was covert and not grandiose.

My Mum and Dad were spiritualists / mediums and introduced me to Journey of Souls and Destiny of Souls in my 30s – while I was in a relationship with a partner (at around disgard phase). Talk about perfect timing! These books certainly helped me understand the bigger picture, that this was some kind of soul development test, and allowed me to at least aspire to becoming my higher self in the break up.

So I had help with the books, on what I thought was the first encounter with a narcissist – at just the right time. You also mentioned something else – how our soul group / guides reach out and try and contact us during such times. I haven’t developed the spiritual skills my parents had to any extent but I did experience really strong mental messages both at the start of the relationship ‘you are going to be hurt’ and at the end ‘it’s time for you to leave’.

So, I viewed this experience as part of my life plan and as awful as it was I left feeling guided / supported by spirit. Michael Newton’s books too helped so much. I read them with a kind of ‘knowing’ that they represented the reality of what we are – souls and that what we term as a life on planet earth is actually an opportunity to spiritually develop.

The reality for me was that I didn’t fully heal from this experience and carried a degree of victim hood around with me for many years after. I clearly had more to learn / experience as experiences with other narcissists followed (boss, partner, brother).

Long story short I developed alcohol abuse issues, which led me to AA and the initial ‘chaos’ of my spiritual awakening. I’m pleased to say that with the support of AA I became well again, continued my spiritual awakening and in hindsight I’m grateful to have gone through all of that to bring me to where I am now.

Only now, in my 50s am I finally unpacking the last residual aspects of these experiences (remnants of the trauma bond) with a view to letting all this dissolve.

I wanted to write to you to say a couple of things……

1. Two years ago I had a sitting with a medium. She told me that I had an agreement with a soul in the spirit world, and that that was what this relationship was all about (and that I needed to let this go). I believe Michael Newtons’ books also talk a little about soul contracts. Your article was so helpful as you re-affirmed this to me (3rd cue to get this through my thick skull! 😄). Now I feel like a missing piece of the puzzle makes sense and falls into place, allowing me to completely let things go with regards to these narcissistic relationships. I’ve heard what I needed to hear.

2. Like you, after reading Newton’s books, I wanted an LBL / regression session myself. It took my 20 years before I had the strong urge to take one but I eventually booked one up last year. In the first part of the session I was shown a past life in some images, which I found very interesting. I’ve done some research and understand this better and better (and how in many ways my current life is a continuation / culmination of this lesson). In the final part (when I got to meet my guide), it all took place in a dark void. Only at the end I saw a sun rise around a planets’ surface. I found it very confusing but after some investigation was that I was being shown my spiritual progression (partly as a result of all these experiences). My take is that I’m continuing my spiritual awakening and I’m in the early stages of exiting the ‘dark night of the soul’. Unpacking the last residual stages of abuse is allowing me to exit fully.

3. I was then left with one final question. Like you, I wondered who these narcissist souls were. Did they elect to choose bodies / lives which would absorb them totally in order to teach other souls lessons? I was also concerned that I might somehow be tied to my brother’s low vibrational energy, ie as a family member was he part of my soul group? Your writing has again answered this question for me.

Thank you very much, I’m very pleased to have found your writing. I feel that now I have everything to finish my emotional ‘unpacking’ and move forward into the light.

that is logical, rational to say it don’t make sense

Aww June,

thank you for your beautiful words.

So much love to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

I wish I read this when you published it – 6 years ago 😀 probably was still not ready. I would like to be sure that I was an abuser in a past life if I had to suffer so much in this one. I would like to be sure that the justice in this sense – how I perceive it – exists. I would like to have the certainty that the brand new souls of former narcissists suffer in their future lives. Or do some of us have to sacrifice more for the rest of humanity? I would like to stop this obsession.