Comments on: The Thriver’s Life Series – Guilt … Why You Feel It And How To Release It

By: Ensnared

Ensnared — Thu, 25 Mar 2021 15:07:39 +0000

There wasn’t ever any unfinished business until narcissists wormed their way in.

By: havdvhy@yahoo.com

havdvhy@yahoo.com — Thu, 11 Feb 2021 15:20:26 +0000

Yeah narcs use guilt to make you feel like you deserve the stupid, cruel or lying crap they do. They can also be obsequious, feigning long suffering servitude to a spouse or girlfriend they often punish for not wanting to eff them anymore, yet the narcs have no compunction about smearing their “ball n chain” to their friends or enablers the way immature teenagers do when trying to get popular from gossip and ganging up on someone.
Don’t be fooled, they may act passive aggressive and avoidant of communication like they feel sooo guilty(not) all while snickering like townie haters with their buddies to maximize getting attention and feeling important. #believewomen

By: Naomi

Naomi — Sun, 05 Jul 2020 21:58:35 +0000

I’m 19 by the way.

By: Naomi

Naomi — Sat, 04 Jul 2020 22:45:04 +0000

My name is Naomi and it is my father who is the narcissist and the one who verbally abused me, my mom, and my sister for several years. He fits the profile of a narcissistic abuser to a T- never takes responsibility for his actions, highly offended from even the smallest piece of criticism, lives by his own rules (that only apply to him), and constantly puts the blame and responsibility of his actions on other people. (My mom recently found this blog a few weeks ago and I am a newcomer). The hardest part of dealing with my father, is that I have to face the reality that he will never change. Every time he acts concerned or displays empathy, I have to remind myself that it is all just an act- my father has never felt a drop of emotion. He only cares about himself and doesn’t love me or my sister. How do you tell that to a teenager? How do you tell her that her father will never ever love her, no matter what she does? And then, how do I heal from that? How can I move on with my life knowing that my parent doesn’t care or love me?
I desperately want to not just know, but feel, that he cannot change no matter what I do and that I am not required to answer him because right now, it doesn’t feel like that. Right now, I am terrified of upsetting him because I know what the consequences will be- pure, uncontrolled rage. I am looking to be freed (why I came on this blog) of everything- guilt, anxiety, everything. I want to live my life without fear of my dad and I want to truly be my own person, the best person that I can be.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sat, 23 May 2020 02:05:45 +0000

In reply to LVM.

Hi LVM,

Thank you for your lovely words and please know how welcome you are.

My love to you as well!

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: LVM

LVM — Fri, 22 May 2020 09:13:03 +0000

Hi Melanie,
I am amazed at the depths of the connections and the clarity of your explanations about feelings so subtle to distinguish on the surface because so deep and too painful. Thank you for your help.
Sending love

By: Dedria

Dedria — Thu, 21 May 2020 19:54:22 +0000

In reply to Jennifer Aredondo. If you wonder if your a Narcasstic person, your not. If you even question it means you understand it. It is another person having to have control, period. Over everything they can. I feel you in the pandemic. Just remember you cant control anything but yourself. Cant control how someone else takes or treats you but you can remove yourself. I just ignore my spouse and his 30yr old son. Called bitch, where ect. I have insurance for now and that's important with my conditions but I control how I feel and I do not let what they say effect me anymore. Getting mad does nothing, talking does nothing, so I do nothing. 😉

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 19 May 2020 01:22:10 +0000

In reply to Luisa.

Hi Luisa,

hun you do know the answer to that question.

You can’t change or heal anyone other than yourself. Then who is healthy is who will join you in a healthy life.

Keep releasing with NARP any painful feelings, including guilt that are different to that truth.

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 19 May 2020 01:20:12 +0000

In reply to Sabine.

Hi Sabine,

sending you big hugs and healing to you.

The narcissistic prison, for a narcissist, is having to live with a False Self and the trauma that creates and feels like every day. They do not get away with it!

We, on the other hand, can heal from trauma and be released from the pain.

I’d love you to come into my free webinar http://www.meanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar to learn more about this and how you can get out of the trauma that is so horrifically painful after narcissistic abuse.

I hope that this helps.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💚