Comments on: The Top 12 Phrases All Narcissists Use

By: Kristina

Kristina — Sun, 26 Jun 2022 21:27:58 +0000

Hi Melanie-
Thank you for your continued supportive videos. The money I spent on thrive was the best I ever spent. I was in a 30 year marriage with a Narcissist. He continued to focus on his career, while I worked on mine while raising his, mine and our children, ran the household alone as best as I could. When it was time for retirement, which lasted about 2 weeks, our door was a revolving disaster of his grown children. When I stated I’ve waited patiently for 30 years to have me to myself for a little while, he responded like I was asking for too much. Then he blindsided me wanting a divorce for No reason. All I wanted was a why. All those lonely years… when he was never home making a name for himself saying he was doing this for us. I started looking inward making decisions for my life. He turned my children against me, got me fired from a job I truly enjoyed, smeared me so much in my community, even my very best friend turned her back on me- I had to move out of state to start over and it didn’t stop. He tried to turn the people in my new home state against me, luckily for me they were smarter than he. I found a WONDERFUL partner who I really took my time with. Eight months of dating before we ever became involved and intimate. Life isn’t perfect, especially when he tries to upturn my new life. He’s moved on with another less attractive, less educated, older Woman. I really feel for her, even when she badmouths me now and she’s never even set eyes on me. I know what she’s in for. There’s nothing special about him- I realized. I’m been going through a long drawn out divorce- the Courts are seeing him for who he truly is now and it’s because of this program. Thank you for sharing your wisdom with us. I don’t think I would have made it this far without this great community. Less Confused, Kristina

By: Healthy

Healthy — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 19:21:29 +0000

Wow I realize now who the narcissist is and glad I’m not an apologist for him and definitely don’t have an unwavering allegiance to a hard headed, incompetent and frequently tantrum throwing, toddler. Screaming and yelling at you and even kids or pets?
Whatever that is it’s crap.

By: Michael

Michael — Tue, 12 Apr 2022 16:13:29 +0000

I was amazed by reading this as if they were quoted directly from my narcissists mouth. I’ve had every one of these phrases used on me at one time or the other over the course of the last 9 months almost verbatim.

By: Helly

Helly — Sat, 02 Oct 2021 05:25:02 +0000

This is really crazy because I can recall all the events where I was told each and every phrase by my narcissist.

By: Faye

Faye — Mon, 07 Jun 2021 10:42:20 +0000

They all have the same traits

By: Holly A.

Holly A. — Mon, 17 May 2021 17:25:38 +0000

Hi Melanie,
Yes, ALL of these phrases resonate with me. I’ve heard every single one. The last one, ” I will always love you” came to me through my children. He sobbed to them about how devastated he was over our divorce and that he would always love me. I was infuriated that he send that through them. Now I understand what he was doing. “Killing” two birds with one stone. Reeled them in and got a rise out of me. At least by that point I had been no contact for a while, so didn’t say much in response and definitely didn’t contact him to express my dislike of him using our children to deliver his abuse.

By: Jerin

Jerin — Mon, 17 May 2021 03:09:47 +0000

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By: Brandi

Brandi — Wed, 28 Apr 2021 19:11:18 +0000

I’ve been reading several of the blogs. I’m not sure I’m dealing with a narcissist. Some of the things sound right, but he doesn’t have all of the qualities. We’ve been together 26 years and he’s never once idolized me. The first time he said he loved me was at our wedding when he repeated what the preacher said. He has just now started saying he loves me because I think he feels I’m pulling away. I don’t respond to his constant badgering anymore. He can’t stand that. He wants me to argue, but I’m just so tired of it. The kids and I walk on eggshells constantly to keep from upsetting him. Although it doesn’t always work. I can’t ever load the dishwasher to suit him. He goes through phases where he’s perfectly fine and then the switch is flipped. He will have two good weeks at the most and then four bad ones. He has been living in another state during the week for work. My daughter says our house is so calm when he’s gone. It really is. We dread when he comes home. He does have some good qualities. He has always worked and supported us. He coaches all of our son’s teams (baseball, basketball, football). People either love him or hate him. He is very possessive about money. I am the bread winner of the family, but he watches every purchase I make on our online banking. He has recently bought a business that should be very lucrative. He goes on and on about how smart he is and how wealthy he’s going to be. When I obtained my doctorate, he acted mad at me….never once did he say he was proud or anything like that. I honestly don’t know what I’m dealing with. I just know I’m tired of being nervous and anxious all the time.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 25 Apr 2021 06:42:15 +0000

In reply to Susan K.

Hi Susan,

it means that you are not healed yet and this is very normal after narcissistic abuse.

I highly recommend checking out NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp as it will free you from these traumas and triggers.

Sending you love and healing

Mel 🙏💕💚