Hi Court,

Please know sweetheart water finds its own level, it’s only people carrying deep subconscious wounds who are attracted and attractive to n’s.

When we heal enough to be a self generative Source to self we no longer have time and inclination to be around a person who is wounded and refuses to take responsibility for their wounds.

The connection would be over very quickly.

It would be like a healthy person being presented with great deep friend food – totally unpalatable.

Would a narcissist behave? No! They are triggered within and without by everything and everyone due to unhealed unmet inner traumas.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

Hi Mel,
I can see how narcs can serve s purpose for someone that needs to face their wounds. My question to clarify would be, “can a narcissist have a normal, healthy relationship with someone without these wounds?” In other words, does the women’s unhealed wounds just manifest the narc’s behavior? I keep thinking that if they find someone without wounds, they cease to be narcissistic?

He always seemed to give me pieces of the truth. My husband was battling to stay married and trying to stay by me because he felt I was sick. He made a decision to move our family cross country and get me away from my narc. Up until the minute we backed out of the driveway, I felt I was going to leave him, but I couldn’t do it bc of my children.
2 years passed I continued to stay in touch and see my narc at every opportunity. It was up and down and hurtful and I continued to go back for more every-time.
Most times I told my husband where and what I was doing,sometimes I would lie and just go thinking he wouldn’t leave me either way. I was so sick during that time. Selfish,cold and uncaring of my husbands feelings. I just wanted my narc.
I finally took the step to try a real relationship w my narc moved back to where he was for a trial period and it lasted less than two weeks before our first fight. Brought on by nothing and then it became a nightmare. He was controlling, demeaning, jealous and a crafted liar and truly has a dark soul. My fog had finally lifted and I returned home to my family. My husband was hurt and I damaged our trust severely but I want to share this… We are still married, very in love. He is my best friend and supporter and his love for family and belief in me kept him in when he had every right to leave me.

Honest true unconditional love is real and once I figured out that my hunger for my narc was fed by a need to heal what was broken inside of me, I was able to let go. I am a committed mother and wife.

Things and people come into our lives for a reason. My narc was supposed to teach me a lesson and I have learned it. Letting go is like taking your first breath again and in a sense finding that rebirth that so needed to happen.

Thank God my husband stayed and was my true north when my compass was spinning. Love is real and kind and forgives….

Hi Megan,

yes the truth is we can’t reprogram and deal with the wounds through our mind.

and that is where NARP comes in…

Then the struggle of ‘how to heal’ ends, and the liberation of true healing begins..

Mel xo

Hi Heaven,

I don’t know how many ways to say it..

You have to work on yourself and commit to yourself to recover.

NARP is your answer.

YOU have to turn inwards to yourself…

Mel xo

Hi Joy,

the truth is many capable, intelligent and attractive people strive for ‘perfection’ as an escape for feeling deeply inwardly that they we are NOT loveable for just Who They Are, but for what they can or can’t do to earn approval and wholeness…

All of the wounds connected to that Inner Identity pain was why we attracted narcs.

Narcs will always be ‘out there’ – the real question is WHO are we ‘in there’.

Mel xo

Hi Christine,

yes the orientation and determination to commit to ourselves does turn to truth.

I am so thrilled this happened for you Christine!

Mel xo