Hi Mary,

not a problem re your explanation length!

Okay Mary what is important to understand is the premise and healing is identical regardless of “who” the narcissist is.

My work is all about the Quantum Level of energy – and it is identical for all cases where we feel violated.

That being, when we still have energy inside us that feels powerless, attacked, under threat etc. it grants energetic fuel for the narcissist to act out.

Narcissist’s are the biggest reflectors / actor outers of our unhealed parts. And this is regardless of whether we were brought up in this environment, and it’s all we have ever known, or if we were abused later. It all relates back to our unhealed, under-developed parts that we can up-level unconditionally – no matter how they “got there”.

When you do that, and become the “state” emotionally of solidness, in emotional integrity and unfazed by her attempts then they will all fall flat.

That is why I promote the energy work of healing our own subconscious regardless of what the narcissist is or isn’t doing or threatening.

Which is what the NARP Program facilitates, and why it creates such real results.

Mel xo

Hi Beth,

it does work this end …

I am sorry I am not techno minded – but I have sent a message through to support to grant you some possible reasons / solutions.

Mel xo

Hi L,

you are so welcome.

You are so right – we don’t need to accept it.

I am so glad the interview with Marie helped.

Mel xo

Mine is not one of a partner who is a Narcissist, but is my own mother. She is truly terrible, I entered into therapy to fix my own wounds and realized being anywhere near her was wrong. My therapist told me to move far away, limit contact and then go completely no contact, which I did. It took her two months to notice I had cut her off. . she tried calling then showing up uninvited and when the door went unanswered she tried to send me a message about some mail of mine she had to hoover me back in, I completely ignored it knowing what she was doing. The next morning I woke up to an email from her saying she knows I’m ignoring her and that if I don’t reply to her she would take legal action against me to get visitation to my one year old son. She is following the steps any narcissist would take to try an regain control almost to the letter! I have made an appointment with my attorney to discuss her threat incase she does go through with filing for visitation.
I never replied to her, because I know the no contact is killing her. All contact will go through my solicitor if she does file as I refuse to engage with her at all, do you think she might actually go ahead with that or is she just making threats she knows will get my attention? being that its a threat to access my son who she knows I am very protective of. . I am very intentmon working on myself and have really enjoyed the piece and quiet. Sorry to write such an essay! 🙂
I am just wondering if I’m putting more energy into this ‘threat’ then is needed. . I know you say any energy is what they are looking for so I am just compiling evidence incase she goes through with it but all the while still just living my life. She is completely CO from my son and I and won’t be allowed in ever. From what you read though do you think this is another hoovering tactic?