Comments on: Thriving After Narcissistic Abuse Story #22 Yvette

By: Lisa Rutherford

Lisa Rutherford — Mon, 29 Mar 2021 12:53:01 +0000

In reply to Nicole. Hi I’ve just set up a narc group for lgbtq on meet up. It’s peer support. L

By: cat

cat — Sat, 30 Apr 2016 08:42:26 +0000

You would know. Your the one that likes to secretly behind their backs keep seeing someone else’s boyfriend whether it turns u on or your just a creep remember to drop an earring because it I don’t know it’s not about me (I don’t know remember asshole) it’s all about your insecurities and a safe familiar dirty cock

By: Jackie

Jackie — Fri, 09 Oct 2015 23:31:31 +0000

How great to see this and can not wait to read and listen to more. I am sitting here tonight looking out the window and feeling the immense emptiness of my life and feel completely immobile. It has been three years since I finally left my (lesbian) relationship with who I believe to be narcissistic and I still feel mangled and drained. The stark difference of who I was and how I felt before her and how I felt now is truly indescribable. I literally have nobody in my life and I wonder if it is a result of feeling weird and afraid. After all, our external life is said to mirror our internal life. I recently published a book that outlined the abuse of this relationship. I thought it would bring some sort of healing or understanding but I still often find myself baffled by the effects. With our codependent tendencies in narcissistic relationships, I literally gave everything. I followed that pattern until I had no resources and have struggled with homelessness and now I struggle to even believe anyone could truly love me, especially in the situation that I find myself in. So I don’t bother. The things she said to me have woven themselves so internally. I experienced a couple relationships…one felt magical and sweet…but after her, the constant questioning of myself is tiring. On top of the fact that being with a narcissist is draining and you can’t pour from an empty cup. I spent a year traveling and was relatively okay and then ended up back in the community she lives in and the impact seems to resound regularly. I never knew that someone could shake so much what once seemed unshakable.

By: Coming back

Coming back — Sun, 17 May 2015 19:30:20 +0000

I have been having a hard day. Then, I came upon this article. God really is conspiring for my good to see this at this time.
I was a straight woman who fell in love my lesbian ex-bpd/narc over 2 years ago. I was her third straight woman. That still bends my mind. Anyway, she left me abruptly last spring after the amazing high when she idealized me to the brutalizing lows that came through the devaluation . I went through intense therapy to treat the resulting ptsd and major depression. I finally started to pull out of in December. Prior to that, i was experiencing difficulty managing life on a cognitive level. I hold a professional position where I need to keep on my game. So grateful to have made it through that horrific time.
She became involved with my replacement in May, 2 months after she left me to “be alone to grieve” her ex although I suspect she was involved before she left me. She started calling me in July. Still with the replacement while i have maintained low contact because of a financial situation existing between the two of us and due to my relationship with her mother who died this morning. In the past week, we have had face to face contact where she has mentioned my replacement in positive terms (ie., she has a small butt and she was with her mom at her bedside as she died this am), seeming to throw it in my face as I continue to smile and show no reaction. At the same time, she continues to say she loves me, “dear” (which I choose to believe is as a friend). Almost relieved that our loss this am will result in less contact. I live in a very progressive community with large gblt circle but, in my pain, I have had a difficult time talking about it, especially since I am still close to her family. Her mother asked me to call her 2nd mom. It helped to read this article, provides a sense of less isolation and greater validation. Sorry for the long story. Guess still raw from the passing of a great lady who would have been my mother in law if this disorder would not have played such a horrible role. Guess it’s time for new beginnings. This article and the thought of a gblt support group attached to this area brightened my day. Thank you

By: Brandon

Brandon — Wed, 01 Apr 2015 07:14:33 +0000

Congratulations Yvette. I have only just broken free and changed my numbers and emails to stop my narcissistic ex boyfriend contacting me again. I am about to start Melanie’s program. So I’m not yet in a position to comment. But I’m so happy for you Yvette and I am hopeful of achieving what you have achieved. When I’m a Thriver I will share my story with you also. X

By: Martha Reilly

Martha Reilly — Mon, 16 Mar 2015 04:09:43 +0000

What you said about the relationship dynamics being the same in same-sex and hetero narcissistic abuse is very true. My friend who is a lesbian made me feel like I wasn’t all alone with all of the feelings of being in such an unbelievably strange situation. I’m a hetero woman. She was the first person I could relate to. The feelings of being so horribly disturbed by someone who can leave but not leave you alone.

By: Pam

Pam — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 14:01:21 +0000

In reply to Pam. opps I just realized I posted my comment on the wrong article! Sorry! But I am so proud of Yvette!

By: Pam

Pam — Thu, 12 Mar 2015 11:42:15 +0000

Wow! Thank you! This is exactly what I needed! Amazing article! I had not read about this before! This explains a lot!
Thank you
Pam

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Sun, 01 Mar 2015 05:27:48 +0000

In reply to Susan.

Hi Susan,

You are so welcome, that is wonderful that you are in synch with what you need – I love that!

You are so welcome re the NARP Program, and I am so pleased it has led you home to you.

Keep up the great work Susan ..

Bless 🙂

Mel xo