Comments on: Walking On Egg Shells Around A Narcissist Is Exhausting!

By: KP

KP — Sat, 18 Sep 2021 06:04:45 +0000

In reply to Merilyn E Wilson. Merilyn- try the Meet Up app. I found one several years ago in my town and it was very helpful. Everyone’s stories were so freakishly similar, I swear we were all dating/married to/divorced from the same person!!! It was wonderful to get a hug from someone that knew EXACTLY what you were going through with no judgment or criticism. Just compassion.

By: Ron

Ron — Mon, 13 Sep 2021 01:52:30 +0000

Sadly, I was a doormat to my ex narc girlfriend. I didn’t set boundaries in my relationship. I totally trusted her. She appeared early in the relationship to be exactly who I wanted to be with. When I asked her for a relationship, things soon changed. I saw the red flags but said nothing to her. I was insecure and feared she would leave if I spoke up. I lost a girlfriend years ago from an illness and then needed to care for an elderly mother who also passed away. I was completely healed when I met my girlfriend. I opened up to her but she responded with no empathy. That should have been a red flag for me but I ignored it. She walked all over me. I was weak in her eyes. She gaslighted me and devalued me with the silent treatment before she eventually discarded me with no closure. I wished I learned the important if strong boundaries. I was too naive and trustworthy. I’ve been in no contact for 5 months. Difficult with the ruminating about her. I kept a journal of my pain and hurt to remind me how awful and insincere she was to me. Her lack of empathy during a period of illness and her betrayal with an another man was the last straw. Enough is enough.

By: Les Taylor

Les Taylor — Sat, 11 Sep 2021 22:57:06 +0000

In reply to Sandra. Great insights It is refreshing to see that I am not the only one who is going or has gone through this shit I married a Narcissist 4 years ago only to find out that she had been romantically and physically involved with another man . We tried to make a go of it and just two months ago left me again for some man she met on line I have never heard of Narcissism before but omg am I learning fast

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 08:15:15 +0000

In reply to Peter.

Bless you, Peter!

You are always welcome and I love how far you have come.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 08:14:38 +0000

In reply to Carol.

It’s my pleasure Carol!

Love and blessings to you

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 10 Sep 2021 08:14:13 +0000

In reply to Nickolas Bliznos.

Hi Nickolas,

The truth is I’ve helped connect you to saving your life.

I’m so glad I could help.

Much love

Mel 🙏💞🦋

By: Merilyn E Wilson

Merilyn E Wilson — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 19:06:14 +0000

I would love to have a local group to discuss some of these issues face-to-face– think that would be a good healing experience.

By: JOinDC

JOinDC — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 19:05:57 +0000

It’s almost the 20th anniversary of 9-11. The narcissist parents I have zapped even that from me and my husband: He was serving in the Air Force, a Pentagon survivor thankfully, was called back to work with only a handful of people on 9-12 to work at 6 a.m., with the building still shooting flames up from the roof on one side where it was hit. My father’s birthday and parents’ anniversary is the same day. Do you think they called to check on us, knowing where my hubby worked? NO. Do you think they were sorry about it? NO. Do you think they made excuses and made it all about them? Oh, heck yeah. My Mom said, “Well, somebody told me the Pentagon was hit, and I wasn’t sure but they said their phone didn’t work to call their family, so I figured you would call when you had time. I am glad Jeff was okay. I was at a hair appointment that afternoon because your Dad and I were going out to eat, so it was just a busy day.” Yep. No call, for a full week til I called them. We were so overwhelmed, we had messages galore, the phone rang off the hook from people we barely knew or knew many years ago, from overseas where hubby and I had met…from everywhere. But, nope, not my parents. And, to this day, it’s a “Wow, do you know my son-in-law worked at the Pentagon when it was hit?” when they need fodder and drama, but otherwise, nothing. I eliminated any contact except sending Christmas cards long ago, because it was just too draining to keep up this charade of drama, narcissism, almost jealousy and hatred at anybody or anything taking time up from their own show. There is no love there, never was, and it was freeing to realize all the lies, manipulations, secrets, thefts of my money and personal items at home even when I was young, were all things done because they don’t know how to love. I let it go, slowly at first, starting in my 20s but by mid-40s had almost totally gone no-contact. Now, because they cannot feed off the drama, they try the same thing, not contacting me…and then once in awhile they’ll ping me, but not often and I don’t take the bait. So sad, but it’s freeing to let it all go! 9-11 means something to us, and even though it should to them, in ways other than their special days which we still tried to honor until a few years ago with a card or small gift, an international terror target as your workplace means attention should be paid, reaching out should be done, by healthy people who know how to love and care. Just NOT my parents.

By: ST

ST — Thu, 09 Sep 2021 13:45:35 +0000

Really powerful stuff -If this doesn’t offer clarity to those dancing with a narc I don’t know what will. Seeking love, acceptance, security from someone who can’t give it to themselves is simply madness. A losing battle and one that shouldn’t be started…