Hi Ayla,

I mean getting out traumatised places and associated thinking out of the way.

Letting go of what hurts and letting “God” (the Light) into those places.

Come into a free webinar with me http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

Where this gets explained in deeper detail.

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💞🦋

When you or someone says, “If we get ourselves out of the way” is not clearly understood, do you mean if we get our EGO out of the way by not retaliating or holding grudges against the person who have wounded us by forgiving and letting Karma or God deal with them instead?

Kkwl
Please dont blame yourself and try not to be hard on yourself. Its not your fault thinga have turnes out like this. Uv been so hurt by the abuse with him and then it seems you have continued to be more traumatised by the way ur family have carried on meeting him. Its not your fault and you don’t deserve this- in an ideal world your family would understand and be able to stand up for you. It is their own issues possibly unconscious that mean they havent been able to do this for you.
Im sorry for what uv been through and i feel the lack of care and support uv needed from others and have not had.
Its a natural coping mechanism or survival response that u have put up these blocks as you describe. It was too much for you to acknowledge/feel/manage the trauma and fear and you did what you could with what resources you had to manage things in order to survive. The longer you hold onto this way the scarier it gets to think of letting go of it, thats totally understandable. But its important to do what is right for you at the time which is right for you and you dont need to pressure yourself to do anything before you are ready.
When you are ready then you will be ready. Can you trust in that?I really feel for you but i trust that your time will come and you will begin a new journey which will be good for you
. I would like to suggest that you focus for now on being kind to yourself and accepting with compassion where you are at now. Take time to notice your feelings and accept them.
Also i wonder if it would be better to take a break from your family who are distressing you by their contact with him. Are they truely for you? Do you feel respected by them? In my case i agonised for years as my family didnt believe my ex covert narc was abusive to me and they continued to meet him. My mother would say i should “go to see a dr ” if i was to mention anything about him or that i was unhappy they had met him and felt unsupported whilst i was still recovering.. In the end i have distanced myself from them and its much better. I feel im loving myself by refusing to accept that the way carry on when it is not ok for me. It was after listening to Mels video on going no contact with family that i was finally able to do this. I saw clearly that it was ‘for me’ and it was only by holding onto fears that i hadn’t already been able to let them go. Wanting family to honour you and finding they don’t is a horrible trauma to deal with- well it was for me. It seems natural to me that you are struggling with this from your sister and family.
Sorry its late and this isnt well written but i totally empathise with you and was compelled to respond. Take ur time. Listen to Mel and other nurturing kind people. Take your time to process what comes up for you. Take new steps as you are ready. Xx best wishes

Hi Marianne,

That is so wonderful that you want to be free. The best way that I can help you achieve that is for you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where I can show you the direct past of freeing your trauma and healing, powerfully for real.

I hope this helps.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💛💕