I am always telling people to ‘Go Quantum’ when healing from narcissistic abuse.
Today in this Thriver TV episode I am going to explain what Quantum Energy is, what Quantum Healing is and HOW they both work.
We are going into the UNSEEN world where trauma has a hold and where healing REALLY needs to take place.
It’s going to be possibly the RIDE of your life … leading to a true healing solution.
Video Transcript
I get asked this question a lot.
A REAL lot.
People ask, ‘Melanie what does “Quantum” really mean?’
This is why, today, I wanted to bring to you this episode. To explain exactly what I mean when I talk about ‘Quantum Law, Quantum Energy and Going Quantum’ and also why Quantum Understandings are so vital to recover from narcissistic abuse. Actually, in fact, recovery from any trauma.
Okay, before we get started, thank you everyone who has subscribed to my channel and for supporting the Thriver Mission. And if you haven’t yet subscribed, I want to remind you to please do.
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I am going to attempt today to convey to you this understanding in cognitive terms. You may feel this truth cellularly within you, however, truly, this needs to be physically experienced to be REALLY understood.
As such, I have a very important offer for you at the end of this video, where I will take you on an experience of Going Quantum.
So please make sure that you watch all the way to the end.
Okay, let’s dive in.
The Definition of Quantum
The word ‘quantum’ comes from the Latin word quantus, which means ‘how great’.
The word came into use before the year 1900, in reference to quantum satis in medicine, which means ‘the amount which is sufficient’.
In scientific terms today, ironically the word quantum refers to the smallest particle. It refers to the minimum amount of energy required for change to happen, or the minimum value of any physical property in an interaction.
For the basis of how I teach Quantum Energy, it relates to the wave function beyond a physical particle. If you break down atoms to the smallest possible part, even to the smallest of sub-atomic particles, and go beyond what is physically able to be measured, what is left are only waves of energy.
What Is the Space?
What is this non-physical wave? Is it just space where there is no density?
We now know, scientifically, that the cells in our bodies are made up of 99.9999999% space.
What is the purpose of all of the space? And what would be the REASON for SO MUCH space to exist?
Is the space so much more than just ‘emptiness’?
Or rather is this ‘space’ the place where Universal Consciousness resides? Is this the God Particle?
Most Quantum Scientists believe that this space is Universal Consciousness itself. And I totally agree with them.
Dr. Joe Dispenza calls it ‘The Field’.
Many spiritual people believe that this space is in ALL places and IN everything, and that there is nowhere that it is not; they believe it is either God or an Infinite Intelligence.
New Quantum Science, in the search for where cells receive their information and instructions, after going to the smallest inside denomination, got down to a wave function of consciousness.
The conclusion is that all physicality is receiving its instructions from ‘the space’; from a consciousness that exists beyond the physical functions and compositions of a cell.
This is the ‘unseen’ from where all ‘seen’ is born.
A simple example of this, is that every physical concept birthed into reality started as a non-physical concept or decision (an idea) before it became physically real.
Quantum Energy is The Universal Consciousness, which is generating physical reality beyond what is measurable and seen. It is an infinitely powerful force that directs the majesty and beauty of nature and instructs the billions of chemical processes in our body to take place – without us even thinking about them.
Now let’s talk about how ‘Going Quantum’ relates to how you can TRULY heal from your trauma symptoms. Not to just try to manage your symptoms, but to get true resolution – meaning releasing the trauma so that it no longer exists inside you.
What Is Quantum Healing
The only difficulty in trying to understand Quantum Healing is that we ‘exist’ in our heads.
Our True Life is going on beneath the level of logical reasoning, and True Healing is about reaching emotional trauma that is beyond our cognitive perception, hidden in the body.
Because it is hidden in this way, we can’t reach it with our brain. The logical part of our brain, according to new neuroscience, does not communicate with our limbic and emotional systems where trauma is stored.
Let me demonstrate this with an example.
Repeat after me, ‘I think devastated’, ‘I think traumatised’,
Of course, these statements are meant to be ‘I feel devastated’, ‘I feel traumatised’.
Now repeat after me, ‘I think healed’.
Now say, ‘I feel healed’.
Which, if any, of these statements connect with you and could ever be true? Only the ones that are to do with ‘feeling’? ‘Thinking’ has absolutely nothing to do with dealing with your emotional state. You cannot think your way out of emotional trauma – no matter what you think, research or talk about, because these are all functions of the brain.
Quantum Healing is the releasing of toxic trauma in our BODY to create space for Universal Consciousness to come into our cells and heal what we don’t have the power to heal with our logical mind.
Now I can understand if you feel that this is lofty or even spiritual woo-woo.
Once upon a time I thought this too … before I started living my life the Quantum Way.
Maybe, as I previously did, you wonder why Universal Consciousness would even WANT to heal us.
The greatest ‘BEGINNING’ understanding that you can have regarding Going Quantum, is that there is a benevolent force of Wellbeing that reasserts itself within an environment that is supportive to wellbeing.
If we get ourselves out of the way – the parts of ourselves encased in the toxicity; the clogged up trauma that is not allowing that system to flow through us – then a Universal Consciousness enters us and we reset to Wellbeing.
This is the DEAL – the trauma within is not allowing us to experience Wellbeing. Because within our 99.9999999% cellular space potential, we have residing a ton of trauma, victimisation and pain.
It is not allowing us to be filled and BECOME Universal Consciousness. We do not match the organic coding of this Infinite Consciousness, which allows Lifeforce and Abundance to fill us, BE us and EXPRESS through us.
We are snapped off from this Benevolent Force.
Okay, now I’m going to explain this to you another way…
If you have a cut on your leg, you have a wound. If you clean up the infection, then healing takes place ALL by itself. It’s the NATURAL force of Universal Consciousness doing its thing.
Now let’s apply this truth of Universal Consciousness healing to an emotional wound.
Imagine you have an emotional trauma, an internal wound deep in your Being with an accompanying painful belief system attached to it, stored in your body as trauma. It could be something like ‘I am not worth loving.’
The TRAUMA and the accompanying painful belief are the infection. This ‘infection’ is something that has taken hold in you. It is NOT wellbeing. It is NOT Universal Consciousness.
This means you are now living cut off and separated from Universal Consciousness. You are steeped in trauma – experiencing painful emotions regarding ‘I am not worth loving’, as well as experiencing more trauma from other people who you would like to love you.
How do you return to the TRUTH of Who You Really Are? The truth that you ARE worth loving, which IS Universal Consciousness.
The ONLY way that it can be done is by CLEANING OUT the infection. By releasing the trauma that has infected your inner space – YOUR consciousness – so that your True Consciousness, Universal Consciousness, can enter you again.
This is vital, because it is your inner consciousness, in the 99.9999999% of inner space, that is granting the instructions to EVERY part of your life. Meaning, how you think, what you feel, who you meet, who you choose, who chooses you, and how you play out your life with people and situations.
Which Consciousness do you want RUNNING your life on auto-pilot?
YOUR trauma consciousness or the Consciousness of Wellbeing – Universal Consciousness?
Universal Consciousness is the vast, unlimited POWER of your greatest Wellbeing. Universal Consciousness is your highest potentiality to experience health, love, joy, life-mission, success and the only life that was ever going to truly fulfil you.
Universal Consciousness is YOUR Superconscious.
They are ONE and the SAME thing. And neither of them ‘get it wrong’. And they both WANT exactly what YOU consciously want!
Your most successful life can only EVER come to fruition when you release all the false lies and trauma trapped in your body – your subconscious programs – and get them out of the way to then fill with Universal Consciousness.
Only then will you restore wellbeing (heal from all your trauma conditions for REAL). You will also be filled in ways that will flourish and nourish you to create your life in greater abundance than you could ever possibly imagine.
But only if you do the inner work to get free of trauma. It’s just not possible otherwise.
One of the greatest lies we are told is that we are stuck with our inner traumas, and that our only option is to learn to manage and live with them.
This is a total LIE!
I promise you, when you Go Quantum and go inwards to load up and release each wound – which is exactly the process that my Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Program (NARP) takes you through – you will not JUST heal your trauma, but also SWITCH to becoming Universal Conscious/Superconscious Beingness on the previous difficult topics in your life.
This means you Go Quantum, which means:
BEING powerfully yourself.
KNOWING your values and truths, and aligning with them.
HAVING the self-worth, inner power and confidence to set limits, regardless of what other people are or aren’t doing. And…
BEING clean and spacious inside, so that true inspiration will both enter you and flow through you, unfolding your highest potential of love, mission, purpose and power.
Before this shift, you weren’t safe, solid and impervious enough to FULLY shine in your TRUE CAPACITY for all the world to see.
Do you understand now that Going Quantum is SO much more than just recovering from abuse?
Can you understand now that it is the reactivating of the TRUTH of Who You Really Are, allowing you to rise into your True Self and True Life?
I can’t wait to show you how EASY it is to do this and start experiencing this shift in ways and time frames that you didn’t even know were possible.
The REAL Simplicity of Going Quantum
The logical mind wants physical proof. Our mind is complex; it doesn’t want to accept the presence of an energy or a consciousness, let alone an infinite one.
Our logical mind decides that it needs to ‘figure it out’ and in doing so to ‘create complexity out of issues’. Our mind is in our way; it wants to think too much, control everything and do it all itself. There is NO way it wants to surrender to a force so much greater than itself.
Yet, once you do, you will wonder why on earth you wasted SO much time trying to do Life through your incredibly limited mind, rather than bringing your unlimited Superconscious Self into alignment with your creative subconscious powerhouse.
This is what Going Quantum is all about – working at the emotional energetic level to get to the real reasons why you are having the life you are and then, when you do, to reintegrate, realign and heal yourself at your Core – for REAL.
To work with reinstating Universal Consciousness (True Healing) within you, requires bypassing the brain and mind, and going straight to the level of belief. It requires connecting to and trusting your feelings, which are your body wisdom, which is your intuition.
Then it is about locating and releasing the trauma – in a way that I will show you how to do; and then filling the space with Universal Consciousness, which I will also talk you through.
The process is loving, gentle, easy to perform and grants instant and somatically felt relief.
In fact, the process is SO simple, that once you learn it, you will be ASTOUNDED at how much easier it is than trying to ‘think’ your way into wellbeing.
It’s, in fact, CRAZILY simple and incredibly NATURAL to do.
Which of course is exactly what the mind does NOT want to accept.
Okay, so this is it – a way to put an END to dragging your trauma around in circles for years, if not indefinitely.
Is this something you want? Freedom and healing from your trauma to get your REAL abuse-free life started.
Do you want that level of relief more than anything?
If so I’m going to connect you to it and show you how to do it TODAY!
If it is, declare it. Pause this video and write below, ‘I WANT to be trauma-free!’
Okay, so if you’re new to Quanta Freedom Healing, I’ve got something very special for you…
I’ve just put together a new course that is going to show you how to start releasing the pain, shame and trauma in ways and timeframes you may never have experienced yet.
Most people report, even after ONE Quanta Freedom Healing, incredible RELIEF.
And, I passionately want you to feel the same profound hope; the knowing that you CAN heal for REAL also.
I started the Narp modules one month ago when I realized I had linked up with yet another narc. It was my final surrender. I did not understand quanta healing and thought my way was working- wrong. So I gave it a try and with the first module my pain that I had felt for 3 weeks went away. I was a believer. And I have continued working modules and making breakthroughs. It is the best investment I have ever made.
Hi Joy,
I’m so thrilled for you that you stuck with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp, suspended disbelief and just followed the instructions.
Wishing you so many continued blessings and breakthroughs.
Mel 🙏💕💛
i want to be trauma Free
I want me and my family to be trauma free.
I want to be trauma free.
I WANT TO BE TRAUMA-FREE!
Wow! I want to be trauma-free. Thank you, Melanie, for your videos that have provided so much relief, already! ♡&☮︎
Hi Robert,
you are so welcome Dear Man!
Mel 🙏💕💛
I want to be Trauma free ❤️
Thank you 🙏🏻 Mel I’m really enjoying the NARP modules. Big love to you and MTE team and community.
Hi Penelope,
I’m so happy for you that NARP is great for you.
Thank you for your love to all, and so much back to you.
Mel 🙏💕💛
Got a question…how about prostate enlargement and cancer…can this be of help? I’m not sure if I’ve been abused by a Narcissistic person or not and that’s why I’m asking.
Hi Robert,
I really do believe that when we release and heal the trauma regarding any dis-ease, then we have the ability to reset to wellbeing.
This happened in my life and so many others, regarding conditions that we were even told were untreatable.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I WANT TO BE TRAUMA-FREE, I’am sorry, Please forgive me, thank you, I love you Melanie try my best to follow love from Holland
Hi Marianne,
That is so wonderful that you want to be free. The best way that I can help you achieve that is for you to come into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar where I can show you the direct past of freeing your trauma and healing, powerfully for real.
I hope this helps.
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💛💕
I WANT to BE trauma-free!
You are falling for pseudo science and making claims that cannot be substantiated any more than a placebo. Our minds tell is how we should feel, yet you want us to surrender to feelings not the mind, but then you also want us to skip the mind and go to beliefs, a product of the mind. Im sure there is great commercial potential in this but if you haven’t studied it you are proscribing something to people without evidence. You would not be happy if your doctors did the same for your cancer or other very serious and debilitating conditions which narcissistic abuse for many qualifies among the worst.
Hi Robin,
please do your research and go through all of the platforms of my Community and you will see real-life people who have had miraculous healing results. Check out testimonies and reviews all over the internet.
Is that a placebo?
Also, I invite you into my free webinar – no money down at all – to see for yourself.
Please have an open heart and mind in it and apply it to any severe trauma in your life to check out the results – http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar
In regard to what my doctor would say – what my doctor did tell me – 3 antipsychotics was my only hope to function at sub-human levels … was horrific.
If I had not found this way to release and live free of trauma I would be dead. As would so many other people I have had the joy to help. And thank God I wasn’t indoctrinated into systems where there was no hope to heal.
Also, my suggestions is to research Bruce Lipton and Joe Dispenza’s findings on the brain/body connection. And Candace Pert and Bessel Van Der Kolt to decide what is really going on with the brain / body connection. This is new neuro-science, which just like all upgrades is a much more complete and advanced scientific understanding.
I invite and challenge you to experience Quanta Freedom Healing for yourself and THEN make your mind up.
I look forward to having you in my free webinar.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I have been doing this for 10 months and it works. I am doing and saying things I could never have done without these healings. Most of my codependency is gone.
Robin, Melanie and her program are the real deal. If you put the effort into it you will see that it works. You need to keep an open mind and an open heart. Do whatever works for you but please do not lecture people here, because we are living proof that it works and to devalue this program by saying that it nothing more than placebo is wrong. People that are are surviving and thriving after using this program are EVIDENCE enough to me.
If you do extensive research on this subject , C-PTSD, Cluster B abuse survivors, Narcs, BPD, Co-Dependents, Empaths…etc and anyone dealing with trauma you will see that the trauma is truly internalized and deep in our core and resides in our subconscious. It is not as black and white as what you say. Again please be open with this program, different things work for different people. I thank God each day for this program, the system, Melanie and others that have taught me to go inside myself for healing.
SO WITHIN SO WITHOUT. I want to be trauma free.
I was in a 19 year relationship with someone, only three months ago I went NC. I was devastated. For 19 years my ‘mind’ told me to give him a chance, to fix him, to save him, to continue to love him…etc…while at the same time he was destroying me. My ‘mind’ and my conscious beliefs and hopes let me down. But my core, my subconscious always had anxiety, my gut was always telling me something was off, the heaviness in my heart, the stiffness of my shoulders…I always felt like something was very wrong, my body was trying to tell me to open my eyes up from this nightmare. I finally did. This program teaches us to connect again with our inner being our inner child and focus on the trauma that exists and let it go and replace it with light, with love with new possibilities…we learn to find unconditional love within ourselves and light and value and worth in ourselves first and foremost.
Again, believe what you like to believe for many of us this program is evidence that it works and Melanie is and Angel for guiding us and helping us caterpillars turn to butterflies.
“The body can literally reject someone’s energy. Your anxiety will start acting up anytime bad energy disturbs your spirit. Listen to your body”.
I love this program. Healings are incredibly easy and you will feel the difference in your body immediately. I had a dog bite that subsequently gave me PTSD symptoms; flashbacks, incredible fear around subsequent dogs, trying to avoid them. One QFH healing session got rid of it. The program helped me with healing depression and anxiety. I’m learning and healing trauma as I go. Thank you so much, Melanie for bringing forward such a remarkable way to heal.
Hi Kathy,
I so love that you LOVE NARP!
Awww sweetheart you are so welcome! What a beautiful breakthrough!
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💛
I want to be trauma free
Hi, Melanie! I have a question: what’s the difference between the Starter Pack and the NARP itself? And if it is just a smaller version of the program, does it really help though? Thank you for all the incredible work that you do!
Hi Olga,
the starter pack is the same introductory healing, the training QFH healing in NARP, the difference is a bonus video from me.
It’s great for peeps who have not done NARP to sample QFH.
I hope this explains!
Mel 🙏💕💛
I WANT TO BE TRAUMA FREE!
Mel, wow, this is to me by far the most profound Thriver video you have made (apart from the nARP program videos). The way you explain how Quantum Healing actually works by bringing in a metaphor which anyone can relate to (we all have had cuts and are witnessing the healing process, which, surprise, surprise, works with out us thinking about it) is brilliant. Many of the ancient cultures are actually viewing our universal field as a woven blanket. I always asked myself, if the twines and knots are our connecting with the field, what are the spaces between twines and knots. You answered it!
On top of this, I really like your new short videos on facebook. They are like a piece of a puzzle you have been looking for and which can get really annoying.
The metaphor of today opens up a totally new dimension for me, as it also speaks to my logical thinking.
Sending you love and energy. Tons of it.
Best wishes
Michael
Hi Michael,
thank you for your lovely words, and I am so pleased this was relatable.
So glad you are loving the short vids!
Lots of love to you too
Mel 🙏💕💛
I want to be trauma free!!
You’re an angel, Melanie. So grateful for all your insights and healing lessons.
Awww Peggy,
thank you.
Many blessings to you
Mel 🙏💕💛
I want to be trauma free!!
You’re an angel, Melanie.
So grateful for all your insights and healing lessons.
I am SO ready!
I SEE 2 lives on a constant basis, 2 paths. And I choose the one that is TRAUMA-FREE! The one that runs like a river of Light. May you all be Blessed, and thank YOU Melanie, our Beloved Pathfinder and Trailblazer… : ))
Love to all,
Valérie.
Hi Vee,
So beautiful you understand the truth …
Thank you for your love to all, and so much love to you.
Mel 🙏💕💛
If there are any doubters out there, know this: By watching Mel’s videos and listening and applying what she says, I have grown leaps and bounds in comparison to Five years of researching narcissism and trying to understand it. I wish I would have found her sooner. I have great respect and admiration for Mel. I only found her a month ago and my thinking has changed so much in a short time after 23 yrs with a covert.
Bless you Mel
Hi Cindy,
I’m so happy that you are breaking through into relief.
Many blessings to you Dear Lady.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I would like to try one module – not buy the whole pack – have been seeing videos etc — have so much coming up very easily 0 have no prblms feeling it hearing what it is — have known that all along – but would just like to try module 1 – is there a place here to try it? (I can’t access email)
Hi kkwl,
With the New Starter Pack, you can try One Module http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/quantum
You will need an email to have it delivered.
Bless!
Mel 🙏💕💛
Mel,
I want to tell you a story related to this comment:
“It is not allowing us to be filled and BECOME Universal Consciousness. We do not match the organic coding of this Infinite Consciousness, which allows Lifeforce and Abundance to fill us, BE us and EXPRESS through us. We are snapped off from this Benevolent Force.”
The hardest part I have had with this journey is my tendency to think I have to “figure out” the solutions to everything… why I don’t feel well, why I don’t have enough money, why I’m anxious, why, why, why? And as I have worked my way through the modules I’ve calmed my mind with the realization that the healing comes with the “letting go.” This is SO hard for a person with a history of anxiety to do. We “think” we have to be vigilant, we think we have to solve things, we think we have to DO something to fix the problem. We were told when we were young that if you don’t worry, and anticipate and prepare for the worst that we are fools…. SO… the LETTING GO and the TRUSTING are the biggest hurdles. That programming is very stubborn.
So, I had this experience last week…. I was having a day when I wasn’t feeling well, anxious about my finances, headaches, dizzy, tired, sore throat, feeling unwell and scared and frustrated. All of a sudden I noticed the sky was turning pink with the setting sun. I grabbed my camera and started taking pictures of the most STUNNING sunset…. oranges, pinks, purples, reds, blues…. AMAZING. I became entranced and thrilled by this display. After about a half an hour of amazement it became dark and I put my camera down and started sharing my photos with friends online. When I was done, I noticed….. all my physical symptoms were gone. GONE. Just gone. When I connect with that magnificent force that makes a beautiful sunset all my “bluck” disappeared. It’s a comforting reminder that this is NOT just a bunch of hooey. There is truth to this, even if we can’t measure it, or see it on an xray. It’s the magic from which we were created.
Hi DMJ,
It is so normal to have the mind try to intercept and figure it out.
The more trauma we have onboard the more the mind is in overdrive trying to get us free – yet that is the false premise – that it can!
Oh yes so true – the letting go is everything! GREAT you are JUST doing this (more and more).
And .. you can even target the trauma in your body causing you to ‘over-think’. That is revolutionary!
How gorgeous that you connected with this force DMJ!
That is God Godding! Thank you for your beautiful story!
Lots of love to you
Mel 🙏💕💛
How funny, wise, and incredibly helpful to learn that “God” is a VERB!
You make me laugh, and that is good.
Thank you again for saying just the right stuff.
Connection (not more “thinking”)–letting yourself remember your original, true connection–is the remedy for trauma.
I’m ready for trauma-free “Godding”!
Hi Weena,
Hahha glad you loved this.
Godding is awesome!!
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💛
Dear Angel Melanie,
This video explanation is obviously Divinely Inspired.
You explain the ‘wholeness’ (healing) recovery process beautifully. We are RESTORING to an original wholeness.
We are returning to WHOLENESS WITHIN our TRUE Selves an ALL “Others”. ONE FIELD
This Unity is why LOVE on Earth as the ruling Principle is the only Law that makes sense. Because we are really ONE. Because there is ONE UNIFIED FIELD and we (humans) have the privilege of being able to REALize a full consciousness of the harmonious REALITY underlying all Being. Thank God for everything that drives us to solutions outside of our own little myopic view. Clearly no one is left out of the ONE field. Eventually ‘every knee will bow’ that God may be “glorified” (honor reflected perfectly back to Source).
This Quantum REALIZATION is the Peace of GOD. Christ Consciousness. The At-One-Ment.
Universal Salvation. Succinctly and lucidly explained, de-mystified, and revealed.
I honor your work here. Thank you!
Hi Iris,
Thank you sweetheart for your acknowledgement. It was definitely time to create this episode.
Again your words of wisdom are so beautiful and true.
I always love and appreciate your shares.
Blessings to you beautiful lady.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I WANT to be trauma-free!
One of your best videos, Melanie💕♥️ Thank you so much!
Love, Malin 💕
Awww Malin,
I’m so pleased you enjoyed this.
Much love
Mel 🙏💕💛
I was brought to my knees when my husband of 24 years discarded me overnight. In an attempt to find relief from the excruciating agony of abandonment and betrayal, which consumed me for more than 8 months, I read everything I could find on narcissistic abuse and fortunately came across Melanie’s NARP program, and out of pure desperation signed up.
I am a scientist, so was naturally skeptical of all woo woo, such as Quantum Healing, but being suicidal decided to try it.
Melanie’s insights into the traumas of narc abuse validated the agony I was experiencing, and her energy healings have brought the most unbelievable relief. I don’t know how it works, but it does. The more trauma releases you do, the better you feel. It took a few weeks before I finally got to the point where I was glad I was still alive. I am now looking forward to my future . Thank you Melanie, you are a God send.
Hi Colleen,
It’s my pleasure!
I love that you received such freedom and healing.
NARP does work and you certainly don’t have to understand HOW for it to.
Than you for your share.
Wishing you many additional breakthroughs and blessings!
Mel 🙏💕💛
I don’t know why, but putting it in terms of the space inside us being crowded with all these traumas that are clearly blocking the way to wellbeing pinged off a lightbulb moment for me. Thank you so much.
Hi Mara,
I’m so pleased this helped you feel this truth.
It’s my pleasure.
Bless 😀
Mel 🙏💕💛
I have had so much help from your videos Mel. This explanation of Quantum Healing really helped me to understand and makes so much sense. It rings true for me and I guess that is ‘intuition’ I have yet to dip my toe into the water of an actual session but plan to do so at the right moment. I just want to check there is no time limit to ‘click the button’ at the end of this video?
Hi Betty,
I’m thrilled that this made sense. That was my mission with this episode.
There may be a time limit coming up … we are presently deciding!
The time in ‘now’s Dear Lady. There is no better time to heal.
Once you connect to the healing(s) it is all there ready for you.
Much love
Mel 🙏💕💛
i want to be trauma free……
I want to be trauma free!
HUGE block to healing — ( have been doing steps you outlined in new module 1 video) –
but I don’t trust universe!!!
and self
I do NOT trust universe to bring GOOD things!!!!
I trust universe to bring ^ pain and prblms — that I need heal etc
I trust it is difficult and I have to work hard
I feel that in order NOT have bad things happen – come to me (bc ‘universe’ just “loves” ne so much it always wants and gives problems to grow etc ) — then I have to do extensive control measures —-
I have to KEEP self away – I have to remove self I have to do all kinds supplications etc — to guarantee things DON’T happen I DON’T want esp bc I an good person and DO NOT DESERVE THESE SHITTY THINGS
HAPPENING!!!!!
Plus I have this thing where I have to work REALLY REALLY REALLY HARD all time — I have to work hard to grow etc — and DON’T get rewards – just work really really hard — and get ^^ pain ^^ suffering etc
So even doing CONSTANT work to shift and CONSTANT work to clear and CONSTANT uploads etc — fits that pattern — Others get to have rewards and get to feel better and enjoy life – but not I – I have to suffer etc — I have to work work work and then get ^^ pain. I don’t get to have a life – others do
So that’s what I trust – that’s what I believe —
esp abusers – they get to have GREAT life – full of comforts and luxuries and good things money and parties and NO CONSEQUENCES EVER — they don’t even have to suffer!!! But I do — all victims do — our lives = ruined. WE have to WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK very very hard and we get no luxuries no money
no comforts — we don’t get to forget and just ‘live life’ — we have to FEEEL it and remenber it every day and OUR lives are altered and diminished —
but abusers have NO consequences – their lives are fine and they get to go on and have no thoughts they don’t feel anything (SOOO LUCKY!!!) SOOOOOO LUCKY not to feel anything – no remorse regret – NO PAIN
and plenty of luxuries!!!
I see it all time in world
and spiritual ppl have to suffer – we have to endure hardship we have to lose everything we have to FEEEL everything – empathy sucks — abusers don’t have to feel that – they are fine! they can keep going like nothing happened they feel nothing no regret no pain no thoughts no nothing – they get to have regular nice life
but NOT those who are hurt! their livs are ruined
and it’s NOT fair — and then they have to work really really really hard not abusers though –
and what is reward spiritual life????
nothing at all — just constant work and LOTS LOTS LOTS feeling -and getting hurt and abused (so we can “grow” bc universe puts this crap in our path — not GOOD stuff!! just ^ pain injury illness – so we lose more and more and suffer — bc THAT’s spiritual growth – never ending work and LOTS of suffering!!!!!!!!) with no reward (reward in another life???? Universe is NOT kind and loving – it does NOT help those who ask for help!! It does not help the ‘good’ ppl —– look at all terrible abusers who have tons money and everything they want!)
have heard it for years doing spiritual growth — if you want to learn patience the universe will supply you with all kinds of problems over and over and over until you finally learn patience etc — any spiritual lesson always seems to come w never-ending pain and abuse etc so we can finally ‘learn’ and the universe apparently is ‘patient’ bc it just keeps giving us lessons over and over and over. heal one thing – get another and so on
WORK — unendingly – never ceasing
Even in your writing I see that you have to do these sessions for hours and hours constantly to clear things out etc —-
the universe gives us adverserial lessons – gives us pain and problems
etc to “grow” that’s all we get —
so we heal one thing and then we get 10 x more crap on s thing else
This is deep belief have uncovered and it certainly blocks —- it is also my experience for 20 yrs – work really really really hard on spiritual stuff that quantum inner stuff and get MORE to work through – it’s exhausting. I never really got any reward – just MORE problems MORE work – MORE stuff to clear out
I have NO problem accessing the FEELINGs (I feeel it all CONSTANTLY) nor the beliefs etc — I can hear see all those —
it’s the shift!!
And also believing good things will actually come. Kinda like that old “God only gives you what you can handle” — so perhaps it’d be better just to stick w problems I already have – bc I don’t want even MORE to pile on as I “handle” here and now
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I really don’t trust if I ‘let this go’ — that the universe would supply any good experiences in its place (also bc holding on to PAIN etc has me doing all kinds of intense control mechanisms which have been very successful at keeping abuser away and OUT totally!) Why would I want to mess with that? I suffer the pain of holding the pain, BUT I don’t have to worry I’ll forget and have to let things back in again (not narc situation)
Hi kkwl,
as you suspect these are all painful beliefs that are not allowing the grace and ease of life nourished by Source.
I relate I used to have them too!
There is no other way than to let them go, even if you feel like you will die.
But you won’t. I promise you that you will go free.
When the pain of hanging on gets to be more than the fear of letting go, that’s when there is nothing else to do, but take that leap.
The great thing is with QFH you can confront the painful beliefs, even the ones that you feel like you will be unprotected and just keep shifting until you make it to the other side – the nirvana of Who You Really Are without these traumas.
I hope this helps.
Mel 🙏💕💛
Oh God bless you Melanie Tonia for responding to me!!!!!! I can feel the love and care in your words – the energy !
I am so surprised bc after I wrote all that out I felt how heavy it was — and so long! I thought: oh this might annoy her and she probably won’t respond — I even felt afraid to check and WOAH!!!! YOU DID!!!!
Oh God bless you!!
AM really really really struggling with this thing —-
it is SOO scary — and I have been in terror fear for a very very very very very very very loooong time. (used to it now I guess – I can live a diminished reduced life – have that capacity — the opposite feels TERRIFYING.) I mean, if you can’t trust the UNiverse!!! whew
Have been doing exercises based on your blog and run-down of module 1 for weeks now — I get cr*p come up while I’m trying to clear other cr*p!!! And I’ve been doing energy clearing work for years and years and years – within in silence, with energy healers and shaman etc
Not my first time at rodeo! Just feels so never-ending!
I am so grateful that you even responded!!!
If I may – I am REALLY struggling with something and will write it below — I have not even been able to talk about it for years!!! and honestly – the conscious block I put up WORKED!!!! it’s only lately that I have problems with things like: I don’t want to type the first letter of his name (this makes writing things difficult!) those are the triggers I have — and they center on other ppl hanging out w him etc. I feel like he doesn’t deserve it. I don’t know why NO ONE else takes a stand – or even takes a stand for/with ME!!! I’m the ONLY one and it is not natural to me so I have had to construct a very large internal thing with lots of control mechnisms (like not walk in certain areas etc) and all that is ‘fine’ with me bc my main goal truly is that he doesn’t exist and NEVER existed! just completely erased from everything.
But there are other family members ARRRGHHHHH
lately I cannot stand at all that they hang out w him and I feel terrified if I heal this — then what will keep that block up??? (bc it’s all me – internal etc)
I have so much anger and hatred there and I FED IT!!! I FED it consciously all these years so I would never forget (bc that was my pattern – never had much contact, I’d get over it, forget about it and BOOM! get shocked again) I don’t like confrontation I don’t like fighting, I’m a healer. SO I can hear pain in abuser — I seek to heal and STOP the abuse — I feel I am strong, can handle it etc— but no, I can’t!!
Anyway — it’s so friggin’ convoluted and in reality this is a stupid little pipsqueek thing (all my years growing up I never even gave this jackass much thought – he literally couldn’t touch me and never really entered my mind – quite successful at ignoring presence!) abuse came later
I jsut go round and round and round Talking about it doesn’t help — talking about it w ppl in family gets weird reactions (intense anger pain etc)
All I come back to again and again is : i want him never to have existed at all!!!!
And if I think of going through healing w this – terrified (because it seems spiritual people heal things and then can get along etc)
OH pls have compassion for all my writing!!!! these are my first times even talking about this — it’s been so buried — no contact for SOOOO long and that has been GREAT. When alone don’t even think about this and it NEVER comes up. Only triggered by others going there — so terrified to bring this up!!!!!! God bless you melanie!
Kkwl
Please dont blame yourself and try not to be hard on yourself. Its not your fault thinga have turnes out like this. Uv been so hurt by the abuse with him and then it seems you have continued to be more traumatised by the way ur family have carried on meeting him. Its not your fault and you don’t deserve this- in an ideal world your family would understand and be able to stand up for you. It is their own issues possibly unconscious that mean they havent been able to do this for you.
Im sorry for what uv been through and i feel the lack of care and support uv needed from others and have not had.
Its a natural coping mechanism or survival response that u have put up these blocks as you describe. It was too much for you to acknowledge/feel/manage the trauma and fear and you did what you could with what resources you had to manage things in order to survive. The longer you hold onto this way the scarier it gets to think of letting go of it, thats totally understandable. But its important to do what is right for you at the time which is right for you and you dont need to pressure yourself to do anything before you are ready.
When you are ready then you will be ready. Can you trust in that?I really feel for you but i trust that your time will come and you will begin a new journey which will be good for you
. I would like to suggest that you focus for now on being kind to yourself and accepting with compassion where you are at now. Take time to notice your feelings and accept them.
Also i wonder if it would be better to take a break from your family who are distressing you by their contact with him. Are they truely for you? Do you feel respected by them? In my case i agonised for years as my family didnt believe my ex covert narc was abusive to me and they continued to meet him. My mother would say i should “go to see a dr ” if i was to mention anything about him or that i was unhappy they had met him and felt unsupported whilst i was still recovering.. In the end i have distanced myself from them and its much better. I feel im loving myself by refusing to accept that the way carry on when it is not ok for me. It was after listening to Mels video on going no contact with family that i was finally able to do this. I saw clearly that it was ‘for me’ and it was only by holding onto fears that i hadn’t already been able to let them go. Wanting family to honour you and finding they don’t is a horrible trauma to deal with- well it was for me. It seems natural to me that you are struggling with this from your sister and family.
Sorry its late and this isnt well written but i totally empathise with you and was compelled to respond. Take ur time. Listen to Mel and other nurturing kind people. Take your time to process what comes up for you. Take new steps as you are ready. Xx best wishes
I have a very strong block to healing something and I created the block ON PURPOSE years ago (when no contact was broken bc after yrs I’d forgotten how horrible/unpredictable this person is.) No one else seems to have problem with him etc
So I CREATED consciously a HUGE problem and a block to REMIND myself NEVER EVER EVER to forget how horrible this person is (bc I figured that getting over things and going years in peace on my own life just to have him show up again (bc family) – and I’d forget (bc I’m a nice person and ppl in my life are generally decent) and then get SHOCKED and side-swiped all over again.
Not narc – but he has chromosomal issues — others just deal w it whatever. i am ONLY person who takes a stand. I truly feel he does NOT deserve to be anywhere near me or have ANY contact. I honestly just don’t like him (but that never seemed enough of reason to cut out completely) etc
Because I consciously created this block as a last-ditch effort to protect self and have it be like he NEVER existed and ALSO BECAUSE THAT WORKED!!!!!!!!!!!! I am extremely extremely extremely resistant to look at this.
It is getting triggered lately by OTHER people.
Here is fear/terror and I FULLY believe this:
I feel convinced that if I heal trauma then this person will show up in life again — and I DO NOT want this. For 10 yrs now I have been free — except in order to be ‘free’ I hold on tightly to pain and ANGER — and TONS OF FEAR — to remind self this person’s awful
I get triggered by other family members —- not self
when I am alone and not near other family members it’s not an issue – only comes up inside when other family members are around
I feel like I want 100% guarantee that if I heal this I NEVER EVER EVER EVER EVER have to have any kind of contact or run- in or anything in order to heal it. I will NOT release the pain (past pattern is I’d forget and it’d show up out of blue years later) But since deciding 100% to hold on to remembering how awful — that’s been succesful (except I have all this pain and triggers — but I guess I’d rather have the pain and triggers and not be internally free than EVER to have to have ANY kind of contact
the hatred reminds me — feels SO much better than when I used to let it go and forget
I don’t trust self and I DON’T trust universe (that’s why I have all these internal control mechanisms in place)
if there is no hatred no pain no anger – what would possibly prevent any run-ins
( I already worry about funerals etc – like I wouldn’t be able go – but that’s all bc I hold on to anger if I don’t have that no one would protect me!!! this person won’t change and I really don’t want ANYTHING there ever.
Holding on to anger has WORKED!!!! (nothing else did – the peaceful approach etc)
I just HATE when others go around him —
When I’m alone and not around other fam members it is off and not even issue etc —
When family members go see him I feel like: they should ALL cut him off bc of what did to me! Also for my sister, I REALLY like her and am close to her and I feel like he does NOT deserve to spend time with her (just as I feel that he does NOT ever deserve to spend time w me)
If they do go – I get SOOO antsy and I HATE HATE HATE IT with all my being. When I talk w them about it, they tend to get enraged
And if they do go – then I feel like they are “contaminated” ugh – I HATE that – like slimy energy all over and I want NO CONTACT OF ANY KIND.
For me – the ultimate goal is that he does NOT exist and NEVER existed
I can do that if totally on my own alone — but I HATE that they hang out like ‘nothing ever happened’
(they all claim they don’t really like it, but feel obligated to. My sister claims she has no ties, just does bare minimum)
MY FEAR AND TERROR is that I have been SO successful at having him literally not exist – just erased from life — but if I look at this pain and FEAR and TERROR – boom then his disgusting horrible image is there – and then I feel all slimed and contaminated. I don’t want my room contaminated with that energy — I don’t want to enjoy music I like and then think of disgusting horrible gross him!!!!
And I’m terrified to have to go back to the really really crappy way of living like they do – where they hang out (claim they don’t like it) but do it anyway ——
I really really really want him not to exist and never to have existed. For yrs now I’ve thought I’ll have to not attend any funerals etc – and pray to God universe keeps path away (I am not very mobile so that helps -)
But even thinking of this sh*t in order to heal it brings something up which I have been very successful for so long at ignoring (even when I was younger, before the abuse I just never liked this person and so for me, he never really existed – I was quite able to overlook etc) sometime in adulthood the crappy guilt or just ‘convenience’ kicked in – like; why not hang out? If it’s just ‘uncomfortable’ or not the best choice, but there’s nothing else to do and no real reason not to —-
the abuse gave me STRONG reason not to and I distanced self gradually over yrs – he never got it though and if he saw me acted like everything was just great SICKENING that makes my stomach turn.
I just want this all to go away. I want my family to cut him off completely and have no contact. I want him not to exist and never to have existed in first place.
But I TOTALLY fear the universe and myself IF I were to heal this, I do not see how it could be non-existent *especially not as non-existant as it is when I am totally alone and it is completely off of me.
Tonight I feel “slimed” and angry bc they spent time w him. It burns me up that he gets to have a ‘good life’ and act like nothing happened and no one holds him accountable and I’m the only one who stays away. (and my life is difficult and full of pain – but I’m a good person who is constantly working on herself and spiritual growth etc)
How will he be “NON EXISTANT” if I heal this?
Oh please forgive my loooong questions! it is so convoluted and difficult. I have not wanted to talk about this with anyone bc I was literally afraid to heal it!!! (holding on to and growing anger constantly WORKED) :/
My sister doesn’t really doesn’t like this person that much either (she was not abused but she and I are close and she knows I was) but she hangs out with him when she visits. I wish she wouldn’t!!
If I heal this what guarantee do I have that I won’t just do what my sister does???
Hi KKWL,
truly hun, I can’t help you without you doing the inner work.
Because it’s like how do I convince you of the results, when you are not already doing what is necessary to achieve them? The truth is – I can’t. You have to start doing the inner work yourself, I cant make you do that.
Your beliefs will be healed BY doing that, not before doing that.
If you start NARP and come into the NARP Forum, even though we will be directing you to NARP Modules, so you do helo yourself, you can get support from us to get to where you want to.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I understand!
it;s that old pattern of trying to get help from outside! Like I want someone to take this off of me
and for some reason I keep wanting this guarantee that he will be off of me forever if I do heal this (I even asked a psychic – she confirmed that there would be no contact!) yet I still doubt — I also have my inner helpers who laugh at the thought of ‘going back’
I just truly convinced myself over all these yrs that the only way to be prepared and stay safe was to hold on to anger (I could not find a healer or a better path at that moment)
it’s hard to know I have worked so hard on myself already (on so much stuff!!) and yet to see I hold beliefs like “universe doesn’t support and help me’ etc
I did the quantum healing twice today and am severely triggered by family members right now (funny all I wanted to do for weeks was the exercises I learned on your blog by myself alone — but timing is sucky bc of family visit THIS week — RIGHT in middle)
It is not a Narc situation – so I don’t know if the narc program is right one? or just keep doing trauma one?
I have no income and no savings — the $7 was nicely affordable but the 100s is woah —
(i wear same clothes every day and brush teeth with water – toothpaste is expensive!)
I just feel so antsy and desperate for help on what has just been triggered up (that of course I did not want right now!)
Is there a way to access the forum as I continue to do the quantum healing module?
Hi kkwl,
The right program to heal your trauma is NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp and absolutely when you sign up to the gold package you have access to the members forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member
And please know the healing path is about doing the Modules on the triggers that arise diligently. It is the only way out of the pain into an empowered life.
Effective boundaries come from solid inner healed power. Not fear. Fearlessness and trust in your empowered while self is the only way for safety to be real.
With inner trauma abs triggers that isnt the case.
NARP does the work on healing all the trauma at its roots.
Much love to you
Mel 🙏💕💛
Is there a place I could address questions as I sift through this?
I looked on twitter but could not find a group or # — is there another place I could access?
I have questions like:
Why was I only one abused? Why does my sister not cut off contact because of what happened to me?
Are others bothered by things like that too?
And importantly — how to deal with energy sensitivity —
— I am very close to my sister. she’s visiting. I tried to ask her NOT to hang out w jackass —- she was cagey about it said it was none of my business and had a severely out-of-proportion reaction which made me say why are YOu reacting? I’m the one who was abused (not her)
so she did see jackass which makes me feel enraged and furious. But I hung out with her. And now I feel ‘contaminated’ by the energy — (in the past I’ve asked her to cleanse his awful energy off her before she
entered my space but I had just done the quantum healing module and thought I was ‘strong’ and could handle it)
Now I feel ‘slimed’ and ‘contaminated’ and am thinking about this horrible person (just bc SHE hung out w him – and parents and they all seemed to have good time. Meanwhile I was here in pain and doing
non-stop healing modules. (seems so unfair!)
How does one deal w ‘energy contamination’ feelings like this! I don’t want to touch things in my room – I want to ‘cleanse this off me’ (so I don’t plant ‘memory signals’ around my room with this energy)
how??
and how do I deal w anger of others hanging out w jackass?
Do other ppl also want everyone else to cut off all contact and then feel HORRIBLE and
constantly triggered bc they don’t?? and they all just seem to have a great – ole time (which feels like betrayal to me) How does one deal with this?
Do others feel ‘energy contamination’ too?
thank you again!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Dear Kkwl,
I don’t know if this is too late, in terms of you not reading this thread anymore, but in case you are, or it helps someone else:
I had exactly these same questions for years, even as a counsellor for several years. For me, personally, I could not see past all these questions in order to feel safe enough emotionally to change how I was responding to those closest to me. I now know, from over a year’s worth of NARP, that I was thinking those questions from a place of fear, of wounding. I am learning that questions from that place only invoke more fear, anxiety, and, ultimately, blindness to the fullest answers.
When we begin to do the healing modules, our fears and pain body are increasingly comforted and soothed, and as this happens, we begin to truely heal and release the past; and not only cognitively see and hear the answers, but to know them on every level of our being. From here trust grows, confidence and belief in our God-given selves heals each step we take.
What we anxiously seek answers for becomes less relevant when we feel more in tune with our true self, more committed to living in our own healthy boundaries, more able to stand in a place of ‘validating our own healthy love, with our own sense of integrity’. We make our choices from a place of wisdom, and so, as Melanie often says, ‘it is not about what other people are or aren’t doing’, it is about trusting our inner wisdom with actions that validate our internal experiences. Our relationship to and with ourselves becomes one of love, value and validation, often something that was missing. Our questions are then calmer and clearer, and answered in a fullness that comes from and with an immeasurably delightful peacefulness.
Remember, you are already on the path to healing by taking these steps of contact on here with us; keep going, one step at a time,
I wish you every blessing,
Stephanie
I started the NARP program a couple of years ago and it changed me more than I ever would have thought. Life truly has been happening for me in ways I never realized possible I am engaged to a wonderful man who matches the love I have for myself. I am so happy with my personal life but I have one more block that I’m not sure how to break free from. My career is not where I know I’m meant to be. But I am putting minimal to no effort to change it. I know I am afraid to truly put myself out there but I don’t know how to apply the teaching to something that isn’t a personal relationship, friendship, or basically something that has nothing to do with another person at all. I know I need to start within in order to change the outside but I’m kinda stumped on breaking free from this roadblock.
Hi Blair,
that is so great that NARP has helped you achieve this!
Please know Blair you can target ‘the trauma generating that (whatever it is) in my body’ with Module 1, or with the Source Healing and Resolution Module to release ANY block literally.
If you need more help with this please come into the NARP Member’s Forum for further assistance http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member
I hope this helps.
Mel 🙏💕💛
I WANT to be trauma free
Dear Thrivers,
I want to be traumafree !!!
With much love,
Goldheart
“The wound is the place where the Light enters you.” ― Rumi. tags: brokenness, healing, scars, suffering.
When you or someone says, “If we get ourselves out of the way” is not clearly understood, do you mean if we get our EGO out of the way by not retaliating or holding grudges against the person who have wounded us by forgiving and letting Karma or God deal with them instead?
Hi Ayla,
I mean getting out traumatised places and associated thinking out of the way.
Letting go of what hurts and letting “God” (the Light) into those places.
Come into a free webinar with me http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar
Where this gets explained in deeper detail.
I hope this helps
Mel 🙏💞🦋
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