Melanie Tonia Evans

The Real Reason Why The Narcissist Came Into Your Life

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Was the narcissist coming into your life a senseless, cruel mistake? Was it to destroy you and what is important to you? Trust me I know you could 100% believe that.  I used to too… However, know there is a REAL reason – an incredible one – that not only holds the key to your full Thriver Recovery… (more…)

 

Was the narcissist coming into your life a senseless, cruel mistake?

Was it to destroy you and what is important to you?

Trust me I know you could 100% believe that.  I used to too…

However, know there is a REAL reason – an incredible one – that not only holds the key to your full Thriver Recovery…

The #1 Trick For Bringing A Narcissist To Justice

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Narcissists fight DIRTY. In battle with a narcissist, whilst trying to get resolution, sanity or even a scrap of decency, it may seem like all you get is MORE traumatisation. Narcissists can feel IMPOSSIBLE to defeat. But … this isn’t the case. In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to hand you the REAL way to bring a narcissist to justice. (more…)

 

Narcissists fight DIRTY.

In battle with a narcissist, whilst trying to get resolution, sanity or even a scrap of decency, it may seem like all you get is MORE traumatisation.

Narcissists can feel IMPOSSIBLE to defeat.

But … this isn’t the case.

In today’s Thriver TV episode, I am going to hand you the REAL way to bring a narcissist to justice.

Protecting Yourself From Narcissists As A Highly Sensitive Person

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It is so DIFFICULT being a sensitive person, who feels another person’s energy acutely. Most of us, who have been abused by narcissists, are highly sensitive people, including me … It can make us feel TOTALLY anxious and unsafe. ESPECIALLY when in the vicinity of a NARCISSIST. We know they have dark moods and can turn into horrible people who hurt us, at the slightest provocation and without warning, So … HOW can we navigate this? (more…)

 

It is so DIFFICULT being a sensitive person, who feels another person’s energy acutely.

Most of us, who have been abused by narcissists, are highly sensitive people, including me …

It can make us feel TOTALLY anxious and unsafe.

ESPECIALLY when in the vicinity of a NARCISSIST.

We know they have dark moods and can turn into horrible people who hurt us, at the slightest provocation and without warning,

So … HOW can we navigate this?

Why Narcissists Inevitably Discard You

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A narcissist will always eventually, one way or another, discard you. It doesn’t matter whether you leave, they do, or how the relationship blows up. One of the hardest things to come to terms with is this:  the narcissist doesn’t care about me and can live without me. We experience this from their words and actions, lack of understanding, non-existent empathy, accountability or remorse regarding what they have done to us. We discover that our feelings and life mean nothing to the narcissist; he or she may even hate us now and be hell-bent on trying to destroy us. (more…)

 

A narcissist will always eventually, one way or another, discard you. It doesn’t matter whether you leave, they do, or how the relationship blows up.

One of the hardest things to come to terms with is this:  the narcissist doesn’t care about me and can live without me.

We experience this from their words and actions, lack of understanding, non-existent empathy, accountability or remorse regarding what they have done to us.

We discover that our feelings and life mean nothing to the narcissist; he or she may even hate us now and be hell-bent on trying to destroy us.

The Answer To Narcissistic Abuse That No-one Is Talking About – Peptide Addiction

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  WHY it is so hard too let go of abusers. WHY  can’t we stop thinking about them … And … WHY it has been so DIFFICULT to get over narcissistic abuse and get well. When you understand peptide addiction you will realise you are NOT mad, failing or hopeless. (more…)

 

WHY it is so hard too let go of abusers.

WHY  can’t we stop thinking about them …

And …

WHY it has been so DIFFICULT to get over narcissistic abuse and get well.

When you understand peptide addiction you will realise you are NOT mad, failing or hopeless.

What Makes Narcissists Irresistible And How To Rid Your Cravings For Them

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The pull we have towards narcissists is OFF the planet! Even when they are hurting us SO much that it’s literally killing us, we usually stay connected … Hoping they will wake up … change … get it … and stop doing what they are doing to us. But they don’t. If we can’t stop the cravings for a narcissist, just like anything in our life that is destroying us, they continue to do so. Piece by piece by piece. (more…)

 

The pull we have towards narcissists is OFF the planet!

Even when they are hurting us SO much that it’s literally killing us, we usually stay connected …

Hoping they will wake up … change … get it … and stop doing what they are doing to us.

But they don’t.

If we can’t stop the cravings for a narcissist, just like anything in our life that is destroying us, they continue to do so.

Piece by piece by piece.

How To Know If You Are Thriving After Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Welcome to the Thriver's Life series, the creation of your highest and best life after narcissistic abuse. I get asked all the time by people, ‘How do I know if I’m Thriving?’ ‘How do I know if I’ve made it?’ In today’s The Thriver Life Series episode, I’m going to help you clear up all the confusion about this and let you know exactly how to tell if you are Thriving! I remember I used to ask the same thing, but truly I was asking myself these questions from the defunct beliefs of perfectionism and conditions on myself, rather than the true sense of Thriving. (more…)

 

Welcome to the Thriver’s Life series, the creation of your highest and best life after narcissistic abuse.

I get asked all the time by people, ‘How do I know if I’m Thriving?’ ‘How do I know if I’ve made it?’

In today’s The Thriver Life Series episode, I’m going to help you clear up all the confusion about this and let you know exactly how to tell if you are Thriving!

I remember I used to ask the same thing, but truly I was asking myself these questions from the defunct beliefs of perfectionism and conditions on myself, rather than the true sense of Thriving.

Why You Shouldn’t Give Up On Love After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Happy Valentine's Day! I know, in this Community, Valentine's Day can be a very painful day. When I was single I originally used to dread Valentine’s Day – it felt like such a confirmation that I was a  ‘relationship disaster’, yet once I started Thriver Healing it became my self-love day ... and I thoroughly suggest you do the same! But, more than this today, I want to talk to you about how you CAN Open your heart and love again after being devastated by a narcissist. And it’s a very BIG and IMPORTANT topic because so many of you (as I originally felt too) never wanted to risk such excruciating love devastation again. I understand – totally! (more…)

 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I know, in this Community, Valentine’s Day can be a very painful day. When I was single I originally used to dread Valentine’s Day – it felt like such a confirmation that I was a  ‘relationship disaster’, yet once I started Thriver Healing it became my self-love day … and I thoroughly suggest you do the same!

But, more than this today, I want to talk to you about how you CAN Open your heart and love again after being devastated by a narcissist.

And it’s a very BIG and IMPORTANT topic because so many of you (as I originally felt too) never wanted to risk such excruciating love devastation again.

I understand – totally!

Protecting Your Children From The Narcissist’s Damage

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I’m always SUPER PASSIONATE about this topic. The reason being is because I SO want our children to heal, and for our world to shift out of narcissistic abuse patterns. I nearly lost my own son due to my and his trauma from narcissistic abuse, so I deeply know the loss, trauma and suffering so many parents have been through or are going through. There is nothing more devastating than watching our children be abused, neglected or manipulated and feeling POWERLESS to stop it. And, when reaching out to authorities for their help discovering, to our dismay and disbelief, that they often turn away and even further abuse us and our children. (more…)

 

I’m always SUPER PASSIONATE about this topic.

The reason being is because I SO want our children to heal, and for our world to shift out of narcissistic abuse patterns.

I nearly lost my own son due to my and his trauma from narcissistic abuse, so I deeply know the loss, trauma and suffering so many parents have been through or are going through.

There is nothing more devastating than watching our children be abused, neglected or manipulated and feeling POWERLESS to stop it. And, when reaching out to authorities for their help discovering, to our dismay and disbelief, that they often turn away and even further abuse us and our children.

8 Things You Need To Know When Dealing With A Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  When dealing with a narcissist normal ‘human’ rules don’t apply! You can’t talk sense, be heard or reach a resolution. In fact, the narcissist DOESN’T want ANY resolution. So how do you deal with these individuals? How CAN you get peace, sanity, release, relief and your life back? (more…)

 

When dealing with a narcissist normal ‘human’ rules don’t apply!

You can’t talk sense, be heard or reach a resolution.

In fact, the narcissist DOESN’T want ANY resolution.

So how do you deal with these individuals?

How CAN you get peace, sanity, release, relief and your life back?