Melanie Tonia Evans

#1 Reason Why The Narcissist Won’t Leave You Alone

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know you may be baffled, stunned and devastated by the narcissist’s relentless quest to keep hurting you. Soooo many people, just like you and me, have experienced precisely this ... every time you try to get up and on with your life BAM!, the narcissist strikes you down again. This could be in the form of malicious criticism and control tactics. Or, if you have already left a narcissist, this could be with the use of authorities, or smearing you to your workplace, family and friends ... or with incessant stalking, accusations and the constant baiting of you. (more…)

 

I know you may be baffled, stunned and devastated by the narcissist’s relentless quest to keep hurting you.

Soooo many people, just like you and me, have experienced precisely this … every time you try to get up and on with your life BAM!, the narcissist strikes you down again.

This could be in the form of malicious criticism and control tactics.

Or, if you have already left a narcissist, this could be with the use of authorities, or smearing you to your workplace, family and friends … or with incessant stalking, accusations and the constant baiting of you.

How Narcissistic Abuse Led Me To Claim My True Self

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Absolutely, narcissistic abuse is arguably one of the WORST things we could ever go through. It’s devastating … horrifying … soul-shattering. And in the depths of it, I know you may be feeling like I once did also … That there may NOT be a way out, or to rebuild after being taken down to the lowest place we could ever imagine going. This is why I wanted to share this The Thriver’s Life episode with you today ... for those of you not yet starting to feel the sun shining through the storm clouds ... and if you are still struggling when you feel engulfed by fear and pain. (more…)

 

Absolutely, narcissistic abuse is arguably one of the WORST things we could ever go through.

It’s devastating … horrifying … soul-shattering.

And in the depths of it, I know you may be feeling like I once did also …

That there may NOT be a way out, or to rebuild after being taken down to the lowest place we could ever imagine going.

This is why I wanted to share this The Thriver’s Life episode with you today … for those of you not yet starting to feel the sun shining through the storm clouds … and if you are still struggling when you feel engulfed by fear and pain.

Why Narcissists Target Lightworkers – With Theresa Cheung

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Since we began the pre-launch party last week, the outpour of support for my upcoming book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse has been nothing short of incredible. In amongst this, so many of you have posted your heartfelt messages sharing how the Thriver Movement has changed your life. Words can't describe how much this warms my heart. My "thank you's" do not seem enough! Please know, this book and the Thriver Mission couldn’t be possible without you, and because of this, I would love you to continue joining in and sharing the material we have coming your way. (more…)

 

Since we began the pre-launch party last week, the outpour of support for my upcoming book You Can Thrive After Narcissistic Abuse has been nothing short of incredible.

In amongst this, so many of you have posted your heartfelt messages sharing how the Thriver Movement has changed your life.

Words can’t describe how much this warms my heart.

My “thank you’s” do not seem enough!

Please know, this book and the Thriver Mission couldn’t be possible without you, and because of this, I would love you to continue joining in and sharing the material we have coming your way.

Do Narcissists Treat Their New Supply Differently?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It is so common for us to think ‘Maybe I am the problem.’ When the narcissist dances off into the sunset with a new partner, we often see the evidence of their social media pictures of romantic dinners, exotic holidays and sharing time with family and friends. Naturally, we are agonised about losing these things with this person. Things that another person is now receiving in our place. And we think ‘Maybe she/he will be different with this person. Maybe it was ME that they couldn’t be happy and normal with!’ (more…)

 

It is so common for us to think ‘Maybe I am the problem.’

When the narcissist dances off into the sunset with a new partner, we often see the evidence of their social media pictures of romantic dinners, exotic holidays and sharing time with family and friends.

Naturally, we are agonised about losing these things with this person. Things that another person is now receiving in our place.

And we think ‘Maybe she/he will be different with this person. Maybe it was ME that they couldn’t be happy and normal with!’

Can You Ever Be Safe From Narcissists?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  When my life had been turned upside down and inside out, by a pathological person hurting me more than I thought humanly possible, I remember thinking … How could my judgement have been so wrong? How could I have let this person into myself and my inner world, thinking that he was the most trustworthy person I had ever known ... only to be hit with total carnage instead? I know, like my previous self, you may feel totally shell-shocked at the possibility of more wolves in sheep’s clothing entering your life. It’s not just concerning; it’s downright terrifying because when they do EVERYTHING is at stake … (more…)

 

When my life had been turned upside down and inside out, by a pathological person hurting me more than I thought humanly possible, I remember thinking …

How could my judgement have been so wrong?

How could I have let this person into myself and my inner world, thinking that he was the most trustworthy person I had ever known … only to be hit with total carnage instead?

I know, like my previous self, you may feel totally shell-shocked at the possibility of more wolves in sheep’s clothing entering your life.

It’s not just concerning; it’s downright terrifying because when they do EVERYTHING is at stake …

Healing Isolation, Fear and Loneliness After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Recovery from narcissistic abuse is such a big thing. It is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do because there are crippling feelings to deal with. There is the death of the dreams that we thought we were going to be living with this person, the shock of what this person is capable of, the fallout due to the smearing, the losses of finances, resources and our health (all the usual symptoms of narcissistic abuse), and the dreaded pain of the reality of life now, as we look at the rubble of our previous life on the floor all around us. In amongst all of this, I believe there are three overwhelmingly painful and traumatising feelings that we are suffering, regardless of the practicalities and the real-life battle we are facing and suffering. These are Isolation, Fear and Loneliness. (more…)

 

Recovery from narcissistic abuse is such a big thing. It is one of the hardest things we will ever have to do because there are crippling feelings to deal with.

There is the death of the dreams that we thought we were going to be living with this person, the shock of what this person is capable of, the fallout due to the smearing, the losses of finances, resources and our health (all the usual symptoms of narcissistic abuse), and the dreaded pain of the reality of life now, as we look at the rubble of our previous life on the floor all around us.

In amongst all of this, I believe there are three overwhelmingly painful and traumatising feelings that we are suffering, regardless of the practicalities and the real-life battle we are facing and suffering.

These are Isolation, Fear and Loneliness.

The 3 Phases Of Deservedness

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Deservedness applies to all of us, whether we are still in the heavy trauma of narcissistic abuse, or if we have recovered enough to ask ‘What’s next?’. There are 3 things I believe we all want. To be our True Self. To have a True Life To experience True Love. Are these things just far-fetched concepts that are unrealistic? (more…)

 

Deservedness applies to all of us, whether we are still in the heavy trauma of narcissistic abuse, or if we have recovered enough to ask ‘What’s next?’.

There are 3 things I believe we all want.

To be our True Self.

To have a True Life

To experience True Love.

Are these things just far-fetched concepts that are unrealistic?

Leading The Way For Your Children

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent. Where is that handbook!? Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated. How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves? Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working? (more…)

 

One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent.

Where is that handbook!?

Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated.

How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves?

Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working?

4 Shocking Ways Narcissists Bleed You Financially

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included. And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit. It’s devastating and it's beyond cruel. How can we stop this happening to us now? And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again? (more…)

 

Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included.

And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit.

It’s devastating and it’s beyond cruel.

How can we stop this happening to us now?

And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again?

How To Expose A Narcissist Without Looking Like The Crazy One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems. This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist' the right way. Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist' that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one. (more…)

 

How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems.

This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist’ the right way.

Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist’ that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one.