Melanie Tonia Evans

6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face. Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing. You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart. This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them. (more…)

 

Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face.

Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing.

You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart.

This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them.

How To Overcome Resistance And Achieve Your Goals

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you had the frustration, when trying to create your new life of ... All of a sudden doubting yourself (or even feeling like you will fail)? Feeling like the self-defeating voice is so overwhelming that you just have to give up? Or … finding that every door you knock on closes in your face? (more…)

 

Have you had the frustration, when trying to create your new life of …

All of a sudden doubting yourself (or even feeling like you will fail)?

Feeling like the self-defeating voice is so overwhelming that you just have to give up?

Or … finding that every door you knock on closes in your face?

Why Narcissists Cheat And How They Get Away With It

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  The sordid and terrible truth is that most narcissists cheat. They simply don’t possess the moral code to care about and respect others … it is all firmly about them. And, they have the ability to barefaced lie, grandstand their version of their integrity and infidelity and gaslight you horrifically into believing you have serious paranoia issues, and it’s your own stuff ththeat is causing you to doubt them. Additionally, even if caught out, the narcissist can still play dirty tricks, like come up with new evidence to discredit what you know, make it your fault, or even discard you saying they were leaving you anyway. How do we get released from this toxic torment? How can we know whether a person has the susceptibility to behave like this or not? (more…)

 

The sordid and terrible truth is that most narcissists cheat. They simply don’t possess the moral code to care about and respect others … it is all firmly about them.

And, they have the ability to barefaced lie, grandstand their version of their integrity and infidelity and gaslight you horrifically into believing you have serious paranoia issues, and it’s your own stuff ththeat is causing you to doubt them.

Additionally, even if caught out, the narcissist can still play dirty tricks, like come up with new evidence to discredit what you know, make it your fault, or even discard you saying they were leaving you anyway.

How do we get released from this toxic torment? How can we know whether a person has the susceptibility to behave like this or not?

How To Survive A Devastating Break Up With A Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  We all know what it is like … We are reeling, and can barely breathe … let alone get up, get on with it, recover and re-start our life. Trying to survive a breakup with a pathological abuser – meaning get away, stay away and heal after being in a relationship is one of the toughest things we will ever do. Why? Because we are hooked in and deeply traumatised. We feel helpless because of trauma-bonding and survival programs activated within us, that make us believe we can’t live without this person. (more…)

 

We all know what it is like …

We are reeling, and can barely breathe … let alone get up, get on with it, recover and re-start our life.

Trying to survive a breakup with a pathological abuser – meaning get away, stay away and heal after being in a relationship is one of the toughest things we will ever do.

Why?

Because we are hooked in and deeply traumatised.

We feel helpless because of trauma-bonding and survival programs activated within us, that make us believe we can’t live without this person.

How To Stop Playing Small And Shine Your Light

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you ever had the feeling that you are invisible? Or … maybe deep inside you feel like you need to be. I know that sooooo many of us during and after (and possibly even way before) narcissistic abuse felt like this … If I stick my head out and BE myself it’s just NOT worth it because I could be critiqued, invalidated, rejected or ridiculed. And, for many of us, the scared feelings of ‘being out there as ourselves’ were even more terrifying. Because really they equated to feeling like we could be literally annihilated. (more…)

 

Have you ever had the feeling that you are invisible?

Or … maybe deep inside you feel like you need to be.

I know that sooooo many of us during and after (and possibly even way before) narcissistic abuse felt like this …

If I stick my head out and BE myself it’s just NOT worth it because I could be critiqued, invalidated, rejected or ridiculed.

And, for many of us, the scared feelings of ‘being out there as ourselves’ were even more terrifying. Because really they equated to feeling like we could be literally annihilated.

How To Forgive Yourself For Putting Your Trust In A Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Do you know what I think is the hardest thing about trying to forgive ourselves after a narcissistic relationship? It’s this – We knew… Behind the rose-colored glasses, somewhere deep down our gut was churning. We heard the alarm bells, yet for some reason, we proceeded and kept reconnecting anyway. Why on EARTH did we keep trying? And how do we come to terms with putting our trust in someone that wreaked havoc on us and possibly many of those close to us? (more…)

 

Do you know what I think is the hardest thing about trying to forgive ourselves after a narcissistic relationship?

It’s this – We knew

Behind the rose-colored glasses, somewhere deep down our gut was churning.

We heard the alarm bells, yet for some reason, we proceeded and kept reconnecting anyway.

Why on EARTH did we keep trying?

And how do we come to terms with putting our trust in someone that wreaked havoc on us and possibly many of those close to us?

The 5 Most Common Narcissistic Abuse Recovery Mistakes

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If you've struggled with your narcissistic abuse recovery, or been in a state where one step forward is followed by two steps back, I hope with all my heart that today’s Thriver TV Episode will be incredibly helpful for you. Why do I think it will? Because today I go through with you the most common mistakes that people make when trying to heal from the terrible trauma of narcissistic abuse. I can’t wait to share this information with you (that is so obvious when you realise it) yet requires us to wake up from a trance to finally understand – True Recovery is NOT what we have been told it is! (more…)

 

If you’ve struggled with your narcissistic abuse recovery, or been in a state where one step forward is followed by two steps back, I hope with all my heart that today’s Thriver TV Episode will be incredibly helpful for you.

Why do I think it will?

Because today I go through with you the most common mistakes that people make when trying to heal from the terrible trauma of narcissistic abuse.

I can’t wait to share this information with you (that is so obvious when you realise it) yet requires us to wake up from a trance to finally understand – True Recovery is NOT what we have been told it is!

How To Survive When Things Start Falling Apart

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today’s The Thriver’s Life episode is BIG! It’s about the funky energy and massive breakdowns that people are experiencing in their life right now. It seems that very few people are exempt from this right now (I’m seeing it everywhere!) And even I have been struck by it too! Can you relate? Have you been feeling it? Are you seeing painful and crazy things happening in your own life as well as so many people you know? I have – and that’s why I passionately wanted to deliver this video to you today. (more…)

 

Today’s The Thriver’s Life episode is BIG!

It’s about the funky energy and massive breakdowns that people are experiencing in their life right now.

It seems that very few people are exempt from this right now (I’m seeing it everywhere!) And even I have been struck by it too!

Can you relate? Have you been feeling it? Are you seeing painful and crazy things happening in your own life as well as so many people you know?

I have – and that’s why I passionately wanted to deliver this video to you today.

6 Steps To Regaining Your Health After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It today’s article I want to share with you the 6 steps I took to regain my health after narcissistic abuse, and how to apply them in your life in order for you to achieve a full Thriver Recovery too. Please note these steps are applicable after we have created No Contact (or strict Modified Contact). Because the truth is: if you are still in contact and can’t break away, or at the very least powerfully detach in order to focus on yourself and heal, then you are continually being abused and violated. All the energy you will be expending trying to survive (or obsessing about what is happened) is draining your life-force, meaning it is not available to love and heal yourself back to wholeness. If you haven't yet signed up to my Free 16-day Recovery Course you can do so now and receive my How To Do No Contact eBook for free, as well as many other...

 

It today’s article I want to share with you the 6 steps I took to regain my health after narcissistic abuse, and how to apply them in your life in order for you to achieve a full Thriver Recovery too.

Please note these steps are applicable after we have created No Contact (or strict Modified Contact). Because the truth is: if you are still in contact and can’t break away, or at the very least powerfully detach in order to focus on yourself and heal, then you are continually being abused and violated. All the energy you will be expending trying to survive (or obsessing about what is happened) is draining your life-force, meaning it is not available to love and heal yourself back to wholeness.

If you haven’t yet signed up to my Free 16-day Recovery Course you can do so now and receive my How To Do No Contact eBook for free, as well as many other helpful resources.

How To Spot A Spiritual Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Spiritual narcissism is one of the most confusing, insidious and dangerous types of narcissistic abuse. Gosh, even I fell for it twice! Narcissists gravitate towards areas where A-grade narcissistic supply is easy to obtain; frighteningly, many of them realise how being in a position of authority, via spirituality or religion, is the perfect way to be above reproach and have a free ticket to mine people for acclaim, attention, and resources. Even if you haven't encountered a spiritual narcissist before, they can be incredibly difficult to read, as well as incredibly alluring. And naturally, this can be a big trap after your first narcissistic abuse experience, when you want to seek out people who are more spiritually connected and conscious. (more…)

 

Spiritual narcissism is one of the most confusing, insidious and dangerous types of narcissistic abuse.

Gosh, even I fell for it twice!

Narcissists gravitate towards areas where A-grade narcissistic supply is easy to obtain; frighteningly, many of them realise how being in a position of authority, via spirituality or religion, is the perfect way to be above reproach and have a free ticket to mine people for acclaim, attention, and resources.

Even if you haven’t encountered a spiritual narcissist before, they can be incredibly difficult to read, as well as incredibly alluring.

And naturally, this can be a big trap after your first narcissistic abuse experience, when you want to seek out people who are more spiritually connected and conscious.