Melanie Tonia Evans

The Stalking Narcissist – Will They Ever Leave You Alone?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being stalked is horrible. If you are going through this right now, it is likely that you feel high levels of anxiety, and it's really difficult for you to settle into getting on with your life. What is this person doing when they are stalking you? Are they gathering information on social media to use against you? Are they following you to try to perform a ‘hoover’ on you? Do they want to threaten ... or even hurt you? (more…)

 

Being stalked is horrible.

If you are going through this right now, it is likely that you feel high levels of anxiety, and it’s really difficult for you to settle into getting on with your life.

What is this person doing when they are stalking you?

Are they gathering information on social media to use against you?

Are they following you to try to perform a ‘hoover’ on you?

Do they want to threaten … or even hurt you?

How To Find Direction When You Feel Stuck

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  When you have cleared much of the pain, and are no longer in survival mode – these questions may arise … Who am I? What’s next? What am I supposed to be doing with my life now? You may have an idea of what you want to do, but you feel stuck. You may still feel some residual fear of going out there and getting what it is you truly want. And as a result, you may feel like you aren’t getting anywhere. (more…)

 

When you have cleared much of the pain, and are no longer in survival mode – these questions may arise …

Who am I?

What’s next?

What am I supposed to be doing with my life now?

You may have an idea of what you want to do, but you feel stuck.

You may still feel some residual fear of going out there and getting what it is you truly want.

And as a result, you may feel like you aren’t getting anywhere.

Narcissist Or Addict… Can They Ever Change?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how painful it is to be caught up in someone’s addictions – suffering the anguish of the invalidation of your needs, safety, love requirements and security – as well as seeing this person destroying themselves and others. Of course, you hope that you can help them overcome the addiction, so that you and they can be happy and have a fulfilling relationship – whether it be your lover, spouse, child, relative or friend. But how do we even know if this person is capable of ‘becoming decent’ even if they lose their addiction? And why is it, in trying to help this person, often we just get sicker and sicker and they don’t stop doing the things that are ripping our life, as well as theirs, apart? In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into this very important question – ‘Is there any hope for this addict, or are they a narcissist how can’t...

 

I know how painful it is to be caught up in someone’s addictions – suffering the anguish of the invalidation of your needs, safety, love requirements and security – as well as seeing this person destroying themselves and others.

Of course, you hope that you can help them overcome the addiction, so that you and they can be happy and have a fulfilling relationship – whether it be your lover, spouse, child, relative or friend.

But how do we even know if this person is capable of ‘becoming decent’ even if they lose their addiction?

And why is it, in trying to help this person, often we just get sicker and sicker and they don’t stop doing the things that are ripping our life, as well as theirs, apart?

In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into this very important question – ‘Is there any hope for this addict, or are they a narcissist how can’t be healthy – addictions or not?’

Becoming Powerful, Safe And Fearless On Your Own

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today I’m really excited to kick-off a brand new Thriver TV Series, which is all about the next steps – how you can go from being a Survivor to a Thriver – expanding out into life and into your true potential ... So that you can achieve your goals, dreams and all that your heart desires. Many of you have been asking me to share more than just about abuse recovery, and as such, this is exactly what this new series covers. In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into being becoming powerful, safe and fearless on your own. In this video, I want to help you deeply examine and discover how to outgrow your dependency on others, where you may have handed your power away and kept enmeshed with people as a means of trying to obtain your survival and happiness. (more…)

 

Today I’m really excited to kick-off a brand new Thriver TV Series, which is all about the next steps – how you can go from being a Survivor to a Thriver – expanding out into life and into your true potential …

So that you can achieve your goals, dreams and all that your heart desires.

Many of you have been asking me to share more than just about abuse recovery, and as such, this is exactly what this new series covers.

In today’s Thriver TV episode we take a deep dive into being becoming powerful, safe and fearless on your own.

In this video, I want to help you deeply examine and discover how to outgrow your dependency on others, where you may have handed your power away and kept enmeshed with people as a means of trying to obtain your survival and happiness.

Are You In Bed With A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you had the experience of feeling like you are in too far with a narcissist? Possibly … you feel like you have completely LOST yourself … and even suspect that your heart, mind and soul has been taken over by this person. Goodness ... narcissist number 2 in my life, with an intense stare, would say this to me: "I own your heart!” It sent shivers up my spine! (I know I’d run a million miles from anyone who ever said that again!) The very fact that you in this community, means you know what it is like to be ‘in bed with a narcissist’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are trapped into having sex with them (even though of course that can be part of it.) (more…)

 

Have you had the experience of feeling like you are in too far with a narcissist?

Possibly … you feel like you have completely LOST yourself … and even suspect that your heart, mind and soul has been taken over by this person.

Goodness … narcissist number 2 in my life, with an intense stare, would say this to me: “I own your heart!”

It sent shivers up my spine! (I know I’d run a million miles from anyone who ever said that again!)

The very fact that you in this community, means you know what it is like to be ‘in bed with a narcissist’. It doesn’t necessarily mean that you are trapped into having sex with them (even though of course that can be part of it.)

Why Do Narcissists Vanish And Do They Ever Come Back?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how devastating it is to have someone vanish from your life without warning. Without any explanation, you are left agonising over what might have been the reason for them to just get up and disappear from your life. Before being able to break free from my terrible relationship with narcissist number 2, who was constantly 'leaving me', these were questions I used to constantly ask myself ... Why is he suddenly declaring 'we have to break up' when only a day earlier he professed that he can't live without me? Is he having an affair or trying to hide something he doesn’t want me to know about? (more…)

 

I know how devastating it is to have someone vanish from your life without warning.

Without any explanation, you are left agonising over what might have been the reason for them to just get up and disappear from your life.

Before being able to break free from my terrible relationship with narcissist number 2, who was constantly ‘leaving me’, these were questions I used to constantly ask myself …

Why is he suddenly declaring ‘we have to break up’ when only a day earlier he professed that he can’t live without me?

Is he having an affair or trying to hide something he doesn’t want me to know about?

3 Counter-Intuitive Steps To Speed Up Your Narcissistic Abuse Recovery

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I believe, sadly, that much of what we are told about how to heal doesn't help us. Previously, in my own journey with healing from narcissistic abuse, when I thought I had found ‘the way’ and did what other people advised me to do, I experienced coming up empty over and over again. The things I was doing sometimes brought some temporary relief, yet the horrible trauma of feeling like the narcissist was crawling under my skin as well as the haunting obsessions and fear of surviving the trauma and creating a new future, kept coming at me relentlessly – and just didn’t stop. I know so many of you, like I have felt, feel like you are failing. (more…)

 

I believe, sadly, that much of what we are told about how to heal doesn’t help us.

Previously, in my own journey with healing from narcissistic abuse, when I thought I had found ‘the way’ and did what other people advised me to do, I experienced coming up empty over and over again.

The things I was doing sometimes brought some temporary relief, yet the horrible trauma of feeling like the narcissist was crawling under my skin as well as the haunting obsessions and fear of surviving the trauma and creating a new future, kept coming at me relentlessly – and just didn’t stop.

I know so many of you, like I have felt, feel like you are failing.

How To Inoculate Yourself Against Somatic Narcissists

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way. Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential. And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees! Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention. (more…)

 

You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way.

Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential.

And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees!

Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention.

What It Means To Be An Evolutionary Mother

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation. My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son. And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother. Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness. (more…)

 

I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation.

My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son.

And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother.

Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness.

How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session. One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will. Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live. (more…)

 

In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session.

One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will.

Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live.