Melanie Tonia Evans

The 3 Phases Of Deservedness

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Deservedness applies to all of us, whether we are still in the heavy trauma of narcissistic abuse, or if we have recovered enough to ask ‘What’s next?’. There are 3 things I believe we all want. To be our True Self. To have a True Life To experience True Love. Are these things just far-fetched concepts that are unrealistic? (more…)

 

Deservedness applies to all of us, whether we are still in the heavy trauma of narcissistic abuse, or if we have recovered enough to ask ‘What’s next?’.

There are 3 things I believe we all want.

To be our True Self.

To have a True Life

To experience True Love.

Are these things just far-fetched concepts that are unrealistic?

Leading The Way For Your Children

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent. Where is that handbook!? Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated. How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves? Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working? (more…)

 

One of the hardest (if not the hardest) jobs in the world is to be a parent.

Where is that handbook!?

Certainly, many of us have had our struggles with being parents, and after being narcissistically abused and seeing what this puts our children through, our parenting overwhelm is even more accentuated.

How can we heal our children when we are barely surviving ourselves?

Why is our selfless desire to make sure they are okay before we attend to ourselves NOT working?

4 Shocking Ways Narcissists Bleed You Financially

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included. And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit. It’s devastating and it's beyond cruel. How can we stop this happening to us now? And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again? (more…)

 

Sooo many people in this community have been taken down financially by narcissists – myself included.

And it’s terrible … because you may have lost everything you’ve worked your entire life for, to someone who you know manipulated, connived, lied to you and was in the relationship ONLY for their own selfish benefit.

It’s devastating and it’s beyond cruel.

How can we stop this happening to us now?

And, how can we shore ourselves up so that this will never happen to us again?

How To Expose A Narcissist Without Looking Like The Crazy One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems. This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist' the right way. Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist' that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one. (more…)

 

How to expose a narcissist without looking like the crazy one, is what so many people want to do, yet find incredibly difficult to do. Of course, it is beyond traumatising when narcissists lie, manipulate, smear, take zero responsibility for pathological behaviour, and you get blamed for all the problems.

This is why I wanted to write this article so that you could know ‘how to expose a narcissist’ the right way.

Be very clear with working out ‘how to expose a narcissist’ that you are not dealing with a rational, decent person. The narcissist is never wrong, has zero remorse, care or consideration for others, and is always blaming someone else. If you are in close proximity and things fall apart, of course, you are going to be smeared, and the narcissist will twist and turn information to make them look like the great person and you the terrible one.

The Narcissist Is Your Mirror

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If we wish to Thrive after narcissistic abuse, there is ONE thing that will start that journey. Turning our focus inwards … To heal the only person we can heal to heal our life – ourselves. But ... what is it that we need to heal? And … how do we discover exactly what it is? (more…)

 

If we wish to Thrive after narcissistic abuse, there is ONE thing that will start that journey.

Turning our focus inwards …

To heal the only person we can heal to heal our life – ourselves.

But … what is it that we need to heal?

And … how do we discover exactly what it is?

Being Comfortable In Your Own Skin

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  All of us want this. We want to feel free, happy, whole and healthy. After narcissistic abuse being comfortable in our own skin, as your natural state of living, may seem like a very big stretch to get to. Yet, I am here to help you believe that it is possible. In fact, in today’s The Thriver’s Life episode, I want you to understand it is probable. When you adopt what I am going to share with you today. (more…)

 

All of us want this.

We want to feel free, happy, whole and healthy.

After narcissistic abuse being comfortable in our own skin, as your natural state of living, may seem like a very big stretch to get to.

Yet, I am here to help you believe that it is possible.

In fact, in today’s The Thriver’s Life episode, I want you to understand it is probable.

When you adopt what I am going to share with you today.

How To Break Free From Toxic People In Your Life

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Have you ever felt the absolute confusion, angst, anger, despair and pain of trying to leave a toxic person behind? You may say, ‘I know they are NO good for me!” Are you still confused as to why, despite what this person has done, that you still feel in love with them? Or maybe … you don’t even like this person and believe their behaviour and values are terrible, yet it feels like they have permeated your being and occupy way too much space in your head. How you get them OUT? How do you get the SPACE and RELIEF in your thoughts and emotions to restart your wellbeing and your life? (more…)

Have you ever felt the absolute confusion, angst, anger, despair and pain of trying to leave a toxic person behind?

You may say, ‘I know they are NO good for me!”

Are you still confused as to why, despite what this person has done, that you still feel in love with them?

Or maybe … you don’t even like this person and believe their behaviour and values are terrible, yet it feels like they have permeated your being and occupy way too much space in your head.

How you get them OUT?

How do you get the SPACE and RELIEF in your thoughts and emotions to restart your wellbeing and your life?

How To Identify A Pathological Lying Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you ever been in a situation with someone where you have no idea whether you are being told the truth or not? Have you experienced events and circumstances that leave you feeling dubious as to whether or not you can trust them? Or have you received point blank evidence that this person is a liar? The truth is this: we can’t have a safe and healthy relationship with a pathological liar because trust, faith and belief are smashed. There is a very pertinent saying – that when we become a detective in our relationship that things are very wrong. (more…)

 

Have you ever been in a situation with someone where you have no idea whether you are being told the truth or not?

Have you experienced events and circumstances that leave you feeling dubious as to whether or not you can trust them?

Or have you received point blank evidence that this person is a liar?

The truth is this: we can’t have a safe and healthy relationship with a pathological liar because trust, faith and belief are smashed.

There is a very pertinent saying – that when we become a detective in our relationship that things are very wrong.

6 Things To Look Out For During Court Battles With A Narcissist

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face. Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing. You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart. This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them. (more…)

 

Knowing that you are having to go to court with a narcissist is one of the most terrifying and stressful things that you will ever have to face.

Because … you know the narcissist is a pathological liar who is charismatic, manipulative and convincing.

You also know that the narcissist is trying to win, by making you lose, which means punishing you horrifically, setting out to use the legal and court system to discredit you and take from you what is dear to your heart.

This is why it is so vital that you know how to face this storm, in ways that will empower you, ensure you have a healthy hearing and put you in the best possible position to disarm and unravel the narcissist in order to expose who they are and win against them.

How To Overcome Resistance And Achieve Your Goals

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you had the frustration, when trying to create your new life of ... All of a sudden doubting yourself (or even feeling like you will fail)? Feeling like the self-defeating voice is so overwhelming that you just have to give up? Or … finding that every door you knock on closes in your face? (more…)

 

Have you had the frustration, when trying to create your new life of …

All of a sudden doubting yourself (or even feeling like you will fail)?

Feeling like the self-defeating voice is so overwhelming that you just have to give up?

Or … finding that every door you knock on closes in your face?