Melanie Tonia Evans

5 Ways To Rebuild Your Self-Worth After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  After being narcissistically abused, your self-worth is stripped. And why wouldn’t it be when every insecurity, fear and inadequacy you have felt about yourself, others and life has erupted and blown up in your face? After being narcissistically abused, not only do we doubt that we are lovable, desirable, capable or adequate, we even doubt our ability to stay vertical, survive our wounds or live as a human being on this planet, in a way that is not tormenting beyond belief. If we thought we have had doubts about our Self before narcissistic abuse, now it has gone to unthinkable levels. Today, in this episode, I want to grant you 5 ways that you can start rebuilding your self-worth after narcissistic abuse. (more…)

 

After being narcissistically abused, your self-worth is stripped. And why wouldn’t it be when every insecurity, fear and inadequacy you have felt about yourself, others and life has erupted and blown up in your face?

After being narcissistically abused, not only do we doubt that we are lovable, desirable, capable or adequate, we even doubt our ability to stay vertical, survive our wounds or live as a human being on this planet, in a way that is not tormenting beyond belief.

If we thought we have had doubts about our Self before narcissistic abuse, now it has gone to unthinkable levels.

Today, in this episode, I want to grant you 5 ways that you can start rebuilding your self-worth after narcissistic abuse.

Why Are Narcissists So Entitled?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If you’ve been in a close relationship with a narcissist you will have experienced the heartbreak and horror or realising it is ALL about him and her. The narcissist's demands (that must be met) are unreasonable and even unliveable. The invasions into your life, things, thoughts, and even your emotions are incredibly violating. The narcissist seems to truly believe that they are unique and special, and they need to be treated as such. (more…)

 

If you’ve been in a close relationship with a narcissist you will have experienced the heartbreak and horror or realising it is ALL about him and her.

The narcissist’s demands (that must be met) are unreasonable and even unliveable.

The invasions into your life, things, thoughts, and even your emotions are incredibly violating.

The narcissist seems to truly believe that they are unique and special, and they need to be treated as such.

My Most Debilitating Narcissistic Abuse Hook (And How I Healed From It)

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A lot of people believe I am self-assured, confident and have created a great life, and that is very true. After my Thriver Recovery from narcissistic abuse, I am blessed to be living a life that at one point I would have considered an impossibility. But this wasn't always the case ... What I am going to share with your today, is information that I have never shared with this Community before. I believe this, not only is this healthy for me to be authentic with you about, it may also help free you from shame and pain as well. So ... today I'm going to share something about my past, a dirty secret that I was once terribly ashamed of. (more…)

 

A lot of people believe I am self-assured, confident and have created a great life, and that is very true. After my Thriver Recovery from narcissistic abuse, I am blessed to be living a life that at one point I would have considered an impossibility.

But this wasn’t always the case …

What I am going to share with your today, is information that I have never shared with this Community before.

I believe this, not only is this healthy for me to be authentic with you about, it may also help free you from shame and pain as well.

So … today I’m going to share something about my past, a dirty secret that I was once terribly ashamed of.

The Best Way To Set Yourself Free From A Narcissistic Relationship

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  One of the hardest things to do in our life is to forgive the unforgivable. How can we achieve it? Why do we even need to achieve it? The reason I’m sharing this video with you, today, is because I too have known the torturous state of not being able to get over the past. The pain of the past can be crippling. And even though we may have left a situation and / or person behind, and moved on physically, we can still be stuck in the emotional damage. It feels so painfully real, it’s as if the events and violations are still continuing. (more…)

 

One of the hardest things to do in our life is to forgive the unforgivable. How can we achieve it? Why do we even need to achieve it?

The reason I’m sharing this video with you, today, is because I too have known the torturous state of not being able to get over the past.

The pain of the past can be crippling. And even though we may have left a situation and / or person behind, and moved on physically, we can still be stuck in the emotional damage.

It feels so painfully real, it’s as if the events and violations are still continuing.

The Key To Healing From Depression

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today’s Thriver TV is a very important episode, and maybe one of the most crucial I have ever produced. The reason is that all of us, I believe, have been touched by depression in some way. Maybe we have suffered from depression ourselves or know of someone else who gets struck down by it. What is depression and how does it affect us? Most of us have experienced depression as overwhelming feelings of despair and helplessness and “What is the use?”. (more…)

 

Today’s Thriver TV is a very important episode, and maybe one of the most crucial I have ever produced.

The reason is that all of us, I believe, have been touched by depression in some way. Maybe we have suffered from depression ourselves or know of someone else who gets struck down by it.

What is depression and how does it affect us?

Most of us have experienced depression as overwhelming feelings of despair and helplessness and “What is the use?”.

How To Heal The Wounds From Narcissistic Mothers

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  In this Thriver TV episode today, I want to deeply acknowledge with you the devastating effects of Mother wounds, and the trauma this has caused for so many of you in this Community. What does it mean for you if your Mother did not fulfill what a stereotypical Mother does, such as care, nurture, and support? How does this affect your ability to feel whole, worthy and confident in Life? And what is it like to still be caught up in the battle of feeling like no matter what you do it is never good enough? Or to still feel like you are receiving abuse, neglect, or being scapegoated for her issues that she is not taking responsibility for? (more…)

 

In this Thriver TV episode today, I want to deeply acknowledge with you the devastating effects of Mother wounds, and the trauma this has caused for so many of you in this Community.

What does it mean for you if your Mother did not fulfill what a stereotypical Mother does, such as care, nurture, and support?

How does this affect your ability to feel whole, worthy and confident in Life?

And what is it like to still be caught up in the battle of feeling like no matter what you do it is never good enough? Or to still feel like you are receiving abuse, neglect, or being scapegoated for her issues that she is not taking responsibility for?

What Makes A Somatic Narcissist, Why We Attract Them, And How To Heal This Toxic Connection

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A few weeks I talked to you about The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them and many people have written in to ask about the somatic narcissist, who they are, and what to look out for regarding them. I decided I’d like to share with you essential information about somatic narcissists. Most narcissistic experts believe that there are two type of narcissists – the cerebral type who acquires narcissistic supply primarily with their brain, and the somatic narcissist who seeks attention and significance through their physicality. What I really believe is that this generalisation is not entirely accurate, because narcissists can shift from one to the other, although it can be argued that predominately a narcissist may be cerebral or somatic. (more…)

 

A few weeks I talked to you about The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them and many people have written in to ask about the somatic narcissist, who they are, and what to look out for regarding them.

I decided I’d like to share with you essential information about somatic narcissists.

Most narcissistic experts believe that there are two type of narcissists – the cerebral type who acquires narcissistic supply primarily with their brain, and the somatic narcissist who seeks attention and significance through their physicality.

What I really believe is that this generalisation is not entirely accurate, because narcissists can shift from one to the other, although it can be argued that predominately a narcissist may be cerebral or somatic.

How To Free Yourself From Toxic People And Situations

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I am so excited to share this Thriver Tv episode with you because in it we explore the deep recesses of Quantum Realities. In this episode, I am going to share with you exactly the raw, powerful truth about how to eliminate toxic people from your life – forever. It starts with this understanding, which on the surface feels totally counter-intuitive. Believing we are freeing ourselves from toxic people and situations is wrong town, and deeply understanding that we are freeing ourselves from ourselves is right town. (more…)

 

I am so excited to share this Thriver Tv episode with you because in it we explore the deep recesses of Quantum Realities.

In this episode, I am going to share with you exactly the raw, powerful truth about how to eliminate toxic people from your life – forever.

It starts with this understanding, which on the surface feels totally counter-intuitive.

Believing we are freeing ourselves from toxic people and situations is wrong town, and deeply understanding that we are freeing ourselves from ourselves is right town.

What Separates A Co-Dependent From A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships. This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms. However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature. (more…)

 

What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships.

This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms.

However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature.

The 5 Ways A Narcissist Gets Under Your Skin

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Narcissists get under our skin – absolutely. They infiltrate your psyche, your emotions and your soul. Last week I talked about “Wetiko” the human psychic virus, and this week I want to take this a step further and talk with you about what happens when a narcissist (a horrible manifestation of the Wetiko virus) has infiltrated us. It is a phenomenon, because how does one one human being affect another human being so profoundly to the point where you can barely operate? In this Thriver TV episode I am going to explain to you the exact five ways that narcissists get into our Inner Being. (more…)

 

Narcissists get under our skin – absolutely. They infiltrate your psyche, your emotions and your soul.

Last week I talked about “Wetiko” the human psychic virus, and this week I want to take this a step further and talk with you about what happens when a narcissist (a horrible manifestation of the Wetiko virus) has infiltrated us.

It is a phenomenon, because how does one one human being affect another human being so profoundly to the point where you can barely operate?

In this Thriver TV episode I am going to explain to you the exact five ways that narcissists get into our Inner Being.