Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Heal The Wounds From Narcissistic Mothers

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  In this Thriver TV episode today, I want to deeply acknowledge with you the devastating effects of Mother wounds, and the trauma this has caused for so many of you in this Community. What does it mean for you if your Mother did not fulfill what a stereotypical Mother does, such as care, nurture, and support? How does this affect your ability to feel whole, worthy and confident in Life? And what is it like to still be caught up in the battle of feeling like no matter what you do it is never good enough? Or to still feel like you are receiving abuse, neglect, or being scapegoated for her issues that she is not taking responsibility for? Maybe, things are so unhealthy with your Mother that you feel like the one who is the Mother and she is a broken child. Whatever you may be struggling with to heal, overcome and survive with your Mother, the impact may be...

 

In this Thriver TV episode today, I want to deeply acknowledge with you the devastating effects of Mother wounds, and the trauma this has caused for so many of you in this Community.

What does it mean for you if your Mother did not fulfill what a stereotypical Mother does, such as care, nurture, and support?

How does this affect your ability to feel whole, worthy and confident in Life?

And what is it like to still be caught up in the battle of feeling like no matter what you do it is never good enough? Or to still feel like you are receiving abuse, neglect, or being scapegoated for her issues that she is not taking responsibility for?

Maybe, things are so unhealthy with your Mother that you feel like the one who is the Mother and she is a broken child.

Whatever you may be struggling with to heal, overcome and survive with your Mother, the impact may be devastating, and you may feel trapped in the trauma and abuse whichever way you try to turn.

There may be a host of reasons why you feel that you can’t walk away or say “no” to her.

Or maybe you have walked away, but the trauma is still so painful inside you.

Within this video, we investigate the dynamics of Mother wounds, the associated fears not allowing you to say “no”, as well as how to heal from these deep primal wounds to become your True Self.

If you are suffering Mother wounds, it is my deepest hope that this Thriver TV episode holds for you the key of how to heal, to finally set you free.

I look forward to answering your questions and comments below.

What Makes A Somatic Narcissist, Why We Attract Them, And How To Heal This Toxic Connection

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  A few weeks I talked to you about The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them and many people have written in to ask about the somatic narcissist, who they are, and what to look out for regarding them. I decided I’d like to share with you essential information about somatic narcissists. Most narcissistic experts believe that there are two type of narcissists – the cerebral type who acquires narcissistic supply primarily with their brain, and the somatic narcissist who seeks attention and significance through their physicality. What I really believe is that this generalisation is not entirely accurate, because narcissists can shift from one to the other, although it can be argued that predominately a narcissist may be cerebral or somatic. (more…)

 

A few weeks I talked to you about The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them and many people have written in to ask about the somatic narcissist, who they are, and what to look out for regarding them.

I decided I’d like to share with you essential information about somatic narcissists.

Most narcissistic experts believe that there are two type of narcissists – the cerebral type who acquires narcissistic supply primarily with their brain, and the somatic narcissist who seeks attention and significance through their physicality.

What I really believe is that this generalisation is not entirely accurate, because narcissists can shift from one to the other, although it can be argued that predominately a narcissist may be cerebral or somatic.

How To Free Yourself From Toxic People And Situations

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I am so excited to share this Thriver Tv episode with you because in it we explore the deep recesses of Quantum Realities. In this episode, I am going to share with you exactly the raw, powerful truth about how to eliminate toxic people from your life – forever. It starts with this understanding, which on the surface feels totally counter-intuitive. Believing we are freeing ourselves from toxic people and situations is wrong town, and deeply understanding that we are freeing ourselves from ourselves is right town. (more…)

 

I am so excited to share this Thriver Tv episode with you because in it we explore the deep recesses of Quantum Realities.

In this episode, I am going to share with you exactly the raw, powerful truth about how to eliminate toxic people from your life – forever.

It starts with this understanding, which on the surface feels totally counter-intuitive.

Believing we are freeing ourselves from toxic people and situations is wrong town, and deeply understanding that we are freeing ourselves from ourselves is right town.

What Separates A Co-Dependent From A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships. This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms. However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature. (more…)

 

What is great about our Thriver Community, and makes it so unique and empowering, is that we get it – we seek to understand what has unconsciously led us into painful and abusive relationships.

This, finally, releases us from powerlessness and victimisation, and puts us firmly in the driver seat of our life. Because we can now claim and heal our internal traumas to free ourselves from abuse and abuse symptoms.

However, when we realise that our unhealed wounds have led us into relationships with narcissists, we may wonder whether our levels of unconsciousness are healable, or even if they may have caused us to become narcissistic in nature.

The 5 Ways A Narcissist Gets Under Your Skin

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Narcissists get under our skin – absolutely. They infiltrate your psyche, your emotions and your soul. Last week I talked about “Wetiko” the human psychic virus, and this week I want to take this a step further and talk with you about what happens when a narcissist (a horrible manifestation of the Wetiko virus) has infiltrated us. It is a phenomenon, because how does one one human being affect another human being so profoundly to the point where you can barely operate? In this Thriver TV episode I am going to explain to you the exact five ways that narcissists get into our Inner Being. (more…)

 

Narcissists get under our skin – absolutely. They infiltrate your psyche, your emotions and your soul.

Last week I talked about “Wetiko” the human psychic virus, and this week I want to take this a step further and talk with you about what happens when a narcissist (a horrible manifestation of the Wetiko virus) has infiltrated us.

It is a phenomenon, because how does one one human being affect another human being so profoundly to the point where you can barely operate?

In this Thriver TV episode I am going to explain to you the exact five ways that narcissists get into our Inner Being.

What Is The Most Powerful Narcissist Inoculation?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being abused by a narcissist is one of the most traumatic experiences that could ever happen to you. It left you reeling. It was like your life-force was sucked out, and then you were left trying to deal with a “self” who felt like an empty, traumatised shell. I know, just like me, you never want to go through that again. In fact, the possibility is unthinkable. And to avoid that, this is what we are inclined to do – try to arm ourselves with as much information and knowledge possible regarding how to spot a narcissist and avoid them. (more…)

 

Being abused by a narcissist is one of the most traumatic experiences that could ever happen to you.

It left you reeling.

It was like your life-force was sucked out, and then you were left trying to deal with a “self” who felt like an empty, traumatised shell.

I know, just like me, you never want to go through that again. In fact, the possibility is unthinkable.

And to avoid that, this is what we are inclined to do – try to arm ourselves with as much information and knowledge possible regarding how to spot a narcissist and avoid them.

Why Do Narcissists Pathologically Lie?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Why do narcissists lie? Why do they struggle to tell the truth? Why do they often lie even when there is no apparent reason for them to lie? Of course we may think it is to manipulate and twist and turn people and abuse them – to deceive and purposefully confuse others and hurt them … but is it? Is there something deeper going on as to why lying is such an ingrained personality disorder for narcissists? When you experience the trauma of continual lies, you may begin to question everything including your own sanity. You don’t know what is true or false anymore and things get so crazy that you start to question if the narcissist even knows the difference. (more…)

 

Why do narcissists lie? Why do they struggle to tell the truth? Why do they often lie even when there is no apparent reason for them to lie?

Of course we may think it is to manipulate and twist and turn people and abuse them – to deceive and purposefully confuse others and hurt them … but is it?

Is there something deeper going on as to why lying is such an ingrained personality disorder for narcissists?

When you experience the trauma of continual lies, you may begin to question everything including your own sanity. You don’t know what is true or false anymore and things get so crazy that you start to question if the narcissist even knows the difference.

Can You Heal While You Are Still With A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know we all hear time and time again how you should just leave, create No Contact and THEN start healing. And … I do agree that No Contact and leaving before trying to heal is often the best way to recover. Yet, maybe you just can’t do that – because of children, or a combined business or you don’t have anywhere to go yet. Or maybe … and this reason is a big reason … because you know you just don’t have the resources or the strength or the emotional capacity to do it yet. You simply may be too traumatised, addicted, hooked and or frightened to let go. (more…)

 

I know we all hear time and time again how you should just leave, create No Contact and THEN start healing. And … I do agree that No Contact and leaving before trying to heal is often the best way to recover.

Yet, maybe you just can’t do that – because of children, or a combined business or you don’t have anywhere to go yet.

Or maybe … and this reason is a big reason … because you know you just don’t have the resources or the strength or the emotional capacity to do it yet. You simply may be too traumatised, addicted, hooked and or frightened to let go.

The Dangers Of The Cerebral Narcissist And How To Avoid Them

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today I want to talk to you about cerebral narcissists – the high-functioning variety. In many ways an intelligent, successful, high-functioning narcissist may be among the most dangerous of all, because they are hard to detect. This person may literally hide their personality disorder, from the world at large, for their entire life. A high-functioning cerebral narcissist is very, very skilled at fitting in, getting people to like them, trust them, follow their orders and admire them. They are energetic, purpose drive and highly articulate and they are often in high positions of power. (more…)

 

Today I want to talk to you about cerebral narcissists – the high-functioning variety.

In many ways an intelligent, successful, high-functioning narcissist may be among the most dangerous of all, because they are hard to detect.

This person may literally hide their personality disorder, from the world at large, for their entire life.

A high-functioning cerebral narcissist is very, very skilled at fitting in, getting people to like them, trust them, follow their orders and admire them. They are energetic, purpose drive and highly articulate and they are often in high positions of power.

Emotional Blackmail – The Devastating Weapon A Narcissist Uses To Betray You

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Today's episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist ... When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you. At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us. We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection ... but the truth is it was about something much more sinister. (more…)

 

Today’s episode is about a tragic situation you may have, or may still be dealing with, as a result of getting involved with a narcissist …

When they turn the tables and use your sensitive information against you.

At first we did not realize that a narcissist is like the CIA building a dossier of information on us.

We simply thought their attentiveness and attention was about genuine affection … but the truth is it was about something much more sinister.