Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Inoculate Yourself Against Somatic Narcissists

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way. Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential. And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees! Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention. (more…)

 

You may not realise it but somatic narcissists trigger your DNA chemically in a significant way.

Unconsciously, women are innately drawn to the strong hunter-gatherer with broad shoulders, just as men are attracted to women with superior procreation potential.

And when a somatic narcissist uses irresistible good looks to their advantage, coupled with excessive charm … it’s very easy to go weak at the knees!

Somatic narcissists are dangerous because although they may not seem as “evil” as their cerebral counterparts, they have a very real ability to suck your energy, resources, and livelihood dry with their excessive entitlement and constant need for attention.

What It Means To Be An Evolutionary Mother

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation. My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son. And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother. Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness. (more…)

 

I’d love to extend out my love to you this Mother’s Day. I know that today can have some very mixed and even intensely painful feelings depending on your current situation.

My heart goes out to those of you who have suffered the terrible trauma of parental alienation from your daughters and sons and those of you who have a narcissistic daughter or son.

And of course, there are those of you who have a narcissistic mother.

Today, I want to share with you my beliefs about how as Mothers we can heal and grow and become Evolutionary Mothers, helping teach our daughters and sons, through our own healing and examples, how to become whole and healthy and generate relationships of mutuality, respect, and genuine love and kindness.

How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 2

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session. One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will. Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live. (more…)

 

In Part 2 of this series, I am going to take you through the process of how to lovingly and effectively self-partner, locate your inner traumas and release them with a mini Quanta Freedom Healing session.

One of the things I dearly love about this healing process is that it is unconditional.  You don’t need to know how it works for it to work, and you don’t even need to believe that it works for it to work. This process is completely loving and all-inclusive, meaning that if you are open to receive it, you will.

Also, there is no time and space restriction in the Quantum World, everything just is, and is happening now. This healing as a recording is just as powerful as if you were sitting with me and this was happening live.

How To Break The Narcissist’s Conditioning – Part 1

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If you've been through a relationship with a narcissist or toxic person there's no doubt you have had the experience of becoming someone you don't know anymore. After spending months, years or even decades with your rights, feelings, and thoughts being suppressed, you have no choice but to submerge your identity, dreams, and goals and become whatever you need to be in order to survive. Which is usually a severely diminished person who has shut off their own life-force. And … even after getting out of the narcissistic relationship, as a result of finally leaving or because you have eventually been discarded for good, you are likely to still feel like you are stuck in a cage of painful feelings and fears. (more…)

 

If you’ve been through a relationship with a narcissist or toxic person there’s no doubt you have had the experience of becoming someone you don’t know anymore.

After spending months, years or even decades with your rights, feelings, and thoughts being suppressed, you have no choice but to submerge your identity, dreams, and goals and become whatever you need to be in order to survive.

Which is usually a severely diminished person who has shut off their own life-force.

And … even after getting out of the narcissistic relationship, as a result of finally leaving or because you have eventually been discarded for good, you are likely to still feel like you are stuck in a cage of painful feelings and fears.

What To Do When You’re Alienated From Your Child

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I really wanted to do an episode on this oh so painful topic, because I know tragically many of you are suffering alienation from your children, because of the narcissist in your life. This person may be a spouse, an ex-partner, a family member or really any narcissist at all. Maybe your children have become cold towards you and closer to the narcissist. Or, possibly things have escalated to the point where you are receiving your children's silence or disapproval – accusing you of being and doing things that aren’t even true. Maybe you don’t even have a reason for why your child is pulling away, and know untrue things must have been said. (more…)

 

I really wanted to do an episode on this oh so painful topic, because I know tragically many of you are suffering alienation from your children, because of the narcissist in your life.

This person may be a spouse, an ex-partner, a family member or really any narcissist at all.

Maybe your children have become cold towards you and closer to the narcissist.

Or, possibly things have escalated to the point where you are receiving your children’s silence or disapproval – accusing you of being and doing things that aren’t even true.

Maybe you don’t even have a reason for why your child is pulling away, and know untrue things must have been said.

When The Narcissist Makes You Out To Be The Crazy One

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  If you've been in a narcissistic relationship it's very likely you've heard the following words... Look at you, you are crazy!’ You need professional help! Everyone else can see it but you! The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly. You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of. (more…)

 

If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship it’s very likely you’ve heard the following words…

Look at you, you are crazy!’

You need professional help!

Everyone else can see it but you!

The thing is, when you a wrapped up in a toxic relationship you are LOSING your mind. You do feel despair, rage, confusion and panic … regularly.

You are triggered into feelings and reactions that you didn’t even know you were capable of.

5 Steps To Dealing With Narcissists In Difficult Situations

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being. If you've tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you're triggered beyond the point of ridiculous - struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness. All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity. By this stage, you've tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it's all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way. So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing? (more…)

 

Trying to deal with a narcissist, challenges every fiber of your Being.

If you’ve tried to manage a narcissist in a difficult situation, you know you’re triggered beyond the point of ridiculous – struggling to be heard and unable to create sense out of the madness.

All whilst the narcissist dances around you tearing up your efforts, emotions, and sanity.

By this stage, you’ve tragically discovered the normal rules of human engagement don’t apply – rather it’s all about the narcissist doing whatever is necessary for them to get their own way.

So how CAN you deal with someone who has NO INTENTION of complying, playing team or doing the right thing?

Why I No Longer Get Triggered By Narcissists

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Being triggered by narcissists is excruciatingly painful. And … the narcissist doesn’t even have to be in your life. It can be the horror of a bomb going off inside you when you see something that reminds you of them. Or, talking to someone about what you've been through. And, of course, there is the threat that you could bump into the narcissist, or heaven forbid come up against another narcissist in your life somewhere in the future. (more…)

 

Being triggered by narcissists is excruciatingly painful.

And … the narcissist doesn’t even have to be in your life.

It can be the horror of a bomb going off inside you when you see something that reminds you of them.

Or, talking to someone about what you’ve been through.

And, of course, there is the threat that you could bump into the narcissist, or heaven forbid come up against another narcissist in your life somewhere in the future.

How To Speak Up Without Fear Of C.R.A.P

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Do you relate to feeling like you don't have any rights regarding you opinions, values or needs? Perhaps this has made it very uncomfortable for you to speak up in your relationships. If so, it's also likely that you've experienced first hand, being silenced, invalidated or abandoned when you've tried to speak up. Maybe, you were made to feel wrong or defective for attempting to assert your rights. Or perhaps the fear was so intense it literally felt like this for you: If I speak up I’m going to get hurt, REALLY hurt. … or maybe even annihilated. (more…)

 

Do you relate to feeling like you don’t have any rights regarding you opinions, values or needs?

Perhaps this has made it very uncomfortable for you to speak up in your relationships.

If so, it’s also likely that you’ve experienced first hand, being silenced, invalidated or abandoned when you’ve tried to speak up.

Maybe, you were made to feel wrong or defective for attempting to assert your rights.

Or perhaps the fear was so intense it literally felt like this for you: If I speak up I’m going to get hurt, REALLY hurt. … or maybe even annihilated.

What Is The Fate Of A Narcissist?

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it. Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources ... and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed. Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things. Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed? Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts? (more…)

 

I know how shocking it feels to see a narcissist get away with it.

Here you are traumatised, and shredded bare of your health, happiness, and resources … and the narcissist is prancing off into the sunset with their brand new life as if you never existed.

Naturally, it is beyond devastating to believe maybe there isn’t a compassionate Creator or a healthy natural order of things.

Are we really in an upside-down universe, where bad people and bad behaviour are rewarded and it’s the good people who get hurt and destroyed?

Do narcissists get to live out the rest of their days, destroying lives, without ever being rebuked or karma serving them their just deserts?