Melanie Tonia Evans

How To Stop A Narcissist From Hurting You

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know all too well how difficult it can be to go through a tirade of narcissistic punishment. When the narcissist's mask drops, it's like being in the middle of your own horror story with the exits closed. You are face to face with brutal verbal, emotional, and maybe even physical punishment. Your head is spinning, and you can barely breathe, with the threats, words and actions that are happening which are so cruel and vicious. (more…)

 

I know all too well how difficult it can be to go through a tirade of narcissistic punishment.

When the narcissist’s mask drops, it’s like being in the middle of your own horror story with the exits closed.

You are face to face with brutal verbal, emotional, and maybe even physical punishment.

Your head is spinning, and you can barely breathe, with the threats, words and actions that are happening which are so cruel and vicious.

Love After Narcissistic Abuse – How To Stop Attracting Toxic People

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine's day. And I know, many of you may be doing it tough ... this day can be a very painful one in this community. (Big hugs to you if that is the case.) And that is what today's Thriver TV episode is all about ... breaking through so that NEXT Valentine's Day (if this one isn't already) will be beautiful and amazing for you. I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it's juicy and it's life-changing. (more…)

 

First off I want to wish you a happy Valentine’s day.

And I know, many of you may be doing it tough … this day can be a very painful one in this community.

(Big hugs to you if that is the case.)

And that is what today’s Thriver TV episode is all about … breaking through so that NEXT Valentine’s Day (if this one isn’t already) will be beautiful and amazing for you.

I really love this topic for Valentine’s day – its big, it’s juicy and it’s life-changing.

How To Be Hoover Proof This Valentine’s Day

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Valentine’s Day can be a very traumatic and painful time for many people in this community. From my experience, it's a narcissist's favourite time to hoover. And naturally, if we are still reeling in the pain and confusion of being originally adored, and then devalued and discarded, we may hope we'll be able to resist a narcissistic hoover attempt. But can we? It is SO much easier said than done! And then there is another potentially painful situation, which is: you may not receive contact from the narcissist this Valentine’s Day at all. And, until healed from your inner trauma, this may feel devastating. (more…)

 

Valentine’s Day can be a very traumatic and painful time for many people in this community.

From my experience, it’s a narcissist’s favourite time to hoover.

And naturally, if we are still reeling in the pain and confusion of being originally adored, and then devalued and discarded, we may hope we’ll be able to resist a narcissistic hoover attempt.

But can we?

It is SO much easier said than done!

And then there is another potentially painful situation, which is: you may not receive contact from the narcissist this Valentine’s Day at all. And, until healed from your inner trauma, this may feel devastating.

Thriver TV Is Back For 2018 + A Huge Announcement

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It’s SO good to be back. This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year! Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine! And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too. It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now! (more…)

 

It’s SO good to be back.

This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year!

Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine!

And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too.

It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now!

Merry Xmas And Happy New Year From MTE

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it's been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can't tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards. Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own. The truth is ... we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would...

 

This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it’s been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can’t tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards.

Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own.

The truth is … we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would love to set a powerful group intention with you and the entire Community right here, right now … that 2018 is going to be the best year ever.

6 Sneaky Tactics Narcissists Use At Christmas

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It’s so important to be prepared for the narcissist’s bag of tricks at Christmas time because traditionally this is a ‘hot-spot’ time when narcissists cause untold trauma to many. If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship for some time you will probably have a great deal of trepidation, remembering just how horrible the narcissist made Christmas for you last year. Or maybe you haven’t experienced a painful narcissistic Christmas yet, and this may be one where you will need to be prepared. It can be so awful to experience all the ways that narcissists act out when Christmas threatens to upstage them, and there are a few specific things which narcissists do which are Universal, to try to bring every else’s good Christmas cheer down. (more…)

 

It’s so important to be prepared for the narcissist’s bag of tricks at Christmas time because traditionally this is a ‘hot-spot’ time when narcissists cause untold trauma to many.

If you’ve been in a narcissistic relationship for some time you will probably have a great deal of trepidation, remembering just how horrible the narcissist made Christmas for you last year. Or maybe you haven’t experienced a painful narcissistic Christmas yet, and this may be one where you will need to be prepared.

It can be so awful to experience all the ways that narcissists act out when Christmas threatens to upstage them, and there are a few specific things which narcissists do which are Universal, to try to bring every else’s good Christmas cheer down.

The 4 Steps to Opening Your Heart After Narcissistic Abuse

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  I know you may be struggling to keep your heart open to love again after narcissistic abuse, and it’s totally understandable, because there is nothing quite like the devastation that this level of abuse inflicts on our heart … And it’s natural for our mind and body to try and protect us. However, you may feel frustrated because you would like to connect with others and fearlessly build new relationships, and even possibly fall in love again. Maybe, because your heart has been hurt so much, you couldn't possibly contemplate purposeful dating, even though there have been no love opportunities enter your life. (more…)

 

I know you may be struggling to keep your heart open to love again after narcissistic abuse, and it’s totally understandable, because there is nothing quite like the devastation that this level of abuse inflicts on our heart …

And it’s natural for our mind and body to try and protect us.

However, you may feel frustrated because you would like to connect with others and fearlessly build new relationships, and even possibly fall in love again.

Maybe, because your heart has been hurt so much, you couldn’t possibly contemplate purposeful dating, even though there have been no love opportunities enter your life.

Why Narcissists Prey On Intelligent People

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Have you ever wondered how you can be capable in so many areas, yet for some reason narcissists are able to hook and deceive you? Have you ever berated yourself for not being able to see it coming? If you’re anything like me I used to constantly tell myself “I know this person is tearing me to shreds, I know I need to go … and I’m smart, I know everything about who they are and what they are doing but why can’t I leave?” The truth is you’re not alone … this is the plight of intelligent people regularly. (more…)

 

Have you ever wondered how you can be capable in so many areas, yet for some reason narcissists are able to hook and deceive you?

Have you ever berated yourself for not being able to see it coming?

If you’re anything like me I used to constantly tell myself “I know this person is tearing me to shreds, I know I need to go … and I’m smart, I know everything about who they are and what they are doing but why can’t I leave?”

The truth is you’re not alone … this is the plight of intelligent people regularly.

Financial Abuse – Rebuilding Your Life After Narcissism

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  Sadly, narcissistic abuse doesn’t only come with psychological, emotional and spiritual torment. One of the most devastating things is the almost inevitable financial abuse.  Financial abuse is one of the most widespread devastations in this community – so many people are stripped of the resources they have worked hard all their life for. If you are going through it right now, please know you are certainly not alone. Today’s Thriver TV episode is all about how why we fall into financial dependencies and traps with narcissists – and how you can heal from this, let go of the shame and restart your life, regardless of your age or current situation. (more…)

 

Sadly, narcissistic abuse doesn’t only come with psychological, emotional and spiritual torment. One of the most devastating things is the almost inevitable financial abuse. 

Financial abuse is one of the most widespread devastations in this community – so many people are stripped of the resources they have worked hard all their life for.

If you are going through it right now, please know you are certainly not alone.

Today’s Thriver TV episode is all about how why we fall into financial dependencies and traps with narcissists – and how you can heal from this, let go of the shame and restart your life, regardless of your age or current situation.

Why People Attract Narcissists

Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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Written by   Melanie Tonia Evans
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  It's a sad truth, that if we've been hooked by a narcissist in the past, it's very likely that we'll have encounters with more in the future. You may have had the experience of seeing narcissists 'everywhere' and feel like a small fish in a sea of sharks every time you step foot out into the world. If you are anything like I was, you might be incredibly sick of continually attracting toxic people into your life and just wish that you could finally connect with healthy, authentic and supportive people instead. How do we do this? (more…)

 

It’s a sad truth, that if we’ve been hooked by a narcissist in the past, it’s very likely that we’ll have encounters with more in the future.

You may have had the experience of seeing narcissists ‘everywhere’ and feel like a small fish in a sea of sharks every time you step foot out into the world.

If you are anything like I was, you might be incredibly sick of continually attracting toxic people into your life and just wish that you could finally connect with healthy, authentic and supportive people instead.

How do we do this?