Category: Symptoms of Abuse

Reclaim Your Radiance and Confidence After Abuse

After abuse, we feel we have lost our radiance and confidence – making us unattractive. How could we not suffer this when the abuse assaulted us on multiple levels? You lose self-esteem, energy, and the motivation to do the most basic survival tasks, let alone look after yourself. For many of us, trying to be […]

Narcissistic Abuse and Complicated Grief

Grief is heart-breaking. Grief is about loss. What you had is now gone, and will never return. I remember saying to my mother years ago, “It would have been better to believe he had been a good man and hold beautiful memories, rather than knowing what he was and having to end it with him.” [...]

Toxic Shame and Trauma: How Are They Linked?

Most, if not all, of us have experienced shame, and as we heal, we become aware that our entire lives have been blighted by things like people-pleasing perfectionism and procrastination. We lack boundaries with other people and become quickly enmeshed with them. Yet, we cannot create genuinely intimate relationships with others where we receive love […]

What Causes Narcissism?

One of the questions I get asked over and over is “what causes narcissism”. So today’s Thriver TV episode is my take on this. Of course, I cover the impact of nature and nurture. But most importantly I wanted to go even deeper, into the spiritual cause and meaning of narcissism. The debate around the […]

How Does a Stay At Home Mum Survive After Narcissistic Abuse?

Being financially dependent on a narcissist is something I've wanted to write about as a priority, because I know this topic is so big for many of you. Especially as my beautiful support team at our weekly meeting said “Mel please do an article on this topic - our community needs it!” I am really [...]

A Deeper Look At Anti-Hero

The subject of this week’s Thriver TV might be a bit of a surprise to you, as I don’t usually comment on celebrities. But with Taylor Swift riding high as the first artist to claim the entire top 10 in the Billboard Hot 100, it’s been hard not to notice her singing about narcissism in […]

How Does Lack And Dependency Feed Into Abuse?

In today’s article we are going to deeply peel back one of the most painful reasons why abuse can happen to us – lack and dependency. My intention with this article is to allow all of us to understand the “gaps” that have ensnared us with abusers, so that we can ascend beyond this to [...]

10 Signs You’re Suffering From Abuse Aftershock

Today I want to talk to you about the 10 signs that you are suffering from Aftershock. I dearly hope that this can help you realise what is happening to you, inside of you and in your mind when you are struggling to stay away after leaving a narcissist, get your sanity and Life Force [...]

Narcissistic Abuse Is Like Being A Drug Addict

Have you ever asked yourself why it feels like you are addicted to the narcissist? Why it feels like your very being has been hijacked as if a psychic virus has invaded you? I remember not being able to stop myself from breaking No Contact – repeatedly. I kept going back no matter how badly […]