After abuse, we feel unattractive. How could we not suffer this when the abuse assaulted us on multiple levels? You lose self-esteem, energy and the motivation to do the most basic survival tasks, let alone look after yourself. For many of us, trying to be “attractive” was terrifying. What if that brought unwanted, abusive attention? […]
Category: Symptoms of Abuse
Grief is heart-breaking. Grief is about loss. What you had is now gone, and will never return. I remember saying to my mother years ago, “It would have been better to believe he had been a good man and hold beautiful memories, rather than knowing what he was and having to end it with him.” [...]
Most, if not all, of us who have been abused find that as we heal, we become aware that our entire lives have been blighted by things like people-pleasing, perfectionism and procrastination. We have a lack of boundaries with other people and become easily enmeshed with them, yet we are unable to create truly intimate […]
One of the questions I get asked over and over is “what causes narcissism”. So today’s Thriver TV episode is my take on this. Of course, I cover the impact of nature and nurture. But most importantly I wanted to go even deeper, into the spiritual cause and meaning of narcissism. The debate around the […]
Being financially dependent on a narcissist is something I've wanted to write about as a priority, because I know this topic is so big for many of you. Especially as my beautiful support team at our weekly meeting said “Mel please do an article on this topic - our community needs it!” I am really [...]
The subject of this week’s Thriver TV might be a bit of a surprise to you, as I don’t usually comment on celebrities. But with Taylor Swift riding high as the first artist to claim the entire top 10 in the Billboard Hot 100, it’s been hard not to notice her singing about narcissism in […]
In today’s article we are going to deeply peel back one of the most painful reasons why abuse can happen to us – lack and dependency. My intention with this article is to allow all of us to understand the “gaps” that have ensnared us with abusers, so that we can ascend beyond this to [...]
Today I want to talk to you about the 10 signs that you are suffering from Aftershock. I dearly hope that this can help you realise what is happening to you, inside of you and in your mind when you are struggling to stay away after leaving a narcissist, get your sanity and Life Force [...]
Have you ever asked yourself why it feels like you are addicted to the narcissist? Why it feels like your very being has been hijacked as if a psychic virus has invaded you? I remember not being able to stop myself from breaking No Contact – repeatedly. I kept going back no matter how badly […]