Melanie Tonia Evans

What Really Causes Narcissism?

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  How are narcissists, the people who have no empathy and the capacity to operate in conscienceless and malicious ways, created? Is it nature or nurture, or is it both? Is it due to abusive or neglectful parenting, or is it a roll of God’s dice? What are the ways to stop it happening, or to reverse it? There is a huge amount of consensus about whether or not narcissism is created by parents being abusive and neglectful, or as a result of them spoiling the child and constantly re-affirming how special this child is. (more…)

 

How are narcissists, the people who have no empathy and the capacity to operate in conscienceless and malicious ways, created?

Is it nature or nurture, or is it both?

Is it due to abusive or neglectful parenting, or is it a roll of God’s dice?

What are the ways to stop it happening, or to reverse it?

There is a huge amount of consensus about whether or not narcissism is created by parents being abusive and neglectful, or as a result of them spoiling the child and constantly re-affirming how special this child is.

Thriver TV Is Back For 2018 + A Huge Announcement

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  It’s SO good to be back. This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year! Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine! And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too. It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now! (more…)

 

It’s SO good to be back.

This is our first Thriver TV back for 2018, and I am very excited for this year!

Thank you for being so patient and letting me have such a lovely Thriver renewal break from doing videos and articles over January … it was divine!

And I hope with all my heart that you were able to have some downtime, doing the things you enjoy and being with those that you love over the holiday break, to nourish your mind, body and soul too.

It’s so important for us Thrivers to rejuvenate. Personally – I feel so bright-eyed and bushy-tailed right now!

Merry Xmas And Happy New Year From MTE

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  This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it's been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can't tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards. Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own. The truth is ... we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would...

 

This is our last Thriver TV for 2017, and what a year it’s been – more people than ever have joined our wonderful Thriver Community. I can’t tell you how much it fills my heart with joy to see so many of you applying the Thriver Lifestyle in your life and reaping the rewards.

Whether you are new to our Thriver Community or have been a part of it for some time, please know, no matter where you are on your healing journey, myself and the incredibly loving, amazing support team, as well as The MTE moderators, Thrivers and members from more than 80 different countries worldwide, are here to hold your hand and your heart and be your angel wings for you until you can grow your own.

The truth is … we are all in this together, the efforting to not just merely survive narcissistic abuse, but to actualise our Thriving from it. And, as such, I would love to set a powerful group intention with you and the entire Community right here, right now … that 2018 is going to be the best year ever.

What I Learned About Narcissists And Christmas And A Big Thank You From The MTE Team

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  Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out. I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would. (more…)

 

Here is the MTE Thriver TV Christmas episode, where I share with you how to deal with the inevitable triggers that may surface for you this holiday time as well as help prepare you for the different ways a narcissist in your life may act out.

I also reflect on the Christmas Healing Opportunity, as well as how to honour YOU at Christmas time, even if Christmas does not look like anything you hoped it would.

Shifts Happen – How To Create Healthy Boundaries That Don’t Push People Away

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  This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life. A tendency to overdo boundaries … Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others. This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others. (more…)

 

This episode with Bren is such an important one, because it covers a very important topic that can happen to us as adults when we have experienced so much violation in our life.

A tendency to overdo boundaries

Where we are quick to defend and protect ourselves, and even though it means we may not get taken in and down anymore … we can end up suffering the disappointment of separation and loneliness, and not being able to have deep connections with others.

This was what Bren wanted to address, so that she could be safe and in her Feminine Power in effective ways that worked to fulfil her goals of personal truth and healthy connection with others.

How To Survive A Break Up With A Narcissist – Part 1

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  It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic …. Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist. Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically. This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it. (more…)

 

It pleases me immensely to be writing about this topic ….

Because for most people who have suffered narcissistic abuse, breaking up becomes inevitable … and sadly most people do not know the TRUTH regarding how to effectively not just survive but Thrive after a breakup with a narcissist.

Traditionally, breaking up with a narcissist is a terrible experience – emotionally and practically.

This week in Part One, I want to address the emotional side of it.

Expanding, Becoming Radiant and Saying “Yes” To Life in 2014

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I really wondered how I was going to go with a month off from working…and I was pleasantly astounded to discover how much I enjoyed it. As I write this I am sitting at one of my favourite local cafés in the gorgeous front garden, listening to relaxing music and sipping on a beautiful fruit cocktail. I’m going over in my mind the amazing time I have had the past month and I’m super excited to share with you the inspiration and inner transformations I received during my break. (more…)

I really wondered how I was going to go with a month off from working…and I was pleasantly astounded to discover how much I enjoyed it.

As I write this I am sitting at one of my favourite local cafés in the gorgeous front garden, listening to relaxing music and sipping on a beautiful fruit cocktail.

I’m going over in my mind the amazing time I have had the past month and I’m super excited to share with you the inspiration and inner transformations I received during my break.

How To Claim Your Worthiness

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Who Am I And Am I Worthy? This is an article I felt really passionate about writing. Christine’s Thriver Story last week, was incredibly synchronistic with this week’s article. When she stated to me that the greatest thing that she realised from her journey was that she had never been able to feel or know her own worthiness, and that she deserved to ‘take up space’ in life – I resonated powerfully. Before doing her radio show interview I had just made a post on my Facebook Page “When Sleeping Woman Wake, Mountains Move”. My purpose in this post was exactly about sharing inspiration to help generate worthiness. This post received a lot of comments, shares and likes. (more…)

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This is an article I felt really passionate about writing.

Christine’s Thriver Story last week, was incredibly synchronistic with this week’s article.

When she stated to me that the greatest thing that she realised from her journey was that she had never been able to feel or know her own worthiness, and that she deserved to ‘take up space’ in life – I resonated powerfully.

Before doing her radio show interview I had just made a post on my Facebook Page “When Sleeping Woman Wake, Mountains Move”. My purpose in this post was exactly about sharing inspiration to help generate worthiness. This post received a lot of comments, shares and likes.

Transforming From The Wounded Child Into The Healthy Loving Adult

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In previous blog articles (especially ones lately) I have written and shared with you a lot about my personal healing journey. My greatest purpose in doing so is to assist and inspire your journey to heal. This year has been an incredible year for me personally.  I thought that many of my previous years brought forth incredible personal growth – but truly they have not been ‘a patch’ on this year. Last week I shared a post on Facebook about my year’s journey, what I had let go of, and what I had filled that empty ‘void’ with. (more…)

In previous blog articles (especially ones lately) I have written and shared with you a lot about my personal healing journey.

My greatest purpose in doing so is to assist and inspire your journey to heal.

This year has been an incredible year for me personally.  I thought that many of my previous years brought forth incredible personal growth – but truly they have not been ‘a patch’ on this year.

Last week I shared a post on Facebook about my year’s journey, what I had let go of, and what I had filled that empty ‘void’ with.

How I Let Go Of The Biggest Things That Hurt

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I was going to write another topic, and then just as I rolled out my yoga mat, a thought popped into my head... I realised that there is often one HUGE thing that hurts so much during narcissistic abuse, that is REALLY hard for people to let go of. Immediately I got my iPad and popped a post on my Facebook Fanpage and on the NARP Recovery Group - asking for people to post the ‘biggest thing’ that hurt them in regard to narcissistic abuse. (more…)

I was going to write another topic, and then just as I rolled out my yoga mat, a thought popped into my head…

I realised that there is often one HUGE thing that hurts so much during narcissistic abuse, that is REALLY hard for people to let go of.

Immediately I got my iPad and popped a post on my Facebook Fanpage and on the NARP Recovery Group – asking for people to post the ‘biggest thing’ that hurt them in regard to narcissistic abuse.