Can The Narcissist Heal and Ascend?

Many of you who have endured narcissistic abuse have likely asked yourself this question: Can the narcissist heal and ascend? Is there hope for them to grow, become more conscious and whole persons, and spiritually evolve? Can they let go of their separation consciousness—the “me versus you” mentality—and grow into unity consciousness, empathy, and true partnerships? Can they love others genuinely and cooperate?

It’s completely natural to want the narcissist or toxic person in your life to heal and ascend, especially if they’re someone you love deeply. Whether it’s a lover, spouse, family member, friend, boss, or even your own child, you may find yourself hoping they can change for the better. You may see their suffering, destructive behaviors, and how they harm themselves and others and wish they could rise above it. It’s understandable to want a better life for them—one where they can experience peace, love, and genuine connection. Your heart naturally wants to see the good in them and hopes they will one day become the person who can love, care for, and treat you with the respect you deserve.

However, it’s important to recognize that this desire often comes from wanting to heal the relationship and feel loved and valued. You may believe that if they could only see the truth, they would finally be capable of offering you the love and care that you’ve longed for. Unfortunately, the painful reality is that narcissists are often unable or unwilling to do the deep inner work required for this transformation. While it’s natural to care about their plight, your greatest healing and freedom come from focusing on your own growth rather than waiting for them to change. By prioritizing your own ascension, you can break free from their toxic patterns and rise into the love, light, and joy that is your birthright.

 

 

Why Narcissists Can’t Heal or Ascend

Narcissists have distanced themselves from their inner being, deciding that their true self is not enough to meet their needs. As a result, they create a fictitious character to seek attention, acclaim, and other ego-driven desires like money, status, and envy from others. Yet, none of these external pursuits can grant the narcissist true inner wholeness. This leaves them in a perpetual cycle of chasing external validation to feed their false self, desperately avoiding the hopelessness and emptiness they feel inside.

Narcissists are not interested in nurturing their souls. They are disconnected from their true selves, operating from a place of darkness, ego, and emptiness. Their entire identity is built around avoiding their deep inner wounds. Rather than doing the inner work necessary for real healing and spiritual growth, they project their pain onto others and manipulate people to gain external validation. This disconnection from their true self blinds them to the reality that working on their soul would provide a far superior life to the one their false self is living.

Healing and ascension require deep inner reflection, ownership of one’s wounds, and a willingness to connect with Source. Narcissists avoid this at all costs. Instead of facing their pain, they turn to external supply to try to “get a self” and medicate the pain away, which keeps them stuck in their lower vibrational state.

 

 

But You Can Heal and Ascend

Here’s the key: Just because the narcissist can’t heal doesn’t mean you can’t! In fact, your healing and ascension are the very paths that lead you out of the darkness they perpetuate.

Unlike the narcissist, you have the capacity to turn inward, face your wounds, and reconnect with your true essence. Ascension is about shifting out of the 3D matrix of fear, pain, and trauma and rising into the 5D flow of freedom, joy, and light.

Because you have been narcissistically abused, you are more likely than most to take an ascension path. Why is this, you may ask? It’s because narcissists have an uncanny ability to find every part of us that is still in the shadows—any insecurity, any part of our inner being that is not yet whole or ascended. They lure us into relationships by appearing to be the savior to these wounds or keep us hoping they will be, all the while hitting these wounds hard in cruel ways to keep us trapped in despair, pain, and suffering, preventing our ascension.

However, when we’ve had enough and recognized the ascension lessons that narcissists present, we can finally let go of them and purposefully ascend ourselves. By working on exactly what wounds they targeted and exposed within us, we can fast-track our own ascension. We no longer need to search for what requires healing or wholeness—it’s brought to the fore, front and center. Life, as we know it, cannot go on as normal unless we choose to ascend. This process becomes a turbo-charged path to healing and freedom if we choose it.

 

Ascension: Breaking Free From False Sources

While the narcissist is trapped in their cycle of false sources and disconnection from both self and Source, you are capable of breaking free from your own attachment and reliance on these false sources—especially the narcissist. You can reclaim your power, release the old conditioning that kept you stuck in pain, and rise into a higher state of being.

By focusing on and working toward your 5D ascension, which is at its most available, potent, and powerful on planet Earth right now, all the trauma bonds with the narcissist, along with the terrible feelings of panic, powerlessness, and helplessness, will melt away—along with the abuse symptoms you may have once believed you’d need to manage for life. You’ll reach a point where you no longer care whether the narcissist can ascend because they will simply fade from your reality.

This person will no longer resonate with the higher frequency you ascend to. It’s all about vibration—you are “yin-ing” while they are “yang-ing,” and there is no longer any energetic match. As a result, they literally leave your reality, psyche, heart, and every aspect of your being. And they lose all power over you.

 

 

Your Ascension is the Key

Your ascension is the complete healing of the wounds caused by dark, false sources and the return to your True Self—granting you the intended state of freedom, joy, and light that you were always coded to experience. Myself, along with thousands of other Thrivers, are living proof of this ascension shift, which can happen swiftly and powerfully after narcissistic abuse. It doesn’t require years or decades of costly, arduous, and repetitive talk therapy.

That’s the good news—you’ve been misled about the need for a slow, painful recovery. Whether it’s intentional from systems that don’t want you to know this truth or from others indoctrinated into outdated psychological models, the reality is that you can energetically heal and rise. Your freedom is available, and it’s so much closer than you’ve been told.

If you’re ready to step into your ascension, I encourage you to join me for my upcoming 5D Ascension Event. This powerful workshop will help you break free from limiting forces and rise into your true power.

Register at www.melanietoniaevans.com/ascension. If you can’t make it live, don’t worry—you’ll receive the recordings, so you won’t miss a thing. I’m overjoyed to support you in this incredible opportunity to align with your higher self and ascend to a new level of freedom and joy!

 

 

Much Love,
Mel 🦋
I look forward to answering your questions and comments below.