I have been carefully considering all the narc commentary I have read in books, online, and my own 17 year experience in a relationship.
I believe we create this reality in which we live and move and have our being. The purest highest vibrational frequency is love, to return/remember this, feel it, and operate in it is pure bliss and joy!!
Perhaps the contrast we step into and become programmed by serves to make that desire to “be love” so utterly impossible to ignore. When presented with it we eventually awaken and remember to choose joy and happy over pain and suffering!

This gives me hope and reminds me to continually focus on the great which exists within and remove my attention from that which is unwanted, so it will dwindle and die.
Freedom has been here all along!

Thank you for your amazing posts, they are brilliant!

Hi Melanie! I’ve been reading through all of your posts today as I’ve been debating for about / years whether or not my sister is a narcissist and if it’s time to go no contact with her. To keep the story short, I had some mental concerns about her 2 years ago (religious abuse toward her boyfriend, making him go through rituals of repentance, weird stuff). I approached her boyfriend after they broke up with these concerns, and she became angry at me (I think because he was still helping her around her house, feeling “forced” to help her because she kept telling him “you owe me”. She is very entitled, doesn’t work, gets state assistance, blames all of her “problem” on a couple car accidents she was in. She calls almost everyone around her a narcissist (even a 12 year old child of her ex boyfriend). She is always the victim, but knows how to charm everyone around her. She is the sweetest person to others but I’ve had the most bizarre text conversations with her where she deflects everything back to me, tells me I am manipulative, toxic, sick, abusive that I gaslight and triangulate with others. Apparently me sharing my concerns with her ex was “slander”. These are terms (triangulation and gaslighting) that I wasn’t even familiar with until I researched NPD. I actually feel she’s the one doing these things, not me. She lies and twists stories and has her whole church thinking her family is horrible toxic people. Ive tried to reason with her but obviously learned the hard way that doesn’t work. I’ve more or less called her out on her lies, and now she refuses to talk to me. Tells me I’m “unsafe and toxic”. I know I will never get anywhere with her. I need to write done type of letter to her explaining why I’m going no contact, but she probably doesn’t even care and never did? Do these people know there is something wrong with them? Do they know they’re different? Do they enjoy the way they are? I feel sorry for her. There is no way to get through. Does she really believe Im a bad person or does she know not?

Hi Deborah,

please Google my name plus narcissistic child and you will find my resources on this topic.

Please know absolutely there are narcissistic children who were that way from birth.

My heart goes out to you and I hope that my resources can help you find some solution and peace with your situation.

Much love to you

Mel 🙏💕💛

I get the NO contact idea, but cannot and will not stop loving her. No contact is not in my nature as a mother. In addition, I am very connected to my grandson and I fear I will lose him if she and I cease contact. I am trying my level best to draw healthy boundaries withoutt withdrawing my love and presence. I do feel how much pain underlyes her abusive behavior and my heart hurts for her as well as for myself.

Would love any particular insights/comments on how to deal specifically with a child narc.I can’t help but wonder what I might have done or not done in her childhood that has contributed to her anxiety and narcissism. Are some people just born with these highly reactive tendencies? I had difficulty soothing her from the moment she came into the world. I have an older son with none of these issues.

Stage 3 for me and am working on all relative self help items. Narc of 26 years now CKD incredible

Lorraine it was a 26 year event for me I was discarded 14 months ago no contact since.
I feel my childhood of parental abandoned and my developed codependency set the stage for this empath. I developed stage 3 ckd four years ago. The narc and toxic company culture I feel certain took me down. The good news is a was able to get rid of both of them. This kidney thing has be quite scared doing all I can to slow it down. Best wishes

Laura I truly understand your thoughts and feelings 26 years for me. No contact for 14 months. The narcs live in an alternative world of which they demand we join They were never to see identify or join us in the real world. Alot of very good information displayed here. I’m near finishing my counseling these YouTube videos have saved us all. We lost the past but we di have the future. You are not alone.