Comments on: What Is Narcissistic Entitlement And What To Do About It

By: You Can't Co-Parent with a Narcissist (But You Can Do This Instead) - Motherhood + Mayhem

Fri, 04 Mar 2022 17:52:17 +0000

[…] fact, narcissists feel entitled to their actions – everything they do is completely justified. They have an extreme sense of importance and […]

By: Sandra

Sandra — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 15:41:31 +0000

In reply to Ruth.

I can so relate to your comment…
There has also been a struggle where I don’t want to be entitled so I end up forfeiting deserving as a result. I didn’t know how to get to deserving , which I am now beginning to know. In this way I have been stuck, catch 22., because my boundaries were unclear between the two. I knew entitlement didn’t feel right, and would rather sacrifice deserving at the risk of being entitled. I deeply desire authentic deservedness, for me and my loved ones. Not being entitled is half the story, the other half is knowing and being in true real love.

By: bzbrum

bzbrum — Mon, 25 Dec 2017 02:28:36 +0000

I’ve been reading and re-reading older articles by you. I”m trying to understand how I have more than 3 friends who are going through relationships with such people. They are all decent women who are being tortured and treated in such an evil way. I am reading this in order to understand what they are going through, and I hope it will help me be more supportive.

By: Kyle

Kyle — Thu, 03 Nov 2016 14:51:13 +0000

Hello I am a narcissist which I belive leads me to be a sex addict. All in all I just lost my fiance due to My condition I need help I don’t want to live like this. What can I do to start my transformation into a decent human being?

By: Daniel

Daniel — Thu, 27 Aug 2015 14:46:04 +0000

“with narcissists shoinwg no interest in having custody of the children and almost no interest in parenting at all, until something goes wrong in their lives (such as a divorce, loss of a job, loss of a new relationship, business deal gone bad). Then, to cope, they suddenly see themselves as perfect parents and want custody of the kids” This is what I think is happening in my case. Long story, but in short: I got out of a (very short) relationship with a narcissist before giving birth to our child. I had to get out of this relationship, felt something was very wrong with him, and after reading a lot, found out he fits the narcissist ‘profile’ perfectly. He never showed any interest in the child, i’ve been raising the child alone, all going very well. Then, after years he demands visitation and courtcase after courtcase follow. He is escalating everything, not trying to solve. He got the courts to give him permission to legally recognize the child, so he is successful too. (Just as described in edcourses ‘It’s all your fault” ) He never paid childsupport and still will not, and he’s allowed not to as he does not have any money.Anyway, now I am faced with a courtordered mediation to establish (the possibility of granting) visitation rights and to get ‘the parents’ back in touch and mediate between us.Obviously, I want nothing to do with him in my/our life, but I have to face this situation and deal with it.Besides this, I do feel that my child has a right to know who his biological father is. But I am sure that allowing him access to our lifes in some way will be harmful. Its difficult. I do not know what would be the best approach for me to take in this mediation. (A child development psychologist/mediatior will be the court mediator).How to ‘expose’ him, should I fight it or stay reasonable, and most importantly, what is best for my child?Court and mediation is focussed and intent on getting some kind of contact going between father and child.I want to stay reasonable and want the best for my child, but I am so worried that i will ‘loose’ in the mediation. Not sure if anyone here can help out or can refer me to another blog/forum?Thanks a lot,From Europe

By: findjoy

findjoy — Thu, 30 Apr 2015 19:39:50 +0000

This part is so true for me: ” “How would you like it if I went off all the time with no consideration for you, and left you high and dry? Too bad! I’m going to start looking after me from now on!”

The entitled person with poor maturity is generating a relationship mess by decreasing trust and love. This relationship can do nothing but fizzle into ‘no connection”, crack and end, or become toxic.”

He said almost exactly those words. He used it to get his way consistently. It creates more problems rather than solving anything, but he could never see that.

By: Susan

Susan — Tue, 28 Apr 2015 17:22:45 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. I am a current sufferer, as well. I have not moved past the grips of a sociopath and I am currently involved in a horrific divorce that has, through the courts, given my husband the power I am trying to escape. Through the use of money and other means, my husband has spent the past 23 years controlling me and my children through his narcissism and compulsive lies and it took for him to become physically aggressive for me to see the light. I knew that I had to get out but still wavered a bit when the apologies were spewed. (He is, of course, denying his aggression.) After getting duped again, I finally pulled it together and filed for divorce, but to a sociopath, this means war. There is no concept of fairness only that I am no longer needed to get what he wants. He has traded me and my children for a different life in a new job and with a new woman (and possibly a child). One that doesn't include me so he is fighting with all his being to make sure I am hurt financially and emotionally moving forward. His lawyer plays into the games that my husband plays and makes them work for him while making me look like I am the crazy one. I am starting to believe that many people who are labeled 'crazy' have simply given in to the actions of a sociopath because they can't find an escape.

By: B

Mon, 20 Apr 2015 19:28:35 +0000

this is really seriously on the mark brilliant, intuitive information. I sincerely hope that this website gets circulated all over the world, on Facebook, etc, to help educate people and this will G-d willing give them protection as they will be forewarned. Far too many people have been exposed to way too much pain and injustice because of people with this disorder.

By: Tigerlove

Tigerlove — Sat, 04 Apr 2015 20:42:53 +0000

I seem to drift in and out of reality. I know that the behaviors exhibited by my x don’t match up to the words and that, realistically, he didn’t care about me. I understand that in my head, but I feel so ashamed and guilty because I realize that he was mirroring my own inner fears and sense of worthlessness. I know I should love myself enough to not grovel for attention. I know I should avoid contact but this huge piece of me that misses him wants to call and say I love you and it’s all okay. I’ve had my head held under water sooo many times it’s unbelievable. I’ve been compartmentalized into this tiny little slice of his life and kept hidden from the world. I can’t seem to get angry because I see all my flaws. He can’t be accountable for his participation but he does have a point when he points out my flaws while I remain frozen and unable to speak my truth. I feel so unlovable and washed up and dead inside. Will this ever ever end? I even recognize my childhood trauma and see myself quite clearly. If this is who I am then who am I to say another is wrong. When there seems to be no wrong or right. And so I justify his actions and they seem, we’ll just like him. He still seems comfortable to me. My ego keeps me from calling. I just can’t seem to feel the love for myself. Only my love twards him. And if our childhood is where we learned love then it seems that I will be attracted to the same exact style lover. And then it’s a repeat. I see it with my friends. They’re proporting happiness but it’s the same thing just a different package and then it just seems so dismal. Can this take years. It’s been five months. And it’s been very painful.