Comments on: What To Do When The Narcissist Infiltrates Your Dreams

By: Luke Patch

Luke Patch — Fri, 25 Nov 2022 22:34:53 +0000

In reply to sabrina.

I just woke up from a long extremely vivid dream about my narcissistic ex gf. I was leaving work and one of my coworkers said “there’s a girl asking for and waiting for you outside”. She was waiting for me as if she did this everyday yet that never happened.. we were still broken up in the dream but she had just turned up after ghosting discard as if everything was normal. We were catching public transport home and another coworker was on the bus and she was devalueing and belittling me in front of them. My coworker joined in putting me down..

I called her a narcissist and got off the bus, she was yelling at me from across the road and laughing at me “see everyone can see clearly how crazy you are! Loser!”

I don’t know what this means.. we’ve been broken up for near 6 months after ghosting me after 5 and a half years together. I’m with someone else now.

What a head….

By: SniperSS

SniperSS — Wed, 17 Aug 2022 08:12:01 +0000

Narcissists are demons. The dreams you have with them are NOT unresolved trauma. There is a different quality to your dreams and dreams they influence. Be discerning.
You MUST drive them out.
Do not be passive and learn and simply receive these dreams as “insight”.
The Lord Jesus Christ can drive out these demons if you are a believer. Do not be fooled by what you are dealing with. Be vigilant. They roaming restlessly seeking to devour. Send them on their way.
You have that power. Awaken.

By: Anissa Watson

Anissa Watson — Wed, 03 Feb 2021 16:46:27 +0000

I split from my ex in October. Including being a narcissist, he has strong addictions too, things were very scary at the end. I’ve worked hard to heal and has successfully gone no-contact in the last month. About 3 weeks ago I heard from a friend he wasn’t doing well. I started to think about reaching out to him. Then I had a terrible nightmare-I went to his house to see how he was doing. He invited me in and tried to give me back someone else’s underwear-I remember being taken aback in the dream and realized something was wrong. He left the room and came back and shot me in the throat. I remember laying on his floor and bleeding, not breathing and watching him watch me die. He watched me like a hawk-which was how he used to watch me. It was so realistic. I’m still shaken by it and haven’t slept well since.

By: Josh P

Josh P — Fri, 16 Oct 2020 17:34:00 +0000

Your so awesome. Your one of the only positive nonretraumatizing sources of information on narcissism, thank you. I have been doing really well on missing but knowing I wont go back. Last night I really missed him after a year and then had a dream in which he was in (rare). He loved me and it was great but then the violating sexuality re-entered, the bringing me to parties where I’m grossly disrespected, and the ultimate form of pain – abandonment – like anything meant nothing (god so sad). I had the connected feelings of a complete lack of self worth, but then I remember the actions and behaviour of other people only show their true selves and it is in no way connected to my self worth. Im still sad and miss him but I’ve grown so much and that is partly due to you. It was such a dark time after the discard and it is highly appreciated that your guidance is so gentle and positive and nonblaming.
And for people struggeling in the beginning, it truly does take a lot of time but the darkness will fade. I was in his neighborhood at a thrift store (never again) and I felt this gigantic all encompassing darkness (just what it is) and it made me realize what I had been living in. It just sucks and idk if it will ever not suck but there’s hope and a bright future ahead, put positive action into your day even if you have to sob through it at first 😁 it will add up and before you know it (a long time as well) you WILL feel better, I promise. Also trust Melanie, I’ve searched through so many at first and she’s the best source, confidently.
Thank you again sincerely,
Josh P

Sorry about spelling, informal approach

By: Carol M Rafferty

Carol M Rafferty — Tue, 17 Sep 2019 00:53:13 +0000

I left the psycho jerkaholic a month ago. He sees nothing wrong with what our daughters husband is doing which could put both of them in prison. He told me to stop making nothing out of nothing. He sided with her husband. I ghosted him & will not talk to him for any reason, until he starts looking after our daughter, which is never. The problem is, two nights, in a row & I remember nothing, my bedroom looks like a cyclone hit it. The trash can is knocked over twice, in two nights, blankets on the floor & things are flying all over the place. I also feel like I had been hit with a Mack truck the whole day & night. I had an important errand to run & couldn’t. Also, my speakers were fried due to an electrical storm & until I get new ones, I have no sound.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Wed, 12 Dec 2018 15:54:03 +0000

How am I supposed to expose the trauma that is causing these horrific nightmares when the narcissist has left me penniless, about to lose my home with nowhere to go. How I am even still alive is a mystery. I am going through a divorce unrepresented and he was able to hire an attorney the following day after he was served divorce papers. I’m unable to work any longer and the narcissist has destroyed my life. The techniques you speak of in this video cost money which because of the abuser discarding me, I do not have. I live in the US and there is no help for victims of narcissistic abuse because it isn’t even a crime. What am I supposed to do? My adult daughters do not care and neither do the domestic violence shelters or the nationwide hotline. A victim has to be beaten within an inch of their life and if there’s no physical assault, the abuser is viewed as a contributing member of society and a divorce is simply considered a case of two people growing apart. As far as the courts are concerned, narcissistic discard does not exist. Again, what am I supposed to do without having the resources? I have been married to the narcissist for 22 years and received his mandatory financial records. He is blowing through “his” paychecks like he’s won the lottery and I will soon be on the street. It’s no wonder I am having nightmares. Since he left 2 years ago, it’s taken every bit of determination to not give up. Nobody wants to hear it because nobody cares. Now you’re telling me these nightmares are a good thing. I’ll tell you right now I cannot fight these demons in the night too. There are some days I just wish he’d killed me. The therapists here are just as bad as the narcissists. What are women like me supposed to do when we have been reduced to having nothing? The number of abused women here in the US who have no one to turn to is staggering. A large percentage of them are living in their vehicles which is where I am going to end up. How do we get help when the abusers have reduced us to living in poverty? I hope you can answer this question because I cannot continue to fight the narcissist at night too when my defenses are down. There’s no one I can turn to and zero support systems available. It’s only through sheer determination and the knowledge that he isn’t worth giving up that I haven’t had a total breakdown but you are wrong when you say these nightmares are a gift. I have cried for entire days and the trauma bond is finally broken because I want nothing to do with him ever again. I take medication every night so I can sleep and still he haunts me. I have had enough already.
I know you’re trying to help and I know you were the target of a narcissist but you need to understand that there are many of us who are lacking any kind of resources to purchase anything right down to not being able to provide shelter for ourselves and are at the end of our ropes.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Mon, 02 Apr 2018 23:19:00 +0000

In reply to Maryam. Could be sleep apnea or some other medical disorder. You should probably let your doctor know what's going on.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 21:42:52 +0000

In reply to Natasha Paige.

Hi Natasha,

It means we have been traumatised by this person.

Please look out for my next Thriver tv episode coming out today … it is exactly about this topic and will help a lot.

Mel xo

By: Natasha Paige

Natasha Paige — Tue, 20 Mar 2018 03:52:30 +0000

What does it mean when the narcissist stares at you with black eyes through his computer, and what does it means after I discarded him a month ago now he’s back in my dreams looking at me with a smirk on his face.