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I only recently found you and have stayed committed to reading and subscribing to your blog and newsletters. I wish I found you sooner because you are so helpful and insightful and I no longer feel alone.

This video and article is very true in the fact that you do lose hope. I’m there now. I have recently gone down again after having been doing pretty good. The fact that the narcissist in my life still has a grip of me is hard. I ruminate a lot over everything he’s done and still continues to do and it’s hard to just keep living and going when he’s gotten away with so much.

I hope to fully cross over and recover from his abuse and lead a better life free of him and his controlling narcissitic ways. But it is a hard process. Every time I feel close to fully breaking free, something happens and I go down. It’s not the way I want to be living my life.

Thanks again for sharing and for helping so many of us! This video among all your others was very informative and helpful!

I look forward to spending more time on here with you.

Love,
Maria

He left me very abruptly. 10 days before my birthday, two months before our wedding. He told me that my “personality just wasn’t compatible anymore” There was “nothing [I] could do to fix it.” He “didn’t want to work on anything” and he “wanted to be single.” (even though I did get the feeling he was talking to someone else on Facebook even before he dumped me) After three years and changing my entire life to fit his needs, that’s all I got. Empty words and dead eyes. And promises that I was still his “best friend”. He kept everything- our house, our cats. (I wasn’t even allowed to pack my own things when he said I had to leave.) Then he sold it all and moved to Chicago. He left all his friends behind… like none of us mattered anymore. I am devastated daily. I think about him, dream about him, and get this pit in my stomach when I feel something big is happening with him.

He blocked me from everything social media related when he started dating (within a month after he ended it). I don’t think I did anything wrong. Not anything that would deserve to be left like that. I don’t know. I am second guessing everything in life. And I can’t seem to break the attachment. I can’t get rid of our wedding rings or my dress. I’m crying at the very thought of it.

And despite the silent treatment, the control over finances, and the selfish behaviors I still miss him and my old life. I feel like I am a piece of trash that he dumped off. I feel worthless. And I must be if I am that easy to forget….

I guess I will read more and watch more videos. This site seems like a good hub of information.
Thank you for putting it all together.

Ray

Thank you Melanie, I appreciate your help very much!!

Melanie I am so grateful for your advice but even more, for your loving presence, which I can truly feel. It means really a lot, as well as your encouragement.

I love your definition of belief, it definitely helps me see it as something that it makes no sense to battle against or even think about too much. And yes I do battle with them – a state of non acceptance, or better, not surrendering that it is also something I am trying to change – because I have experienced that all progress starts with my surrendering.

Thank you also for pointing out that “being here” right now is for my own evolution. A part of me knows that very well, but it is easy to lose focus of it when in pain and a good reminder helps 🙂 “These parts can’t come forward with you”, really did struck a chord. They can’t. I have no use for them where I am going, so I’m gonna have to let them go.

Sending you a million hugs! xoxo

Hi yes my story is the same .. and I’m struggling ..without neil use regular talks and the Naro program I feel like I have no hope every day.. u think I really need to do these modals more and more