Comments on: When Does Passive-Aggressive Behaviour Become Narcissistic?

By: Amanda

Amanda — Wed, 13 Aug 2025 08:30:15 +0000

My mom was this type and now I have one for a neighbor, trapped again only at least not in the same house. I don’t know why I seem to be a magnet for them, but after 25 years with my mom; I don’t feel like I can do this again.

By: Lynn Gillespie

Lynn Gillespie — Mon, 22 Aug 2022 01:31:09 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Help me to understand you have been silent ? Or your Mother? If you have been silent doesn't that make you little narc? When you don't answer calls texts or anything are you the one feeding the dragon? May hap she is alone. Surely she was their for you a couple of times. Or are you to also perfect like the narc Mom? Maybe she does need the drauma? After all you wrote on here about your own drama and how much better off you are? Great then why are we still hearing about it? Go live your great life or has it been 1 year 2 months since I talked to mummy.? Who's Who???

By: Erin OBriskie

Erin OBriskie — Fri, 22 Oct 2021 10:10:30 +0000

I believe my partner and I are both narcissistic. I think that it’s a learned trait from previous relationships, kind of a “I learned it from the best” thing.
The issue I’m having is, my partner constantly gets upset when, for example, I repeatedly look at a space on the bedroom wall and smile instead of looking at him. Now, I seriously have no idea that I’m doing this. I don’t want to make him mad. I’m not doing it on purpose. But he says that I do it so much, all the time, that Im doing it to make him mad. It is so confusing, because after a while I start to notice that spot he keeps getting angry over, and now I’m catching myself looking at this spot, and I can’t stop. It’s freaking stupid! So now, I do everything in my power to keep my eyes diverted down to the floor, but get accused for it anyways. Wtf is this?

By: Muriel

Muriel — Thu, 13 May 2021 05:31:09 +0000

In reply to Gregory Higgs. Hope you are doing a bit better....

By: Sophie

Sophie — Thu, 15 Apr 2021 19:27:24 +0000

In reply to Alex. The difference between no contact and the silent treatment is intention. The intension behind any action entirely changes it. Also the silent treatment is used within the relationship whereas no contact is used after the relationship has ended. I hope this helps 🙏

By: Vero

Vero — Sat, 04 Jul 2020 01:18:33 +0000

In reply to jessica.

Good luck.

My story is different. My mother and her husband (Not my father)are both narcissistic. You never know when they will pull the trigger and it’s all your fault. You did’nt say a word. They know how to trigger you. But for me it’s over. I’m done with them. Even if my mother family don’t beleive me I don’t care. I will heal myself like I always did but this time I will never go back again. Never. I hope God will help them. Today even if they will excuse themself. I am not going back. I told them. They are toxic people. Now they can toxic between themself. Those people think they don’t have any defaults, they are perfect. Nothing to change with them. They lie all the time. Those people have twisted mind. They are crazy.

I am very happy with my decision. I will continue to have compassion, empathy and love with people who deserve it. I am learning to love myself. I will see a therapist soon. To help me to not going back. I bought a book to learn to love myself.

Thank you for reading me.

By: Marcela

Marcela — Mon, 18 Nov 2019 16:51:15 +0000

In reply to Concerned mom. Hi, yes, go no contact is an easy advice if it is concerning your friend or so, but not if it is one of your children. I have 2 sons, both ok, but my daugther, the youngest child, inherited it from her father most probably. How to get her to a psychologist.. and is there any way for her to get better? I am concerned, too. I can survive few more years but - what a life she will have.. I am so sad for her but she makes hell out of my life.

By: Tammera

Tammera — Wed, 28 Aug 2019 11:15:09 +0000

In reply to Gentiana Wilson. My narc estranged husband would start fights when he wanted to take off and go do whatever it is he does so he could blame me for whatever he did.

By: Marcela

Marcela — Thu, 22 Aug 2019 10:18:17 +0000

Hi Mel and all,
I think my husband is a narc and my daughter (14 now) got it as well.. but maybe I am also a narc.. I am really not sure. The only one who is ok in my family is my son (16).
Yesterday’s story: my husband was doing some homework, repairing steps etc., which he was due to finish for about 5 years ago (no commenting this). It was about 9pm in the evening and the stairs were destroyed while he was working on something else. I wasn’t angry, I was just thinking like – hm, tomorrow, my son’s girlfriend arrives first time in her life and our stairs are in a mess”.. and this is what I said to my husband. He is always very self-defensive and telling him something is like going around the Easter-egg, btw. This time, he was again like – “I did tell you clearly that I would finish it today, I told you four times!”. I said it wasn’t necessary to scream at me, I wasn’t really putting him on spot nor was it my intension. Next day, we started argue about it and ended up as usually: him screaming, speaking 5mins, then me 10 secs before he jumped into it, basically saying that I was nasty to him first, that I had stupid comments thinking that he was not going to finish the stairs, and I actually started it all, and he didn’t like it, and he has full right to tell me if he didn’t like what I was saying to him. I wasn’t able to tell more than 1 sentence in a row as he simply jumps into it screaming. He wanted me to recognize that I was nasty and then he would recognize he was nasty, too. He said he had a headache and even though he was doing that home-stuff as I wanted (btw, we both agreed that we would dedicate Wednesday to fnish some stuff at home). I then get sad and angry and stop talking for quite some time. Lately, I am able not to speak to him for weeks as I feel hurt and do not know what to do. Is it that I am narc giving him a silent treatement, or is it that I protect myself..?? I really don’t know..
My daughter seems to me narc from when she was born. Always a drama queen, screaming, no boundaries, the “NO” is no answer for her. Comes back only when she needs something, otherwise I don’t hear from her. Telling me I don’t understand her. Is nice only when she needs something, otherwise is able to be quite nasty, screaming iat me and provoking to the very end when I explode (even if trying to control myself, I am not a zen-master, honestly..). My son suffers from all of this tension in our family and I do not know what to do..