Comments on: Why Are Narcissists So Entitled?

By: Faye

Faye — Tue, 23 Jun 2020 11:54:05 +0000

In reply to Snowleopard. Well said

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Mon, 22 Jun 2020 11:14:03 +0000

Hi Michael,

Just to make sure that you have clarity around this … as to whether you are actually narcissistic, I’d love you to google my name plus the question ‘am I the narcissist?’ to really check in … and work out your next step.

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💚

By: Michael Stone

Michael Stone — Sat, 20 Jun 2020 20:12:15 +0000

I was raised by narcissist parents. I didn’t even realize this until a couple of years ago. My wife pointed it out to me. Yesterday we were talking and she pointed out that I have some characteristics of my parents 😩I don’t want to be a narcissist and I want to do whatever it takes to not be one. Hat do I need to do or read? I do not want my kids to feel how I do and I don’t want my wife to hurt anymore. Please help!

By: Jewel

Jewel — Wed, 20 Dec 2017 08:16:31 +0000

Hi, I have realized that my sister has married a narcissistic husband and it is utterly exhausting being around him. He seems to always talk about himself. At first he was just annoying, but now he has targeted me. As in, always teasing me, joking with me, saying “he is going to beat me up” but then says he is only joking. I have told him several times that his joking bothers me and would he please stop and his response is to tell me “that is just who he is.” He also came up behind me in front of my sisters and my other brother n law and put his arm around my neck in a chokehold. It terrified me because I couldnt breathe for like 2 sec and tapped him on the arm and he loosened his grip. The next day I told him how much it upset me and he said “he didn’t even remember doing it.” But then two days later when he was over at my parent’s house with my sister, he made a joke about it motioning with his hands and asking if “he could put me in a chokehold again, just this once.” I said “no” very loudly and my sister got angry at me for getting angry at him for even asking such a question. Then a couple of days ago, I received a message from my sister inviting me over for taco salad and when i told her i would plan on coming, she responded in such a way that i knew it wasn’t my sister. So i called her and she said, “oh that was my husband who answered.” I told her how that upset me because when i text my sister, i want to know i’m texting her and not him. She then tells him i’m upset about it so he texts me and asks me why i’m so upset then he precedes to accuse me and turn the blame on me rather than just listening to what I have to say. Now, for four nights I have had terrible anxiety about it not knowing what to do. Going from believing that maybe I am overreacting to confirmation that I am not. I don’t trust him at all. I dont know what to do and am reaching out for help, because I do not like this situation I am in and would like very much to know what to do. Also, I didn’t know if there was anyway I could help my sister realize what he is doing by driving a wedge between me and her. He is planning on moving w her and their baby to a different state where he was orginally from in a year and I fear that once he leaves with her and the baby, we will never see her again.

By: RK

RK — Sun, 10 Dec 2017 03:02:56 +0000

In reply to Anna.

Hi Anna. Your message really “hit home” with me. We could be twins! My favorite N. line was when he said “I couldn’t bear the thought of pain or hurts coming to you because of me”. It worked great at the time, and I thought I had a really compassionate and loving man. Um, yeah right. The only difference I think is that my N’s honeymoon phase lasted a long time (about 3 years) but probably only because I moved 1200 miles away and while we talked daily, we only saw each other a few times a year.

I had similar childhood issues as you and it makes better sense now.

I’m on year 6 now and am finally making a break that will hopefully “stick”. Can’t take it anymore and am praying for strength and clarity. This site has been a God-send! Hang in there!

By: Judy

Judy — Mon, 06 Nov 2017 10:02:21 +0000

In reply to Pam.

Hi Melanie.
My entitled, evil, greedy, hateful, jealous sis and HER family could have “attached me backwards to the car trunk” and drugged me throughout town. Their gaslighting lasted for 10 Years on the 19th of this month. My mum died some time ago. I did nothing to provoke this. i MAY HAVE BEEN TOO CHEERFUL…TOO HELPFUL I had no idea of their evil ways until 6 months ago. Their actions had left me with C-PTSD. I could not stop the tremors and the slurred speech until recently.
I KNOW WHAT EVIL, SELFISH, SMURKIE GRIN MONSTERS ARE! THEY DERIVE THEIR NARCISSIST SUPPLY BY CAUSING CONFUSION…GASLIGHTING.
I had a great job, benefits, and retirement. I loved life. I’m older now…have wasted all of this time unraveling everything that was done to me. I am truly lost. I feel so stupid as if I have nothing left. I’m running on fumes.
Thank you for all that you do. Be well…you, too, cute Tiggy…the “therapy” kitty.
Regards, Jay

By: Snowleopard

Snowleopard — Fri, 27 Oct 2017 15:40:32 +0000

In reply to Viktoria Tröster.

Hi, Viktoria. There are always red flags form the very beginning. The key is to know what a healthy human being and a healthy human interaction look like — that’s how we’ll be able to quickly discern what is normal and what is abnormal behavior. Routinely a narc is either the most inflated egomaniac in the room, or the most pitiful woo-is-me person in the room, but both’s focus lies on their precious little selves. At a workplace, the narcissistic culture is fundamentally dysfunctional: it’s hostile, ultra-competitive even internally, there are always cliques, gossip and, often, drama. In personal relationships, a narc never connects with you on a human level. This is probably the first most obvious sign. They can only vapidly seduce. A deep, genuine human bond… it’s simply not there. Well, to a narc we’re not humans but tools. Narcs suck at interpersonal communication, because they’re so self-obsessed other people are a mystery to them. Due to their lack of empathy, narcs are incapable of understanding what other people think or feel, so they never connect with anyone. Beware of any person who is coming onto you strongly right off the bat! If someone is trying to seduce using their bodily parts or saccharine flattery/love-bombing, but fails to establish a human bond with you — drop them like a hot potato. This works for me. With a narcissist, you never really connect. Period.

By: Susan

Susan — Wed, 25 Oct 2017 19:48:00 +0000

The title of this blog says that Ns ARE entitled. They are not. Rather, they like to think that they are, and they also like to act AS IF they are. But the bottom line is, they are not entitled. Not at all. And until we realize that truth, we are still barking up the wrong tree.

By: Anna

Anna — Sun, 22 Oct 2017 20:13:41 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Melanie,
So true! This also came into my mind now: A n is a n. Like “only” a n, he is not a sadist (or I don’t know if some crazy ones are both at the same time!). I mean, the n is I think the slave of his ego, his first priority is to serve that. If someone else gets hurt as a “byproduct”…he doesn’t care. But I think hurting someone intentionally is not his intention in itself, like “consciously”, maybe that’s why n’s are not usually “instantly dangerous”?
This thought actually helped me to get some more peace of mind. But of course it is horrible and now it has become clear to me that this kind of a person is hardly ideal for a normal relationship!
But I’m fine…Finally light at the end of the tunnel! 🙂