Comments on: Why Do Narcissists Pathologically Lie? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 08 Jun 2023 03:36:12 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-1157173 Sun, 31 Mar 2019 21:04:26 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-1157173 In reply to Christina.

Hi Christina,

Awww gosh. My suggestion is to let go and heal. When people are not healthy for us and we continue to be there and allow it, then it continues.

You are not responsible for the consequences of his behaviour, he is.

Christina, I know it is so difficult sweetheart to not feel sorry for, be hooked into and keep enabling abusive out of control people, however when you turn inwards to start facing and confronting the parts of us that are emotionally hooked – then you will get free.

That is what all of my work is about. Iā€™d love you to start understanding and unravelling how to take your power back, for you and your daughter.

This can help – http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Sending your strength, truth and healing.

Mel šŸ™šŸ’•ā¤ļø

]]> By: Christina https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-1157051 Sun, 31 Mar 2019 13:12:33 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-1157051 Thankyou so much for your video you are so right and I now don’t feel alone my partner had left hadent herd from him in 5 days, we have a 4 year old daughter that is really confused. He had a serious car accident and has brocken his pelvis, arms, legs, ribs and collar bone we had separated 5 days earlier as he has haveing affairs. Using drugs and being violent and now expects me to be there for him I don’t know what to do, I haven’t told our daughter as I think it’s too much for her we live 3 hours from the hospital. Any advice

]]> By: Katen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-1041185 Wed, 16 May 2018 13:32:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-1041185 In reply to Rye Martin.

Dea Rye,
It hurts so much when it is your son. You can’t divorced him.
My son is only 13. With your experience is there anything you could have done when your kid was my son’s age?
Thanks

]]> By: Katen https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-1041180 Wed, 16 May 2018 13:24:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-1041180 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

This is my case too.
Having a narcissist son of a narcissist father. He is only 13.
I might be in time to do something .
I just had divorced after 28 years.
I can handle my ex lies and narcissism with a lot of work.
But my son.. .. he is my son my responsibility, my flesh and blood.
I would like so much to help him, before is too late for him and for me.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-985141 Thu, 04 Jan 2018 23:57:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-985141 In reply to Phoenix Rising.

Hi Phoenix Rising,

It’s my pleasure and I am so pleased it resonates wuth you. That is great that you are doing the inner work now directly on your traum -because that is where your power truly is.

Module 4 and 5 are specifically created to help you with this – especially Module 5. Usually Module 1 comes first until pain releases a lot, (which it seems you have done) and because you know specifically what it is that is your sticking point – I would suggest to go to Module 5 work now to get relief and healing for this.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

]]> By: Phoenix Rising https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-985097 Thu, 04 Jan 2018 11:28:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-985097 Thank you so, so much for this video, it was just what I am needing to hear right now. I am still really struggling with exposing the lies of my soon to be ex narcissist, in part because we have three children together and he is truly a pathological liar (so very difficult to co-parent with). I purchased your NARP programme a few weeks ago and have found it to be enormously helpful and healing in so many ways that I did not expect it to be. Thank you, thank you, thank you for the whole series (I also purchased the modules on healing Family of Origin issues).

I am wondering whether there is a particular module or modules that you think might be helpful for me to work more closely with in order to come to terms with letting go of my need to expose his lies and prove him wrong; and perhaps to release my need to be “right” and come to term with my own false self?

]]> By: caroline https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-983251 Tue, 26 Dec 2017 01:55:32 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-983251 Fabulous and so very helpful xx

]]> By: William Fialkowski https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-966756 Wed, 06 Dec 2017 04:18:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-966756 In reply to Noo.

married to a narcississt who is divorcing me; i could never undertand why she acted the way she did; constant lies and foolish me alwasy found excuses in my head to rationalize or not believe that i knew they were lies. she would say that i did or say words that i never did or say. unblievable twissting of truth. i knew she was a liar from the beginning but fell under her spell. i would get so upset trying to convinve her that her intrepretation of what happened was not reality i would lose it. i became a person i was never before. even now i find it so very hard to get ger he out of my mind because i still think about the beginning but she is not that person i thought i married and never was. i am an older man and i will not likely recover; a painful and costly lesson. if you date someone and you catch them in a lie they are likely to continue and worsen. WF

]]> By: Anita https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-do-narcissists-pathologically-lie/#comment-940680 Tue, 24 Oct 2017 04:46:41 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=5180#comment-940680 Wow so helpful. Was married to an N for 11 years. He was abusive emotionally and physically. Finally separated in 2009 and took 5 years to finish the legal battle. WE have two kids who are 15 and 12. About 2.5 yrs ago, he took my oldest son to his side- Lied and blamed me for everything. My younger daughter is still living part time with me (shared time)- Your blogs and videos explain soooo much. THANK YOU. I am heart broken with my son gone and do worry about my daughter being swayed to his side and the lies. I have been working on me for year and have made huge progress. I finally feel I truly have a great inside being and outside life (and continue to work at it)
My questions relate.. how to deal with him now and going forward as his behaviour hasn’t changed, and won’t. He is now using my son to do his dirty work
1. We only communicate via text and email. But he lies and twists an arrangement we already made at the last moment. He is now using my son to pull my daughter to their side and she says she wants to go to his house/ a party/an event on my time. Do I agree to everything for my kids sake to not have them hate me? Do I stick to the plan we have and risk my son not wanting to see me (for the 4 days a month he does) or my daughter says she wants to live with him too? Do I let the kids decide what they want to do? They are manipulated by him so much right now.
2. Any resource suggestions on parenting and how to help the kids when they one day realize he is a liar and/or to ensure they have a solid foundation and don’t become an N themselves.

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