Comments on: Why Don’t People Heal From Narcissistic Abuse

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 18:34:46 +0000

The Good Book says, “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.”
If someone tries to abuse you, then you should do unto them as THEY have instructed you to.
Give it right back!

By: Daniel

Daniel — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 18:31:05 +0000

The narcissists game is: “You are worthless! Now, let me tell you what you can do for me.”
And the idea is that you are not to gain anything in return, except maybe they will ease up on you a bit, give you a little breathing room, and that is the reward, a let up of the emotional and psychological abuse and oppression. The narc wants you to be at a constant emotional and psychological deficit. It is like they are suffocating you and your reward is when they let you breathe. If you have not grown up experiencing this, then you will react with a primitive startle reaction and response when someone tests you to see if they can get away with submitting you to abuse. If you grew up under an oppressive environment, then it is like someone flattened and obliterated your natural defensive reaction. When someone tests me, if I let it go, they immediately have an ego inflation reaction and they really go on the attack. However, if they test me and I throw it back in the offense back in their face, they usually walk away very quickly, because they do not want anyway gaining power at their expense, they know the game, they have played it all their life. In order to understand the payoff they are receiving for their foul anti human behavior, it can be instructive to do back to them what they are trying to do to you.

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 12 Oct 2016 17:12:26 +0000

I like the articles I have read so far! I can’t seem to find though a description of your professional credentials, licenses and certifications that make you an expert? Please point me in the right place on your website. Is what you write based on research and training or just personal experience? -Molly

By: Catherine

Catherine — Mon, 10 Oct 2016 09:12:55 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. Melanie,l am hearing impaired and find myself a magnet for the narcissist,where re the subtitles?

By: lap

lap — Thu, 06 Oct 2016 19:31:38 +0000

How do I stop beating myself up for my horrible behavior in my last relationship? I have never acted that way with another person, ever. It horrifies me, and I can’t seem to stop the regret and feeling even more unlovable.

By: Hope (forumname Piñata)

Hope (forumname Piñata) — Thu, 06 Oct 2016 07:53:58 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

A very good, interesting point has been brought up here by Irma and I absolutely LOVE Melanie’s reply, full of wisdom from her own spiritual evolution and explaining things in her usual brilliant way.
That brought more clarity for me personally and showed me a new direction for further shiftwork. Thanks to both of you.

I always enjoy reading the Blog articles and even more so to find such gems in the comments section!!
🙂

By: JC

JC — Thu, 06 Oct 2016 03:10:45 +0000

In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans. blush emoticon :)

By: Helen Bruce

Helen Bruce — Wed, 05 Oct 2016 12:46:50 +0000

Hi Mel. Looking great. One of the major shifts that I have experienced by doing the modules was that I have become much more selective with the people that I choose to connect with. If they are toxic in any way at all, I am “out of there” immediately. When I look back at all the crap I tolerated needlessly, I realized that I was hoping that something from the outside would come along and fix the problem. Then I saw that the fixing can only happen from the inside out. Thanks once again Mel. Lots of love, Helen 🙂

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Wed, 05 Oct 2016 12:44:45 +0000

In reply to JC.

Cute JC!

love it!

Mel xo