I commented below on your post. It somehow went below. Hope you are able to read it!

OMG!!!!! I have to first say….thank GOD you guys have eachother. I am 46. My mother is a full blown covert malignant narc and sister the biggest golden child to ever exist. My older brother is like the lost child. He is aware, knows and has seen, so it helps me cause he does validate things for me. But, he stays quiet in everything. I’ve been no contact with mom n sister for 4 yrs now. So at 18 I had a daughter. This daughter is now 28, no relationship with her because she is just like mom n sister. I have 3 grandkids, it’s hard. I try to tolerate her for them, but every single thing she knows or finds out, she tells my mom n sister. So we do not talk about anything at all. My middle daughter is 20. No issues. My son is 17. He is a lot like my family. I’m commenting because of your issue with your own narc child. Ive went through a life time of psychological and emotional abuse. This led me to a opiate addiction, pain pills. Ive been clean over 4 yrs. my son calls me a piece of shit daily, a bitch daily, multiple times, I’m weird, crazy, all of it. He says nobody likes me and that’s why nobody wants to be around me. It’s hurtful, to say the least. I’m not a bad person. I just think, WHY my kids?????? Why? Why is he like that to me. I have raised my kids by myself. Ive always been a good mom. Last night he was fine, this morning he woke up and said “you stupid ass bitch, your a fucking weird ass bitch”, just because I didnt want the puppy by me. My older daughter will pick him up and he will be with her allllll day. I am never invited or anything at all. It’s like I’m reliving my hell with my mother n sister that I left and went no contact with. They’d do the same exact stuff. I’m at a point in my life where I just want to move away and never come back. I’m single and have no family. It is so hard. The isolation is the worst! My son tells me to kill myself and says he hopes I get cancer or die in a car accident. He is not normal at all. That’s not normal. Ive had my issues over the years, but it was at no fault of my own. I was born with a narc mom. It took me years to figure it out. I never had support or help at all. Ive done the best I could with what I was given. But to have your own kids turn on you and not support you or understand, it’s a whole other kind of hurt. My family would be ecstatic if they knew my son was the way he was to me. They’d be so happy. Am I wrong for wanting to up and leave and never look back?

At first I thought I was losing my mind between all the lies and rationalizing it’s okay to be an alcoholic as long as you can go to work at 1 pm. and you don’t drink everyday. I prayed to God to give me my sanity back on one knee and he did. I went to Alanon. Started a codependency group. Now years later after a long divorce have I been able to identify him as a full blown narcissist covering it up with alcohol. Yes he was charming and a great “actor” outside of the home but then he would come home after 9 hours of acting. Like being nice and take it out on the dog and me. After all that’s a lot of hours of acting; he was tired and worn out!