Comments on: Why Narcissists Devalue You https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Thu, 08 Apr 2021 10:33:38 +0000 hourly 1 By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1250963 Thu, 08 Apr 2021 10:33:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1250963 In reply to Faye.

So true Faye!

Mel 🙏💕💚

]]> By: Faye https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1250953 Thu, 08 Apr 2021 04:21:18 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1250953 ABSOLUTELY SPOT on in every way … and the family was like This

They will never grow .
Thankfully we can ❤️❤️❤️❤️ NARP 🙏

]]> By: Faye https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1250949 Thu, 08 Apr 2021 02:14:02 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1250949 * We CAN break free —- They never will ❤️

]]> By: Faye https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1250948 Thu, 08 Apr 2021 02:13:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1250948 This is So His Mother as well ..

Apple really doesn’t fall fair from the tree 🌳

Thanks to you Mel we can’t break free they never will

]]> By: 👁👁👁👁 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1239650 Sat, 18 Jul 2020 07:46:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1239650 Narcs will harbor ongoing resentments that you or someone else ruined their life or betrayed them while giving you vd that destroys your fertility and then will cause you homelessness and financial disaster. They are dangerously mentally ill and stupid.

]]> By: Jacquie Portak https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1234033 Tue, 17 Mar 2020 11:00:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1234033 In reply to Jacqueline.

I am so glad I decided to sign up for your program! At the moment, I am in lockdown with my soon to be ex (we started proceedings) in a foreign country. Not an easy situation! I figured the program can help ease some things and remind me daily to take care of myself-my décompression at the end of the day.

]]> By: Jacqueline https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1216064 Sun, 03 Nov 2019 00:21:00 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1216064 Thank you 🙏 Your video 💯 ‘nails it’ – every single word of it ! 💜🌸

]]> By: Hope https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1146572 Wed, 06 Mar 2019 18:42:24 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1146572 In reply to Elizabeth M.

This just happened to me too. A “Christian” marriage and we were in the media. The hardest part about the breakup was realizing he was not the “person” I thought he was. A total con. His Mom was in on it too(helping him hide money). He was having affairs, ruined my credit and is hiding money even now. Just spent a year and 3 months in court. Hang in there. With all your power get help mentally and emotionally for yourself. I just started Melanie’s program. It really helps.

]]> By: Lisa https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/why-narcissists-devalue-you/#comment-1134806 Wed, 30 Jan 2019 22:13:38 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6327#comment-1134806 I am the queen of attracting narcissists. I think I am an empath, people pleaser, over giver.
I finally escaped the wrath last year of an on again off again relationship spanning three years with a narcissist. Boy did he make it hard to leave. Had to be in control to the very last minute. I virtually ran for my life. Leading up to my departure, I became someone I didn’t recognise. I was so full of anger that I lashed out at a lot of undeserving people.
I then promptly met another narcissist. I think it is very easy to be vulnerable to such types when your vibrational energy is low. They can pick you from a mile away. The love bombing feels incredible after devalue and discard from another.
I have done a lot of reading on narcissists. I have also started to meditate and be honest with myself about what I want. Listening to your gut also helps.
My point is however the love bombing stage. If you become sexually intimate with a narcissist during this stage your body releases oxytocin. Oxytocin is a feel good, bonding hormone. It’s like a drug…quite addictive. I personally believe it can make you blind to red flags.
I was love bombed and a walking oxytocin woman with this recent narcissist. During the devaluation stage I didn’t see him for 5 weeks. It worked in my favour as I came off my oxytocin high and the rose coloured glasses fell off. I saw him last week with all intentions of continuing this “situationship”. The intimacy was “meh” because I had been downgraded to devaluation and my body had detoxed from oxytocin over load. It was consensual but I felt violated reflecting back on it. So, I ditched him on the weekend. Told him I wasn’t feeling it and to be honest, I find involvement with people who control, set the pace and have no regard for their partners feelings and needs really, really boring.
Narcissists fill your life with drama and pain. But they are boring.
So ladies and gentlemen, try and be mindful of the chemical processes that happen in your body when you are intimate with someone. Factor it in to why you feel the way you do.
There is a reason for not becoming intimate with someone before you really know them.

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