Hi Jennifer,

That is so great that you are bringing your power back to yourself … to heal you.

Thank goodness you did leave as you said when you got to breaking point. For most of us it was only when the fear of staying became greater than our fears of breaking it off that we left.

Jennifer the greatest truth I could ever give any of us about our healing process is that recovery is not a logical journey.

It truly happens when we meet and release our trauma. And when we start doing that we find and uplevel the traumas specific to us. Until then we are really only guessing what they may be. We know many … as you do … yet there will be more.

Wishing you incredible healing and breakthrough.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

I very much enjoyed reading the article you posted. Within the last six months I stepped out of a narcissistic relationship. He was verbally/emotionally abusive and eventually it turned into sexual abuse (one time) which is when I finally cut off the relationship. It has been hard for me to forgive myself for staying in the relationship as long as I did…I think back on times when he spoke something that was just off or not right but I stayed..Even times when he spoke fear over me when my true self knew that his words were not out of love. Unfortunately, it wasn’t until my breaking point that I cut it off. But as I read your article I realized that I do have to take responsibility for staying in the relationship in order to forgive myself and connect to my true soul.I find it interesting that my soul energy connected to his because in the past I had been a victim of assault so I very much believe that this experience attracted a future abuse in a different way. I also think that hiding the truth about the fact that I was assaulted created seeds of shame which when he spoke fear over me only caused water to be poured out over deeply rooted wounds of rejection/hurt.
I very much desire to be the light in this world as the battle continues on. I am still working on the healing process but your article definitely gave me new insight and perspective. If you have any other final words in response to my journey I would love to hear them. God has been showing me more and more how to be transparent and that the truth of whose I am and who I am will set me free and bring me back to the original eternal thought God had of me before the foundation of the world.

I have a question about your post. You stated that like attracts like where perhaps a codependent would attract a narcissist. Something that I’m confused about though, is that you also mentioned that later in the article, the narcissist is attracted to the light, and those that are more good natured. So…if they are the darkness and are attracted to light, then how can like attract like? I guess I’m just confused on this or missing something and would like more clarification if you can give it so I can fully understand. Thanks so much for the wonderful article!!!

Hi Dianne,

that was very brave of you to write…

Truly I feel for you – as this must be an awful situation as a mother to be in…

The first thing that is very important here is to work on being able to release your shame, guilt and pain about this…

These negative emotions can’t affect any positive change to ‘what is’ and truly they are damaging you…

The truth is Dianne you did absolutely the best you could – and it stands to reason that you would try to grant more love to a child that felt ‘separate’….Of course you did not have any intention to cause any harm to her..

But of course the cognitive part of this can’t really help your emotions. Have you worked with energetic release tools or considered them? That is your true solution – EFT or QFH (Modules in NARP would help you).

When you do the inner work on these emotions you will be in a much better position to accept ‘what is’..(whatever that will unfold to be)…and you will be able to release and live without the emotional pain.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

I suspect that my daughter who is now 30, is a Narcissist or at least has strong Narc traits.
This article stating that Narcissists are born to certain families as they are a vibrational match has me doing much soul searching and wondering about my own disconnection.

As a baby my daughter had an ‘unusual’ energy
and was extremely difficult – she seemed trobled and anxious and left me feeling extrmely drained and anxious.
Needless to say, she got worse as she got older, and I thinking she didn’t feel loved enough over-indulged her and had very poor boundaries with her.

The problem I have now is the motherhood guilt of how much I have damaged her and how much is her own in-built nature.

Interestingly I have never been with a narcisstic partner; this is my only real narcisstic experience.

I have had to distance myself from her which has caused much heartbreak.

I would appreciate insights from anyone.
Thanking you kindly.

thank you for your post. This is great that you are seeing the connection between the outer experiences and the inner healing your Soul is calling you to.

The NARP Progam I created is the inner journey of finding the unhealed parts and transforming them.

I am glad you have found this community and the resources are helping you.

Thank you Malika for your lovely message to others 🙂

Mel xo

I need to look within to understand this fear and detach.

N did not respond to my last message. Im getting the silent treatment.N has ignored me for nearly 10 days now. I just blocked him on whatsapp also.

What is the best way to do this, ie look within oneself?

Thank you for this site. It has really opened up my eyes. I didnt even know about this narcissistic condition until 10 days ago.Every time I feel bad or weak, I read an article here.

Love, laughter and light to all the brave women out there.

Hi Ellie,

you are so welcome.

It was always ‘outside forces’ that caused us abuse / neglect – our Soul did not start off that way. The question is not ‘how’…it is about ‘do I want to create a True inner Self and be the best I can be?’ Your destiny is up to you and how committed you want to be to become healed and authentic.

Mel xo