Hi Lee,

This is all so true what you have written.

I am so pleased that you feel some hope now.

The first step is connected to my inner transformational resources if you haven’t already and especially making sure you come into my healing workshop.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

There is a way up and out of this Lee, absolutely.

Sending you love, healing and breakthrough.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

My story is a complicated one, and my ptsd labeled “complex”. I’ve been in weekly therapy for eight years, and diring that time my healing seemed to be intetupted by one narcissist after another. After being raised by two dueling narcissists, I have been very leary and sensative to the red flags of these people. As a result, I have never been romantically involved with any; I am now fifty. I live alone, don’t date, and am very careful who I spend time with. My walls have grown thicker and taller year after year.

In spite of my vigilance, I just could not understand why or how I seemed to be a narcissist magnet: men who just seem to lock onto me, love bomb me, etc etc. Each time, I learned a new lesson on how to deal with one, yet a new one would become my neighbor or someone I couldn’t totally avoid. Last week, I met someone working for a political campaign. I thought it might be a good opportunity to meet some compassionate, like minded people. Even with my barriers still firmly in place, the volunteer I spoke with started immediately: can he stop by, no. Would you like to go to dinner, no. I immediately gave up on my idea to try to do something, anything, different to break this pattern. Yesterday, I was at a very low point, the lowest. The numbers just didn’t add up. I didn’t know anyone who had this severe of a problem. I didn’t dress inappropriately, I wasn’t acting either weak or hostile, I kept most personal information to myself, I watched body language, and I went no contact within a week. He has used my volunteer information to get my address and “stop by” unannounced. I didn’t answer the door or react in any way. He called from outside and left a ridiculously manipulative and hostile message: “I can hear you’re TV, I don’t know why you are avoiding me…just trying to be nice…I will come back in an hour…” , long sigh, phone thrown down.

So, at the end of my rope, I scoured the internet, once again, for clues. Then I read your article. In one hour, I read it over and over. I cried. I was astonished. The answer was right there. I by no means understand how to break through, but I am totally convinced it’s possible. It is me, has been me, and they will keep comimg if I don’t change. I learned it’s not about clothes, or the social group, or my posture, at least not primarily. This is about healing forty year old wounds, levelling up, evolving. It’s an energy that thick walls and dark sunglasses just can’t conceal. They feel me before they see me. The M’ s I’ve dealt with sense a bottomless pit of fuel, but are surprised it’s just out of reach.

When you said from a quantum perspective the N’s ( they no longer are entitled to a proper label; one letter is enough) simply cannot exist in my energy field once I break through, I knew at a soul level, beyond a doubt, that you have given me my answer.

Melanie, the current N has the capacity to be dangerous. He’s already furious that I stopped the game before it could start. He can’t figure out how I was on to him while he was on his best behavior, putting on the show, love bombing. That’s been the pattern: each one is more cunning than the last (this man said he was a “champion” for women’s rights, and horrified by the number of metoo-ers. Pretty slick.

Thank you from the bottom of my heart for your article. I can’t even imagine how many people it has helped get out of the nightmare these people put them through. I will re-read it over and over before your seminar on Saturday. I’ll think, pray and study. I have hope now that this could be the last NP I will have to endure. At this point, it really is a matter of safety. It has to stop.

Thank you for reading this letter. Thank you for helping me. I will write once I see my energy has changed and I can start living again.

Nearly hopeless, but not any more,

Lee

Hi Gudrun,

I love you words – they are amazing.

Especially – “I have not only broken down, but I have broken through.”

Stunning!

Mel xo

After that attempt, which doesn’t even create a trigger, the narcissist often gives up.

Soul contract fulfilled – evolution achieved.”

This I was finally able to do – just last week, one year after my brother staged an intervention to get the ex-narc out of my home and out of my life – BECAUSE OF YOU AND YOUR WORK, Mel.

Not to put too fine a point on it, it was only when I stumbled upon your writing and teaching that I started on my journey to healing and up-levelling. I have not only broken down, but I have broken through.

Hi Shana,

Please know you don’t even need to get “information” to shift trauma out of our body. You can just breathe, be “with” the trauma in your body, with your body “open” (not tense) and follow the instructions and you will get shifts.

Also, I highly suggest that you come into the NARP Forum for guidance https://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member because this is where so much incredible coaching with NARP (if you need it) takes place.

I hope this helps.

Mel xo

The scripture is Isaiah 54:17.

New Living Translation
But in that coming day no weapon turned against you will succeed. You will silence every voice raised up to accuse you. These benefits are enjoyed by the servants of the LORD; their vindication will come from me. I, the LORD, have spoken!

Dear Anonymous in CA,

I am a Christian as well. Thank you for your post I too was in a 5 year relationship with my “Christian” (narc) boyfriend. We are both in our 60’s.
I agree with you regarding what the Bible has to say about these individuals. They think they are fooling everyone….but they are not fooling God.

Anyone that is filled with the Holy Spirit will know the Spirit within them is NOT of God.

Everything you said is the TRUTH. And as you know the truth will set us free! No weapon formed against will prosper.

Thank you again for sharing.