The way you’ve described forgiveness here finally makes sooooo much sense. I don’t want to be a victim, and I hate it and it has been making me a perfect patsy in my work for the bad behaviour of unscrupulous and unethical business people (quite apart from my sister’s callous lack of availability to help my ageing parents despite living only 5 minutes away) as well as being “everyone’s favourite asshole” scapegoat for both my parents and my sister.

Reading through your transcript (thank you for that – I retain information better that way) was like seeing daybreak for the first time. I realised I don’t even WANT my sister to suffer consequences – that would only hurt her daughters. I’m not hanging out for Karma to get her – I just don’t want to feel wounded anymore, and for karma to stop kicking ME. Nursing my wounds has been deeply depressing me, and keeping me from doing and enjoying the things that give me joy. I see that so clearly now.

Thank you, thank you, thank you. xxx

Hi Joanna,

there is no guarantee that you can make anyone accountable with authorities.

The only guarantee you have in life is the ability to release trauma and be free regardless of what does or doesn’t happen to another person.

That is TRUE justice.

Mel 🙏💞🦋

Thank you for this wonderful and informative video. I just want to ask if “Forgiveness” also includes letting the perpetrator be free from the consequences i.e. legal. I filed a case against my ex-narc husband and now the case was in court. Thank you!

I am in the same boat with a narcissist mother and brother who cause me so much pain. I must break away at all cost regardless of what other people think or say. I must protect my peace, my health. Thank you for your words. God bless!

Hi Erika,

my strongest suggestion if you are a Gold NARP Member is to come into the NARP Member’s Forum http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member where we can meet you and help you breakthrough to the next level.

If you have any difficulties with this, please email one of my lovely support team at support@melanietoniaevans.com

I hope that this can help

Mel 🙏💕💚

Hi Maria!
My name is also Maria ~ and our community here has been abused as a group by such a man as you describe, who, in various ways, did all sorts of abuse and deceit and lied to us all, all while being our priest and hearing confessions. Some confessions he used against us and also told others, uncovering that one who went to him in private. That man, and his wife, have now passed. Over the years, each time Lent came up, and many times throughout the years, I would be, again, faced with my anger and being upset in many ways about all this. Then I finally realized what kind of person he Really was, and that his own wife, who used to be a friend of mine, could go along with him, and yet he also continued to deceive alot of other people. He made others not trust me, made me the problem, and now I am ‘banned’ from going to that church, now that his own son is now the priest. So be it. I am no longer anger, have forgiven him, and while he was still alive, I saw that he had no power over me, no longer. You need to focus on You and on God! It’s that simple sweetie. Look at yourself and what work you have to do… and look to God to heal you completely inside as You also do the work you have to do. He is NOT a servant of God! He is a servant of his own deceptions. He is not walking in The Truth. Nor is he walking with God. The God I know is full of love, perfect love, that does not deliberately hurting others and turning others against you. When it got really bad, there was another man who was a real Christian that came into our life, and his love has never hurt me. His love has been healing. The only thing he wants is for me to get close to God. When he prays, I know God is also healing me. Maybe the reason this man can be real for me is because of his own pain, inflicted on him by someone he used to love, and his own healing work he did, many years ago, that brought him to his knees and to God. Only God could heal his soul and he now lives a life that is completely given to God. I know it may simple, my story, but it involves decades of “stuff” and tons of pain. My own pain and the pain of hundreds of people. There was a church split over what this evil man did. I hope I am being easy to understand here. Right now I am physically ill and healing from something hard. Forgive me if this does not make sense to you. I did the work, even before knowing about Melanie, and now Mel is helping me with other things. Keep going with Melanie and healing your own self. You have greater things to do, and to BE, and you are not a victim but a person with whom God wants to fill with His love and joy so that you can be a light and love to others around you!! Even while we are healing, this can be happening. I know. Much love & hugs! ~ Maria

Brilliant Joseph!

Mel 🙏💕💚