Comments on: 7 Steps To Getting Healthy After Narcissistic Abuse https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 04 Dec 2022 23:08:49 +0000 hourly 1 By: How To Take Care of YOU These Holidays - Path2Positivity https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1276654 Sun, 04 Dec 2022 23:08:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1276654 […] wish to start by speaking about what we have to be-come and shift into – and it may be useful to assume by way of the airplane analogy. In-flight security briefings at […]

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1254236 Tue, 13 Jul 2021 02:13:51 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1254236 In reply to DMJ.

Hi Anna,

I’m so pleased it was inspiring to you.

Love and blessings

Mel πŸ™πŸ’žπŸ¦‹

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1229755 Thu, 16 Jan 2020 23:53:09 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1229755 In reply to D.

Hi D,

please know Dear Lady that this is all symptomatic of having unhealed trauma within you, and totally understandable.

This resource of mine may help you get clarity around this https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/am-i-the-narcissist/

D, I can’t recommend enough coming into my upcoming free masterclass http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/masterclass to learn how you can heal from this.

Much love to you

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’›

]]> By: D https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1229746 Thu, 16 Jan 2020 20:58:46 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1229746 Mel,
Glad I found you, I am 9 years free but I have found myself replicating some behavior with my current husband, that my ex would do to me. I’m terrified I’m a narcissist or I’m doing things done to me. This is making me sad. I was with my ex for 18 years from the age of 13 to 31. The control he had over me is beyond imagine. He was also extremely physically abusive. My current husband it great but I find myself being controlling. Thinking every time he leaves the house he’s doing something wrong. I’m hating this. My current husband believes I have ptsd and my anxiety is getting worse. I believe this is coming from my ex will be released from prison in 6 months and I’m terrified. I have 2 teenage children with my ex and he has threatened to come after us. I have tried to get protection but he hasn’t done anything yet so I could only get a injunction for harassment. My story is long and complicated. I’m still fighting to recover and be a good normal person. I signed up for your seminar and I hope it helps. Sorry for my comment being all over the place.

Thank You
D

]]> By: Pam https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1224935 Fri, 13 Dec 2019 13:50:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1224935 Mel:
Thank you for all that you do. You are helping me so much. My narcissist acted depressed and played the victim a lot. This was part of his manipulation to get me to do things for him and dote on him and worry about him. He became the centre of my work and I gave up almost everything for him. He was all consuming! If I questioned him or caught him in a lie, then he would rage & assault me. Could he have been pretending to be depressed? Because now that I have parted from him and filed an application for divorce, he is suddenly very self sufficient and capable! I can’t figure it out. When he was with me, he had evolved into an emotional mess and was relying on me to do everything for him – he would beg me to help him or just avoid his responsibilities until I stepped in to help. If this was all an act, this is HUGE – because this had become his persona with me, with his doctors & therapists. Once I cut him off, he seemed to transform back to acting like a productive person. I’m confused.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1224329 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 07:42:36 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1224329 In reply to Jacqui Walter.

Hi Jacqui,

How beautiful that we got to connect in Melbourne and that you are shifting with NARP so powerfully and quickly.

I’m so thrilled for you that your life is radically transforming!

Sending you many more blessings and breakthroughs

Mel πŸ™πŸ’•πŸ’›

]]> By: Jacqui Walter https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1224267 Wed, 11 Dec 2019 01:29:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1224267 I had the amazing pleasure of attending the one day workshop in Melbourne on Dec 7.
Even got some one on one healing with Melanie.
The NARP programme absolutely works!!! I have been out of a relationship for nearly 2 weeks after going back a second time.
The amount of trauma I have managed to shift in such a short time has literally turned my life around.
Great friends have come back into my life and my achievements in my workspace have been nothing short of amazing.
Turning inwards is the ONLY answer and Melanie’s NARP programme is a sure way to heal and reclaim an incredible life for yourself.

]]> By: Julia https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1224236 Tue, 10 Dec 2019 21:48:19 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1224236 In reply to Julia.

Hi Melanie!
When I read your comment and reflected myself a little bit…it made me smile. You are so right! πŸ™‚ Everytime I feel anger coming to surface (and in normal life, I’m not an “angry person” at all!)…there’s some ancient trigger! I try nowadays look at these with playful curiosity, like hmm, I wonder what this might be…Instead of this horrible, compulsive, urgent fix myself -mentality. That doesn’t feel good πŸ™

*What is the trigger that just went off within you regarding my comment?
Oh dear, it’s childhood stuff. I was extremely controlled as a child, usually punished even without any reasonable reason, normal humaneness, like showing weakness, being “stupid”, crying etc. was basically not allowed. The pressure the be in control and perfect was very high. Now when I’d adult, if someone tries to tell me how I should be and what I should do…this inner rebel instantly raises its head, like “don’t you dare try to tell me how I should be!”. Sorry πŸ™‚ This is very interesting, because this seems to be the trigger (trauma) for me!
This the trauma exactly, the “lesson” I learned as a child: I cannot just “be”. Being a human (which basically means to be imperfect!) is not okay. It was very distressing for a child (and still is for me as an adult!) if I need to constantly try to figure out how I should be, what is “expected” from me. Exhausting! πŸ™
Woo-hoo, lots of awareness! πŸ™‚
Well, I don’t want to waste anyone’s time here to talk about n’s, I want to be done with that! :/ But I just want to say that…When I met the n and it was our 2. or 3. date, he said gently: “you don’t have to change yourself (in order to be in a relationship), you can be yourself, just as you are.” This was so soothing to my soul, something I had wanted to be and hear during my entire life so far, what a relief, that I could finally be “just me” and he would accept/love me as such! Yeah, great…We know how the story goes with a n…the next 5 years nearly killed me.
But I just want to say that isn’t it amazing, mind-blowing how the n’s seem to have these almost super-natural, psychic abilities that normal people do not seem to have?! I never articulated to him with spoken words that yes, I have “this issue”, but anyways very early on the beginning of the relationship he was anyways and already able to pick that “vibe” from me, that this is my particular wounding. Spooky! πŸ™‚

]]> By: Karen Pisklak https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/7-steps-to-getting-healthy-after-narcissistic-abuse/#comment-1224031 Tue, 10 Dec 2019 04:13:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7384#comment-1224031 How long should one heal and what if you are still with your tormentar?

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