Comments on: Can You Ever Be Safe From Narcissists?

By: Carol Rafferty

Carol Rafferty — Sun, 03 Feb 2019 05:38:42 +0000

I knew long ago, there was something very wrong going on. I reported him twice & was shot down & called a liar & a bitch. Of course, he robbed me blind, so I couldn't leave. With children, I know, I don't have to explain the dangers of divorce with no money or support. I stayed to not abandon my children & leave them in danger with him & I wouldn't be there. I stayed & took physical, emotional, everything he could throw at me. 10 months ago, I made my escape. I have been working on myself all this time & it took about 8 months to get over the worse. Still yo yoing from strong as an ox, don't mess with me down the hopelessness. There are times I feel so satisfied being alone & working & other times I feel like a volcano ready to erupt with emotions. Of course, all I went through to protect our children, our children abandon me. The oldest spends very little time just talking to me, but you talks to him every Sat. I have a feeling she is his flying monkey. She tried to talk me into taken him back & I strongly told her no. To make matters worse, I was assigned case workers & the last two have committed crimes & emotionally abused me. The one was suppose to rehome my cat, because she was doing to herself things that could have killed her, out of feeling my stress. I found out through another who rehomes animals she didn't do it legally. If you don't know the person your pet is going to you need paper work to do it legally. I have no clue if my kitty is a live, abused, caged or whatever. I have been trying to find out where she is for a couple of months. I was being treated bad & no one would answer me or call back, which makes me fear the worse. The health care gave me the right number to file a complaint. The man I talked to seem very nice. When, he asked me what her name was & I told him he groaned, making me sick. I'll just bet, she was reported before & nothing was done about it. If anything has happened, there will be a law suit. I'm not doing this dance again. The second case worker almost had to be removed by the police. This one told me that the first one has left. Sounds to me, like she run. I have gone more depressed & my stomach is so bad, I am actually throwing up violently. The complaint is in & hope, they do something about it or she will do more. She didn't just do it to me, you know, she did it to others. I m so sick at heart & do not want to be around people, right now. I had been abused before two years old & right on up to the present & I'm older than people thing. My vibrations are so low, I'm not sure I can lift them up again.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 31 Jan 2019 00:41:59 +0000

In reply to lucy.

Hi Lucy,

The inner work is what is key to get there.

The first step is here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: lucy

lucy — Tue, 29 Jan 2019 18:57:58 +0000

I find the videos great but some times it is hard to connect to it. Any tips? How do you fill the cup with all those experiences you talk about in such a short period of time and leave it behind?

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 13 Nov 2018 15:24:42 +0000

I am not now nor never have been a narcissist. Nor Co dependent or seeking a single thing from a narcissist. I’ve been viciously abused by a narcissist who trapped me b4 I could figure that freak out. I’m in no way responsible for his acts, period. I’m an immigrant, female, disabled, non taxpayer 50 yr old woman. Your comments about codependency are offensive and unacceptable. No explanation of any form of abuse is universal, not one that places responsibility on the victim is correct. It’s just one of the nasty, self serving ways victims are blamed and abuse is perpetrated as intensely as it is, for the length of human history and how abusers are protected and emboldened and can hide. Shame on you for being a part of that while you imagine you’re a part of the end of it. Stop. Change, fix the damage you’re doing. Never repeat it or think up new

By: Carol Rafferty

Carol Rafferty — Thu, 11 Oct 2018 08:43:33 +0000

In reply to Kim. I'm not afraid of any narc, except my narc. Even some of the coaches have told me to be very careful. I have a case worker, because of this. As long as we are both on this earth, I will never be completely safe!!! My doctor told me, when he gets out of the medical building he wants me to get a restraining order against him.

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 21:52:09 +0000

In reply to Nat.

Hi Nat,

This is so great that you have embodied this now!

Mel 💕❤️💕

By: Nat

Nat — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 12:18:12 +0000

I understand and get it. The light bulb is on. Before i would listen to you and think and feel sorry for myself. But i now get it…i understand. Thank you

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 03:32:15 +0000

In reply to Jo.

Awww Jo,

Thank you for your lovely comment and please know you are so welcome!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Tue, 02 Oct 2018 03:29:21 +0000

In reply to Jo.

Hi Jo,

I’m glad you enjoyed it.

Please know this inner emptiness is absolutely what we are / were suffering from in regard to being susceptible to narcissistic abuse.

Please see this article which explains more about this: https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-narcissist-and-co-dependent-two-sides-of-the-same-coin/

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️