Comments on: Do Narcissists Treat Their New Supply Differently? https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sat, 06 Mar 2021 20:49:52 +0000 hourly 1 By: Sherry https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1249467 Sat, 06 Mar 2021 20:49:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1249467 Hello! Can the narcissist be my own daughter treating me like this? She’s killing me inside.

]]> By: Anaïs B https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1249458 Sat, 06 Mar 2021 11:52:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1249458 Omg it’s exactly what happened !!!!!!!!!
thx for this article Melanie so true from A to Z 🙏🙏🙏🙏
“Now let’s keep going with this narcissistic formula. If you love sex and need a lot of it, the narcissist will appear as someone with your sexual appetite and then start to withhold sex from you. If sex isn’t a big thing for you, the narcissist will declare there is much more to life and then start pestering you for sex mercilessly.“

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1195553 Sun, 21 Jul 2019 04:26:14 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1195553 In reply to Rebecca.

Hi Rebecca,

Sweetheart my heart goes out to you in your confusion and pain.

Taking your power back and healing hun is not about the question ‘why wasnt I good enough to commit to?’ It truly is about ‘what unhealed parts in me accepted a man in my life not committed and fully devoted to me?’

That latter question and loving yourself enough to heal those parts will take you up and out of this pain and into relationship trajectories where that would never be a possibility again love to help you start healing.

The first step is here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

Sending love and healing to you

Mel 🙏💕♥️

]]> By: Rebecca https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1195509 Sat, 20 Jul 2019 15:26:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1195509 Hello! I’m currently grappling with being discarded by a narc that had been in my life 8 years as he apparently had new supply lined well before the discard, I cut off lines of communication after the discovery. In the eight years of us being involved he would say that he hated the term “relationship” and that he didn’t like to feel as though someone had their talons in them. However, he has posted on social his status as being in a relationship not even two months after discarding me. So, my question is how do I NOT question that maybe I was the problem all along given the fact that he could never come out & say we were in a relationship in 8 years but can post for all the world to see he is in a relationship? Would appreciate any words to help me reconcile the confusion I’m having, thank you.

]]> By: Joe https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1108039 Sun, 11 Nov 2018 02:34:43 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1108039 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

I think I understand the concept of your advice…however, personally I am struggling to be able to completely embrace it. My narcissistic ex encounter was my husband, 25 years and 2 children and I had no understanding of why I couldn’t make him happy until the sudden and vicious discard. Finding you on the internet has been so wonderful in enabling me to pick myself up and face the days and in becoming aware of what my life had inadvertently become through naivety and complacency. The last piece of the puzzle is extremely hard for me, and it is this topic exactly. He appears to be living his happy ever after with the equally narcissistic thrice married affair partner who does meet his needs. The longer it has lasted, the most it appears to be so. For him, life seems to be completely fulfilled for the first time. He is living as if he is 18 again, and entitled to it. If it weren’t for me, he would have had a much more fun 25 years of his life!! It was wasted in marrying me apparently. Meanwhile I have been too hurt and broken to even consider allowing someone else into my life. How does this scenario not validate to the world, that he is the healthy one who was “saved” from a miserable life, and I am the unhealthy one laden with all the problems that need to be overcome. I feel stuck at this juncture, and am feeling quite frustrated that I can’t stop looking at his “success” in the relationship that broke our marriage.

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1106956 Mon, 05 Nov 2018 21:01:48 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1106956 In reply to Cecille.

Hi Cecile,

Please know that what is doing with stayed attached to you is all about him and totally self serving and awfully destructive for you.

This may help:

https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/hoovering-how-the-narcissist-tricks-you-into-breaking-no-contact/

As well as this resource:

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=zVuqbMoHz-4

Cecile please connect to my free inner resources which includes two very important ebooks and a healing with me that will help you get clarity, strength and power and say ‘no more’.

Your anger is only a temporary measure. Any emotion and contact keeps you hooked to him. The total goal is absolute No Contsvt.

http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

It’s the only way out of this.

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

]]> By: Cecille https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1106871 Mon, 05 Nov 2018 10:33:30 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1106871 Hi Melanie

I was discarded just a month ago and it was so painful I don’t know how to start my life all over again. He got a new supply and it hurts more whenever I hear friends say that they saw them here ad there, and makes me really mad but at the same time really hurt big-time. Your video today is an eye opener for me to realize that she may not be seeing everything about him right now but I am sure she will when it’s too late.

Is it right for me to use my anger of him to detach myself to him? Coz he keeps on coming back because he has a problem or he needs me for something or because he made a mistake and wants me back (which I won’t fall for anymore). So I use my anger by recalling all those time he abused me, hut me and cheated on me as my trigger point to tell him idont wanna see him anymore or I don’t want him in my life ever again. But he just shrug it off and said “both of us will never be away from each other, we will always need one another”.

What should I do? I just started reading your blogs and idon know if you have tackled this already but I hope yo could help me coz I really want to detach myself to him coz he is not good for me. He just caused me problems after problems, promised to help but nothing came and did t even feel sorry about it.

Thank you so much for all the work you’re doing which help a lot of work on and men to cope and start their life after being with a narcissist. More power to you and to your team.

]]> By: Jerrina https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1106870 Mon, 05 Nov 2018 10:32:49 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1106870 Great episode!

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/do-narcissists-treat-their-new-supply-differently/#comment-1104112 Fri, 26 Oct 2018 03:55:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=6248#comment-1104112 In reply to Jamee.

Hi Jamee,

You are very welcome and thank you for your lovely comment.

I’m so pleased you are awake and healing.

Sending you many blessings and continued breakthroughs!

Mel 🙏💕❤️

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