Comments on: Parents Empowering Themselves For Their Children’s Sake

By: Dora Ross

Dora Ross — Tue, 30 Jan 2024 12:56:08 +0000

It's a common misconception that only overtly abusive parents can hurt their children. The truth is, that victimhood can be just as toxic. When a parent constantly plays the victim and refuses to take responsibility for their actions, it can lead to emotional unavailability, unhealthy dynamics, and a cycle of dysfunction. As someone who has had to navigate the challenges of avoiding a narcissistic parent, I can attest to the importance of recognizing these patterns and setting boundaries for our well-being. At the end of the day, we all deserve the chance to break free from toxic cycles and live our best lives.

By: Blueyz

Blueyz — Sat, 14 Nov 2020 05:58:08 +0000

Once I healed myself, became aware, took responsibility for my part and no longer portrayed the victim, my son saw a powerful Mom and a different way to BE, and our relationship shifted into something he could never have with his narcissistic father. Heal yourself and you will automatically heal your child. Trust me and rejoice in your power to be your whole, beautiful self! My son rejected the toxicity of his father and we’ve never looked back! I never thought I could be happy without my ex but in reality I’ve never been happier! You can do it too!!

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Fri, 18 Oct 2019 01:10:16 +0000

In reply to Amanda.

Hi Amanda,

truly the most powerful and empowering way to parallel-parent (so much more effective with N’s) is to have an understanding of it here: https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/parallel-parenting-the-evolutionary-way-to-co-parent-with-a-narcissist/ and then invest in your own healing and empowerment with NARP http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp We also have an incredible NARP Community where the best minds in the world can help you directly with effective parallel parenting which they are successful at.

That support takes place here: http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/member

That is the formula for the most effective parallel parents in thus Community that takes then to levels, from deep within their core and personal power, far and above what a cognitive book can provide.

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💛

By: Amanda

Amanda — Thu, 17 Oct 2019 18:59:17 +0000

Is there a book out that covers the recovery steps and how to co-parent with a narc? I was officially divorced in April of this year and have a 5 year old daughter. I never understood why or what was wrong (I just new something was off with him and the drastic outburst) with relationship after our daughter was born until I saw your information on Facebook.

Thank you
Amanda

By: Karlsson

Karlsson — Fri, 31 May 2019 08:12:43 +0000

In reply to Michelle Branson. It's bullshit because you refuse to see the truth. I am dealing with the same and am now following Melanie's advice and it's incredible. Tina Swithin is STILL dealing with court battles, 10 years later. It's a NEVER ENDING cycle as long as you don't end your own wounding and victimisation.

By: Terri

Terri — Thu, 25 Apr 2019 05:24:24 +0000

Thank you. I needed to read that.

By: Kathy

Kathy — Mon, 28 Jan 2019 20:40:40 +0000

Thank you for all of these encourag words. My only daughter, 29, is a narcissists. The worst I’ve ever seen. She has 3 little children. She has used the oldest, 6 year old as her child to blame and treat horribly. She has neglected and abused her her entire young life. There is a 3 year old, who she idolizes. These two children are from one marriage. They are separated…soon to be divorced. My daughter uses her body to trap men…..gets pregnant and claims her birth control didn’t work. She has had multiple affairs. She cannot hold a job, she lives on the couch. She practically abandoned her children, leaving them to live in squalor, no food, deplorable home conditions, literally caring for themselves as they could. Their father lived with it because he didn’t want to cross her. She could be dangerous. She would stop at nothing thing to get what she wanted. She lies better then she tells the truth….a compulsive liar. She now lives with a new man, who she had living with her after only 3 weeks of moving out of the marital home. Her new boyfriend has been warned by us about her behavior. He has no idea what he is headed for. He doesn’ t even believe us when we tell him to get out now……while he can. They have a 3 month old baby. My daughter will continue this pattern, trap the man By getting pregnant, they supports her so she doesn’t have to work, she gets to sit home on the couch and neglect her children, her home and her family. My only daughter…..we have stopped talking to her. We can’t take the lies and abuse any longer. We fear for our grandchildren. She has 50/50 custody.

By: Michelle Branson

Michelle Branson — Tue, 09 Oct 2018 14:51:45 +0000

In reply to Kylie. That reply is bullshit. It's like telling a woman who is repeatedly rapped to heal herself. What your sister is dealing with is extreme. I think you may benefit from reading Tina Swithon author of (Divorcing A Narcissist)

By: Melanie Tonia Evans

Melanie Tonia Evans — Thu, 26 Jul 2018 00:49:12 +0000

In reply to Tami.

Awww Tami,

I am so pleased you are so on your healing path and please know how welcome you are!

Mel 🙏💕❤️