I want out forever! Again so on point! Narssisistic nobody’s home no sense of self and vampire feeding on my weaknesses I had started seeing this commonality in the cycles when I didn’t feed with my weaknesses or fear he deflates like a balloon . I was a strong independent woman who suffered trauma and abandonment and the Narssisistic vampire uses to injure me keep me on his dinner plate and Feed His nobody’s home . Everyone I know has seen the HUGE change in me to a blubbering weak dependant fearful Nobody’s home in me. I see it now having it reflected in this article ..I feel devoured and I miss me
Thank you for the Mirror.

I want out forever! Again so on point! Narssisistic nobody’s home no sense of self and vampire feeding on my weaknesses I had started seeing this commonality in the cycles when I didn’t feed with my weaknesses or fear he deflates like a balloon . I was a strong independent woman who suffered trauma and abandonment and the Narssisistic vampire uses to injure me keep me on his dinner plate and Feed His nobody’s home . Everyone I know has seen the HUGE change in me to a blubbering weak dependant fearful Nobody’s home in me. I see it now having it reflected in this article ..I feel devoured and I miss me
Thank you for the Mirror.

Gosh…i had such a similar experience! Thank you for sharing that. So strange, I am stronger knowing i can’t return to what it was, but i still entertain the possibility of having a genuine experience with this person…that doesn’t involve my broken ego. Feels good holding on with strength and compassion … and carrying on with dignity.

Thank you Jay. I agree completely and will have empathy for the narcissist. I am a professional the field of the developing ego, and i must. Also, I agree…this was a wonderful article in so may respects. I had recently been involved with an adventurer, womanizer (blindly) for a year. There is no way to put him in the void box completely … however, I do believe his experience of emptiness is what keeps him always wanting “better or more.” I shall be grateful for the year of adventure, anxiety and eventual abandonment … mainly for bringing a core relationship wound of mine to consciousness that apparently needed a great big re-look and greater healing.

Hi Henry,

it’s my pleasure.

This may help you understand what I truly believe is the criteria for healing https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/am-i-the-narcissist/

I believe the healing process for all of us is to go inside, reach, load up and release the trauma creating our ‘disorder’. This is what my NARP Program http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp allows you to do.

I hope this information helps

Much Love

Mel 🙏💕💛

Simply stated, narcissistic behavior exists on a continuum. You know this. I know this. Most here know this. You make your point not to casually blanket sweep because it’s not that simple. But if a persons narcissistic partner is higher on the spectrum of the behaviors, then rest assured that blanket sweep generalizations do apply because these types are beyond reasonable and thus beyond help.
I seriously doubt that most people online researching and reading about narcissism are dealing with lower spectrum narcissists. No. Their narc is a real full blown crazy making PITA and has driven them to despair.
Sounds like you’ve done some work to address your issues, and I commend you. But few higher spectrum narcs would ever consider working on their issues. They see no reason to change. They get what they want through their behaviors and just like the next child, what works gets repeated. And that’s where their emotional development stopped. Once you understand and know it, to deal with your nac is to frame them as a self centered child.