Comments on: Understanding The 4 Levels Of Trauma Inflicted By Narcissists https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/ Devastated by a narcissist? Melanie's Narcissism blog offers support & empowering tools to heal & thrive after narcissistic abuse, gain a new life & fulfilling relationships. Sun, 13 Jul 2025 05:47:24 +0000 hourly 1 By: Google Yorum Satın Al https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1286093 Sun, 13 Jul 2025 05:47:24 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1286093 Best thanks for sharing, visit my website: Buy Google Ads Account

]]> By: Glenn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230316 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 09:38:31 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230316 Thank you for your replies, I’m constantly in tears, just not coping at all, she does so many of the things I’ve read, all the time saying I’m doing it all, I literally work all day and then come home to her, I was constantly expected to take her out to dinner, like 4 or 5 out of 7 nights, me pay like I did for everything, if we didn’t go out 9 times out of 10 I cooked, she was lucky to work 10 hrs a week, and for most of the relationship she did no work, I’d also have to send her a love letter text every morning, and if it didn’t have enough content she’d sometimes have a go at me about it, I was happy to do it, as I loved telling her much she meant to me. After the last time we broke up, she changed her number, she never gave me the new number, but I was supposed to leave her a love letter. When I knew her number, I was expected to contact her every 2 or so hours, and if not there’d be texts with question marks, when I didn’t know her number, and only she contacted me, it could be 5 or 8 hours between calls, which is fine, but totally different to what she usually expected, it made me feel really weird to be honest

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230315 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 09:20:59 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230315 In reply to Glenn.

Hi Glenn,

that’s so great that you are coming into my free webinar http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freewebinar

Glenn, have you seen this resource of mine. It may further help you https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/am-i-the-narcissist/

Please know the addiction that you are going through and the symptoms that you are feeling as well as the confusion are completely consistent with narcissistic abuse.

Her behaviour isn’t.

Regardless of who is who in the zoo, the salvation and getting out of toxic relationship patterns is completely about going within and healing what we need to heal. As per what is discussed in this particular resource of mine.

I’m so pleased that you are coming into my webinar.

It is your time to heal Glenn.

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Glenn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230313 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 08:46:20 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230313 Hi Melanie,
I have signed up to your free webinar, I hope I’m ready, and try my best, I’ve been watching some of the videos on your fb site, some confuse me, everytime she left I was the one who always chased her, I kept thinking we could make it right, I always apologized, I’ve only ever once heard her say sorry, it actually seemed to me that she was broken, and I was always trying to fix her. I truly adore her. Some of these videos she’s watched, as things that are said, she always says I’m doing, one such video was, how a narcissist deals with a break up, it talks about the narcissist being addicted, but one of the videos you spoke on today mentions how we have an addiction to them, it’s so confusing, I basically love and loved her unconditionally, made excuses for things always justified things, I saw things from day 2 that weren’t good, literally day 2 was the only time she ever said sorry. I’m not perfect and sure I make mistakes, but I truly wasn’t doing what I was constantly accused of, I’m starting to think that maybe she did experience a narcissist in her last relationship, and she wasn’t healed, and maybe just couldn’t help accuse me of it all, I’m so confused, I’ve never felt so low in my life

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230309 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 07:32:04 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230309 In reply to Glenn.

Hi Glenn,

you are very welcome.

Please know Glenn that the truth of the person has nothing to do with their proclamations of the past.

The behaviours today and how it is affecting you is the truth of what’s really going on.

In relation to what you are going through, trying to work “her” out is going to be very difficult, because narcissist say and do things that make your head spin, and make you feel like you are going crazy. It is so hard to get salvation that way, believe you me we all tried!

I promise you this Glenn, the way home out of this pain, is to ask yourself these questions, “What is it about her and her invalidation and treatment of me, that reminds me about the way I’ve been invalidated and treated in the past?” I promise you that these people are usually not the original people who have hurt us, they are “more of the same”. And this is why the way up and out of this is to turn inwards and really investigate and heal you.

I know you may not be ready for this yet, but after not getting salvation other ways, you may decide that it’s time to go within and free yourself from this terrible trauma. When you are ready, and or have had enough of the pain, I can’t suggest the link that I shared with you enough.

I hope this helps bring you some more answers and food for thought.

My heart goes out to you Glenn, And I promise you there is a way out of this agony.

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Glenn https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230300 Mon, 27 Jan 2020 04:23:22 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230300 In reply to Melanie Tonia Evans.

Hi Melanie,
Thanks for your reply, I don’t think I mentioned, but she told me her ex was a narcissist, and after him she went to counseling and to a narcissist support group, I think she even went o a seminar you had on late last year, that’s what’s really helped confuse me, I know how she was with me was not anything I’d ever experienced, I was also constantly accused of perving, accused of going on dating sites, I just didn’t do these things, nor ever would, this girl was stunning, she was my life, I gave up everything for her, she wanted to move away to melbourne, and I said I’d go with her, my world was work then going home to her, I had to constantly take her away, we did melbourne 7 times last year, the Gold Coast, Perth. Down the coast 6 times, Bali, and I paid for it all including her spending money, before Xmas she wanted me to pay for airfares to Perth again. I didn’t have it, and she got mad at me, and as usual it’s not because I couldn’t pay, she always says it’s how I talked to her, but I’m so aware of how I do, as I’ve copped it so many times, our trip to Bali was a nightmare, I was constantly accused of perving, wasn’t even allowed to wear sunglasses, after 5 days of it, I snapped back, then I was the worse person in the world and got ignored for a day and a half, I’ve read the books on your fb page the free downloads, there’s so many things that I have experienced, then there’s things where I think it’s all me again, my mind is going crazy, I’ve never felt this way I my life. Please can you give me some advice on what I’ve just written, I’m so confused
Thank you

]]> By: Melanie Tonia Evans https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230258 Sun, 26 Jan 2020 22:18:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230258 In reply to Glenn Wilson.

Hi Glenn,

my heart goes out to you because absolutely you were describing all the symptoms of being horrifically narcissistically abused.

There is nothing healthy, caring, loving about the behaviour that you’ve been receiving.

As with all of us who were narcissistically abused the only way into emancipation, healing and true freedom from this is to turn inwards to investigate and heal the parts of you that are hooked in and trauma bonded, meaning what it is that is causing you to be totally addicted to somebody who is tearing your soul and life apart.

I cannot recommend enough looking at my NARP program to heal from this http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/narp

Please know Glenn that there are many men in the NARP community working with this healing system effectively.

We are here for you to help support you through this healing and recovery journey.

I hope this helps

Mel 🙏💕💛

]]> By: Glenn Wilson https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1230256 Sun, 26 Jan 2020 20:49:52 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1230256 Hi Melanie,
I really need your help, I’m an absolute mess, I’ve just dated a girl for the past 17 months, her her late 40’s, me early 50’s, she was constantly telling me I’m a narcissist, she was telling me her councillor says I’m a narcissist, I offered many times to go with her to her councillor, and let her meet me, talk to me, if she still had that opinion, then I’d get all the help I need. The things you outline are exactly what my partner was doing to me, The relationship has sent me broke, fractured relationships with my kids, friends, even my ex wife who I got on with very well, coparenting, as we had 2 kids together. If I couldn’t pay or didn’t do what she wanted, she’d pack half her stuff and leave me, I’d always chase her beg her to come back, she would but make me pay, I’m constantly called every name under the sun when she gets mad, which is like every 2 weeks, I literally supported her from day 1, she moved into my home, with my daughter and I, but eventually she said we had to live alone, and I had to get my daughter to move to her mum’s, which caused me problems with my daughter, and then we had to move from where we lived, we now live 1 hour away, I’m away from everyone, my home etc, since we moved here, she became so much worse, last weekend it ended and as I took her clothes to her, all of them, it got nasty, I’m a mess, literally, I’m so not coping, it feels like I’m addicted to her, the other thing is she always went to narcissist when I first met her, I don’t really understand, I’m constantly doubting myself, and was literally on egg shells for so long. I would love to be able to get your opinion, I feel like I’m going insane.
Thank you

]]> By: Michelle Markley https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/understanding-the-4-levels-of-trauma-inflicted-by-narcissists/#comment-1226314 Fri, 20 Dec 2019 12:23:58 +0000 https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/?p=7428#comment-1226314 I love your vidoes. They are like they are speaking ti me every time I watch. I left my narcissistic husband last June and went into a domestic violence shelter that following Monday. I loved the valley I lived but my kids and cousin talked me into moving back where I born which is clear across the United States. I am now in the town and state I was born but I am also continuing counseling. This is the fourth abusive marriage I had been in but the other three weren’t narcissistic. I was at the time of this last marriage and ever now divorced from him I am scared. I have no contact with him or anyone associated with him. He has tried to get into my facebook through other facebook friends. I have caught on quickly. But I am afraid he will still try to follow me where I am. My counselor here knows about narcissistic which good. Since I have been abused since I was two by my mother and continued on through my relationships with men. I have never been afraid of my other abusers. They were all emotional and mental abuse. I do have fibromyalgia and pstd among other illnesses. Your videos give me hope. I am now fifty five years old. I lost almost everything in the marriage with this narcissistic ex husband. I signed with my married name. Now I will put my maiden name on. Thank you so much for you uplifting and truthful insights.

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