I began the free 16-day email program about 10 days ago and I also did the 3Keys with you on March 6. Immediately, I felt lighter. Since then I have focused on myself every day. Sometimes the pain was heavy, but I kept on because I can feel it working. Thank you so much for being a REAL healer and for these programs!

Today I feel a BIG breakthrough of energy coursing through my body because I have 1) blocked everyone in my life, all family and neighbors and “friends” who are abusive self-absorbed gaslighters and 2) because I have begun to make better decisions. . This was difficult, and I experienced about three times in which I almost broke the no-contact with my daughter in two weeks.

But I kept three VIPs: I have kept JESUS, you, and my lawyer! And I have realized that I will get through! I have resolved to never ever deny myself again in any interaction, never again to lower myself, deny Truth, deny God, or deny ME, God’s Precious Little Julie, in order to fit in with another’s Distorted Reality.

During the Sample Quantum Healing on March 6, I felt the Shift when you said to embrace the little girl (it was me, age 7, writing at her little wooden desk by the window in snowy Pennsylvania) who immediately appeared. God bless you for revealing this! And my daughter appeared to me too in that healing as one of those needing the healing.

I will file for a contested divorce. And Jesus has told me that I will win. I will win very big! because my husband showed up again Friday night and all the flying-monkey neighbors tried to gaslight and deny he was on the property. But he is on record for violating a p.o. before! How can he or they think they can get away with this? I wrote a letter to the Landlord and I mentioned that I am in NARP healing and working on myself, asking for their cooperation and stating that if they had any questions, here’s my lawyer’s phone numbers!!!! Hahaha

Speaking of this, do you have some kind of certificate you could issue to people who complete different aspects of your programs? It could be so useful when people are in court battles. We must educate judges, prosecutors, defense attorneys, guardians ad litem, etc. Here in Virginia Narc Abuse is engrained right into the Domestic Relations Courts.

The wonderful thing is…..I don’t feel the old compulsion to talk to any of those I’ve blocked! I feel happy and free all alone. I feel that with patience and time, and my continuing to honor myself and honor the Truth, God will put it all right. I also feel like telling everyone about NARP.

My daughter showed up yesterday at my door. At first I could not recognize her through the keyhole. She came in and sat down. At first she didn’t even comprehend that she had been blocked! But she has blocked me and threatened me with blocking numerous times. Talk about an entitled narcissist, 27 years old. She is pregnant. When I explained to her gently how everyone I know who has mistreated me is now blocked……Her first words—“Mommy, can you unblock me, I might need you.”

I started to mention how I have been working on myself with NARP, and like always, my sentence was hardly even out of my mouth before she brushed it off and on to another topic.

I unblocked her after she left. But this morning woke up feeling some heaviness again. When we texted this am, her memory of yesterday’s conversation was quite different….. She texted “I don’t need you, you need me.”. She is now reblocked. I have decided not to make it easier for her to contact me. If she really wants to see me she can show up at my door until she can accept that in a healthy relationship two people need EACH OTHER. And I urged her to look at one of Dr Carter’s videos.

I know I am doing the exact right thing for her and the child she is carrying by becoming the best, healthiest me I can be and modelling it for them.

Dear Melanie, I am 59 years old. This means that 59-7=52 years-old trauma is now being resolved…..but I know that it is. And your observation that in fact the trauma can be way older than that, that we are dealing here with multiple generations of abuse, is SPOT ON.

It is so interesting that as I worked and reworked myself over the past two weeks the first trauma that showed up was me at age 7. The ones that happened more recently did not come up at first. Second those from 50 years ago, then 30, then 20….etc.

IN REVERSE ORDER!

It was stunning to realize that I had blocked many things from just a month or two ago. It was at first so sad to realize that I had become a stunted pawn……but so thrilling to see that God was faithful to show up quickly with support after my very first Quantum Healing: A job prospect the day after my first shift, a church knocking to invite me to Easter services the second day, a willingness to get up the third day, a different body language from neighbors when I stood my ground……most recently, yesterday the visit from my daughter and today, increased determination to stand my ground and fight a divorce battle which I have been avoiding for almost three years.

It is such a comfort to rest each day and wrap my Mind around the little girl I once was, to assure her every time I go to sleep that she can count on me now, that I will not deny her ever again ! To pray to Jesus with my Inner Child every day, knowing that He and Me are the Best Friends I could ever have!

Lax what do you mean they get narc supply even from miles away?
I am presently freaked out as we seem still to have a connection eve after a year split. I actually feel when he is back at home. I feel aroused. I drive passed his home and he is there. How does this ever happen? And how on earth can I stop it?

Laurie what you’ve said is so very true.
It’s all about the attachment to our parents.
It’s so hard to let these people go if you’ve been raised by a narc or worse…. a pair of narcs! I could never ever emotionally attach to my mother or father although I knew the love was there they just couldn’t show it. The same with my narc partner. And prob he me! Damage attracts damage. We were two differing ends of the same spectrum – my damage turned me empathic and his narcissistic.
It’s been over a year since we split and I still spend too much time thinking about him but he keeps using third party to trigger me (letters and accounts addressed to him at my address is the best to date).
The thing is I’m getting to slowly know another empath and feeling a different type of live beginning to grow…. a slow love. One of friendship first. It feels wobbly but healthy. I know the wobble is me. But I’m learning to tap dance soon and I have never felt so much excitement at doing something for myself. Doing YOU is so important.
This is healing.
Thank you for this community Melanie. 🥰

Hi Anais,

This may help you with your question https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/has-the-narcissist-really-moved-on-and-having-a-great-life/

And also this, which I believe is the real deeper truth about narcissists:

https://blog.melanietoniaevans.com/the-soul-contract-with-a-narcissist/

With all my heart I want to reassure you that when you do your inner Thriver Work and heal, you truly won’t care at all about his life … and the relief, when we get there, is indescribable.

Are you working with my inner transformational processes? That is the answer. http://www.melanietoniaevans.com/freecourse

I hope this helps.

Mel 🙏💕❤️

This article like all the other ones are very interesting thanks.
I just broke up with my Narcissist two months earlier.
It is super hard because i love him.
But all these articles bring me now to a question which actually starts to make me sick, it is about justice and karma.
I am very serious, not so much people as about this, and what i see for the moment is just freaky, it’s like they re just so blessed (narcissists).
Do you believe narcissists will get back in their lifes the bad they gave to people?
I know i should not focus on this but i really need to know because for the moment what i see is that they automatically have all the time a new supplu, so again love, joy, amazing sex, etc..they have great relationships in general with their families, children, social life, friends, people admire and love them because they re so charming and nobody knows their shadows…so i don’t find they get back the reap the evil they sowed..
You see what i mean, i find the Universe reward them at the contrary, and this i don t understand and make me lose faith actually, they lie, cheat, can be violent but they always are surrounded by women beautiful, empathetic, devoted, sexy, nice relationships etc..they re always lucky !

is there a justice or a karma? i don’t see it for those men

What is your experience?

I really hope you can answer me because it really cost me energy and doesn t help me to recover
Because those interrogations really make me lose faith.

Thank you !

Hi marilyn, I am now in the situation of living with a N husband of 25 years, who for 23 of those years was the perfect husband and we had a wonderful marriage (or so it seemed to me). Now I have to live in the same house (farm) with him as the finances are not yet sorted and we are completely enmeshed financially. My question to you, if you can help me is How do you do it?? How do you detach and live under the same roof? My husband found ‘happiness’ with a Thai prostitute and continues to go to Thailand to play golf and find his ‘happiness’ but wants to continue on with our lovely lifestyle here at home. It is doing my head in with his blaming me and my family for his infidelity, his rejection and then hoovering of me – but the house will be in my name soonish so I need to live here. Can you give me any advice as at times the pain is unbearable.